Effective Tantra Breathing Technique to Prolong Sexual Intercourse
In Kundalini Tantra Yoga we don’t try to suppress or sublimate sexual energy, instead we look to raise it’s vibration so that our sexual charge can be utilized for nourishing our higher centers (chakras). There are many Kundlaini Tantra Yoga Kriyas (sets), breathing exercises and meditations to help raise and channel our sexual energies. In due course I will provide these techniques on Mastery of Meditation, but in this article I want to explore the closely related school of Sexual Tantra which is the application of Kundalini Tantra Yoga with regard to sex itself.
In this variation of Kundalini Tantra Yoga, the sex act is utilized to not only arouse and intensify one’s sexual excitement in order to reach heightened states of eroticism, but, much more importantly, sex is used to reach and experience altered states of consciousness.
Of the many requirements and prerequisites for practicing Sexual Tantra the following 2 are most important:
Key Requirements for Practicing Sexual Tantra:
1. Loving Partner: Most important for the practice of this branch of Tantra is to have a loving, understanding and hopefully interested partner. Sexual Tantra is not really about just having sex, although you may end up doing that a lot :-). It is about exploring this communion between the male (Shiva) and female (Shakti) manifestations in order to reverse genesis. In other words, from One there came many (in this case 2) and in Sexual Tantra, via sex, Shiva and Shakti merge such that the many return to One.
2. Sexual Control: If you want to go very far in the exploration of Sexual Tantra, you better learn to master your sexual passions. There are many facets to this mastery of your sexual nature and this article is to help the male partner master his ejaculatory response during sexual intercourse.
Tantric Breathing Technique to Prolong Sexual Intercourse:
The following technique is a variation of Kapalbhati Pranayama and it is simple yet very effective.
During sexual intercourse, as the excitement peaks for the male and he approaches orgasm he should begin to do Kapalbhati Pranayama through the mouth. Specifically, he should puff air out of his mouth while pulling in the stomach muscle sharply with each exhalation. As in Kapalbhati, allow the stomach to relax for the recoil inhalation to take place. This rapid puffing out of air through the mouth changes the blood chemistry and will retard ejaculation by easing the blood supply to the male sexual organ.
As with any skill, practice makes perfect, but unlike the grind that practice usually is, I suspect you won’t mind working on this one so much :-).
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Tantric sex includes ejaculation control. This is an essential skill to master so that during lovemaking, instead of ejaculating at the first peak of energy which a lot of men do, they can learn instead to peak with that energy and use techniques to spread that energy throughout the entire body. Then as the urgency for ejaculation subsides, continue to make love again until reaching another peak - much higher than the first peak and then he can use techniques to peak and spread the energy again. As he Continues to do this, reaching higher and higher peaks of ecstasy and at the same time his beloved is feeling that energy and is being warmed up to higher orgasmic states. Ejaculation control is a skill that can be learned like any other skill. With the guidance of reading “sexual secrets for men: a man can learn to enjoy more and more pleasure without the urgency to come.
In Taoist sexuality writings they say, the woman is like water and the man is like fire. What normally happens is the water puts out the fire too quickly, the man is left exhausted and the woman is frustrated. They say there are in fact nine levels of a woman’s orgasm, nine levels that she goes through before she’s fully nourished sexually before her Shakti, her sexual spiritual energy is fully awakened. Most women have their first orgasm at level four; the man ejaculates and the other five levels are rarely reached. We as conscious men, as extraordinary lovers need to be able to make love as long as necessary to satisfy our woman and at the same time reach higher orgasmic states ourselves.
There are two tantric sex exercises, two techniques that will help with ejaculation control. One is P.C. Muscle exercises and the other is the breath.
These exercises are also beneficial for women to extend their orgasmic response, taking more pleasure for herself and to give more pleasure to her partner. The P.C. muscle is the major muscle of contraction in both sexes for orgasm, so strengthening it increases sensations of pleasure.
The P.C. muscle extends from the base of the spine where it is connected to the coccyx, to the front of the body where it is connected to the pubic bone.
A good way to locate the P.C. or love muscle for yourself is that next time you are urinating try to stop the flow of urination in mid stream. This will give you the feeling of activating the muscle. Then later on in your own private space practice tensing and releasing the muscle several times so that you get the sense of how to do it you can know. It is a good idea to incorporate these P.C. Muscle exercises into your daily routine, associating them with some particular activity you do independent of your lovemaking sessions. Then these exercises will become habitual and you won’t have to set aside a special time to practice. For example you can practice while you drive or travel too and from work. No one will know you are doing it and it can be quite enjoyable. One of our friends in fact, Helen said she started doing this every day for a month while driving to work but unfortunately she had to stop because she said the sensations were getting so strong that she couldn’t concentrate at work because she couldn’t think about anything else at work other than sex and she couldn’t wait to get home to her lover.
And once a man has a strong P/C he can spread the sexual energy up and through his body during lovemaking so he can experience wave after wave of peak pleasure without coming so that he can make love for as long as he chooses, maybe even hours!
Another secret is working with your breath. What most men do as excitement builds up is hold their breath as they get close to climax. If men are to reverse the flow of sexual energy the best way is to breathe slowly, deeply and rhythmically.
For women to enhance your own ecstasy you can us the P.C. Muscle and breath exercise also. You can do this at peaks of energy to spread the orgasmic energy throughout the body. Another way you can enhance your pleasure is to mentally trace or visualise the energy running up the inside of the legs through the calf, the knees and thighs up into the vagina. This is especially good to do if the mind is wondering off onto other things while making love; it helps focus the energy.
Some women need to focus it rather than to spread it and this can amplify the orgasmic response you already have and is especially good for women who find orgasm elusive. What you do is to keep squeezing the P.C. Muscles without spreading the energy. To squeeze the muscles and to feel the charge building up and keep squeezing the P.C. again. It is important to release and bear down as well; this also acts as a focus. Playing with these elements of breath, P.C. Muscle, visualisation, as well as movement and sound you can extend your orgasmic potential to one, two, three or even more orgasms. All women are capable of extending their orgasmic potential. The woman’s Shakti is unlimited. The Shakti is the sexual spiritual energy of which women are the custodians. As the Shakti awakens so does the priestess, the healer, the empowerer and the goddess of love within.
A woman’s sexual awakening can propel her on a spiritual path. Men may practice celibacy and achieve spiritual enlightenment, but according to the Tantric texts women’s enlightenment is facilitated by the electric charge of her orgasmic nature.
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Sex Education
The act of bringing a child into creation is almost as significant as being human. You give of your self completely. Wanting to be fully present emotionally, providing for them materially and even physically when they fall down and skin a knee. You are also ‘there’ for them spiritually by introducing them to your understanding faith and what it means to you and how you practice your beliefs in day to day life. Ultimately, you are also their first teacher about sexuality. Whether you want to be or not.
It is imperative we begin treating children like the capable adults we want them to be. In a “civilized” culture, how ignorant is it to believe that by not educating our youth honestly about sex that they will ever have the tools to behave responsibly? Knowledge and information is power and my treating kids like mushrooms, keeping them in the dark and feeding them lots of bullshit is NOT the best decision. That plan didn’t work out so well for us, our parents or our granparents. Yet there is still a significant number of parents who believe it is somehow “holy” to operate this way. Yes it is holy infact it is literally full of holes.
If we allow our own sex-negative upbringing to run our lives unchecked, we are unconsciously choosing the messages we convey to our own children. Early on most children adopt some mixture of a fear/guilt/shame around sexuality. They compensate with tension and fear as they embark on their first self-pleasuring experience. Imprinted with these emotions, they are affected even as adults. Although mentally they know pleasure is not bad, yet because of these emotional blockages, it remains difficult to reclaim the potential that is naturally accessible.
So what now? Examine you own sexual issues. How are they manifesting in your life and in the lives of your children? Are you committed to transforming your own limitations and belief systems? If you have children, or plan to it is imperative that you seek guidance in order to break the chain of dysfunction. Our hang-ups are handed down from generation to generation unconsciously. The first step is being conscious of their existence and the next is to take responsibility and seek out a qualified professional or appropriate form of therapy.
Communicate with your children openly when they ask about sex. Be straight and you don’t need to volunteer more than is appropriate but BE HONEST. Share openly when telling them the pros, cons and the responsibility that comes along with sexual contact. If you know you have unresolved issues call on God/Goddess or your angels in order for healing yourself and offering wisdom and strength when speaking to your children. Emphasizing the good feelings and WHY they are ‘good’ and also speak candidly about the negative things you or others you know have experienced and why is feels bad to you or people you know.
Educate, especially your younger children, on how to set boundaries and limits. Share about the alternatives to sex that can be energetically fulfilling without removing clothes or even being in the same room as another person. Teach them safe ways to start exploring like Pranayama or deep full breathing, sounding, singing, toning, chanting, dancing, exercising, yoga and meditative connection. Most importantly, let them know their own bodies are like divine sanctuaries and should always be treated with reverence. Just like a church or temple.
Be a positive role model. You don’t need to be sexual while your children are watching. But show them the loving affection that you share with your partner. Don’t let your own inhibition stop you from allowing them to hear your deep breaths and pleasurable sounds at night. Show them love is not a dark secret to be ashamed of but a part of life to be celebrated. If we do let sex and sexual energy remain a dangerous mystery, its darkness will be even more alluring to the naive seeker.
Finally and ultimately the most critical is to talk to school boards, officials and any educational programs to which you have access. Get together with other conscious parents and demand classes that go beyond bodily functions and really deal with the psychological and emotional aspects of sex. My vision is that we can enlighten our children and empower them to make right choices.
All cultures and religions have some form of mystic sexual teachings. By embracing this worldview, we can teach them about the sacredness and significance of sexuality without excluding any religion or god. In our history, we have spent hundreds of years trying to keep minorities, women and social reformists down by attempting to hide knowledge from them. We now we see the great contribution and empowerment these very people add to our society. Our children are sages, for they lack all the limitations and misconceptions that we have for years adopted as the truth. It’s us that should be asking them about sex.
Tantra: A Goldmine of Sacred Enlightenment
When you hear the word “tantra”, what comes to mind? A bubble bath for two, a candlelight massage, and a sensual escapade? Some forms of the media often present only Tantra (also known as Sacred Sexuality) as an exotic version of sex.
So, what’s happened to the “Sacred” in Sacred Sexuality. No wonder people are confused.
The authentic Sacred Tantra approach empowers you to utilize your sexual energy, passion, and sensuality to ecstatically elevate your personal spiritual journey, as well as your shared relationship experiences. Your sexual energy is meant to be in service of your spiritual path, not the other way around. This is consistent with the way that Tantra was originally taught by the masters, and it still works wonders today!
Tantra involves quieting of the mind so that we can hear our souls speaking, rousing the sexual energy in the body not for a quick release but for slow movement of energy throughout the body causing deep relaxation, body-wide sensation and purging of too much “mind chatter.”
The Old Masters guided students of Tantra in how to use the heightened states of sexual pleasure as spiritual fuel to expand beyond the sensual realm into higher consciousness and finer energy for spiritual purposes.
Traditionally until the mid 1960’s, Tantra was taught as a spiritual journey enjoining with the Divine. Techniques such as meditaton, quantum touch, guided imagery, sounding and breath work were the foundation of Tantra.
Modern Tantra has morphed into a sensual practice with often little or no mention of the more evolved spiritual transformational aspects. In fact, most people that believe they know what Tantra is only know of the sexuality and sensuality aspects, and aren’t aware in the primary spiritual orientation and teachings.
The main reason, perhaps, is that our culture is very focused on sex (especially in the media) and yet is very confused and uneasy with sex, and therefore has a compelling need for sexual healing. Because of this focus, the public is very interested in the sexual aspects of Tantra and for the teachers of Tantra, “sex sells!”
The result is that Tantra has become significantly misrepresented. Originally, sex was a small part of Tantra. Now it’s the only thing that many think of when they hear the word Tantra. Originally the emphasis was TANTRIC sex; now it has become Tantric SEX. The essential elements of ancient authentic Tantra (meditation, daily practice, the philosophy and spiritual context, etc.) have taken a back seat to the sexual practices.
Tantra can help heal the past and free a person from old disappointments, offer tools for connecting deeply with others, inspire one to live each moment in a more conscious optimistic way, and shift vibration to magnetize more love and more miracles!
We can begin to tap into a wealth of information, practices and inspiration to explore, deepen and learn about our natural sexuality and how it integrates with our natural spiritual essence. This integration is the beginning of the inner alchemy that the ancient Tantric masters refer to; it can take your ability to love and be loved to the highest level, thus offering the possibility of experiencing more joy in life and deepening the connection with the Divine.
If practiced regularly the skills of Sacred Tantra will make life richer and enhance the ability to bring one’s depth of being to the surface, for more self love and confidence, and for more loving, harmonious relationships. As we all know, most of the pain and suffering in our lives comes from difficulties with relationships and from a lack of love.
If learned and practiced in a safe, respectful, loving environment the teachings can provide valuable ways to fill this lack and offer a lasting remedy - a huge elevation in one’s ability to create and sustain loving relationships!
Can we embrace the sacred in Sacred Sexuality? Are we truly ready for a level of Sacred Sexuality that goes beyond the desire for new, exotic sexual “kicks?” Or will the spiritual and sacred continue to be left out and the public be offered ‘hot tub Tantra’, because that’s what sells.
Most people want what works, especially what will bring more love, pleasure, joy, and harmony into their lives, particularly their love life. Authentic Tantra can provide much more for those who are seeking a deeper, more profound experience of their sacred energies and consciousness.
Tantra and Tantric Sex - An Overview
Tantra is a spiritual path and a path of sacred sexuality, whereby you come to experience the union of your sexual and spiritual energies. In so doing, you experience the divinity in yourself, your partner and in all of existence. Tantra is concerned with the transformation of energy. It directs us to transform our life-force energy and sexual energy into spiritual energy for the purpose of spiritual enhancement and enlightenment. Within the context of Tantra, sexual relationships and experiences are grist for the mill of our spiritual advancement – which includes creating a bond of sacred love with our partner.
Tantra is an ancient tradition with its roots in Hinduism and Buddhism. It came to America and the west, pioneered in a new form, known as Neo- Tantra. Its resurgence can be attributed mainly to the enlightened Tantric master Osho Rajneesh and his disciples – although others, such as the kria-yoga Tantricas played a crucial role too. Osho Rajneesh underplayed the emphasis on mantras, positions and ritual and placed it on spiritual consciousness, and a unique combination of meditation, non-attachment, risk-taking, wildness and spontaneity. The issue was to go deep, find your true core and express it in its fullness – both in life and in your sexuality.
Tantric Love-Making
The Tantric couple approaches their love-making without performance concerns, goals or agendas – other than to taste fully the essence and form of each moment. They are not concerned with the pleasures or pains of the past. They are not anticipating the future, longing for or reaching toward this or that experience. They are not moving towards orgasm. Only this moment exists for them and they let it fill their senses, surrendering to it completely, and the next moment rises inevitably out of the fullness of their experience. Their love making is slower, calmer, and more meditative. They are in no hurry to get anywhere. There is nowhere to go but here – and now here – and now here. They attune their breathing and circulate their sexual energy together – either in synchrony or in counter-point to each other. By this means they build a powerful charge of subtle energy. By focusing their attention on their conscious intention and their breathing and by visualizing of the movement and direction of this subtle energy, they are able to draw their life-force and sexual energy up their central meridian to the higher spiritual centers in the brow (the third eye) and the crown, thereby igniting their spiritual centers and uniting their spiritual and sexual energies. Through the same means they are able to transmit these energies to their partner or receive them from their partner, in one of a variety of different configurations. These include circling the energy between them and sending it back and forth in a U-shaped dimension. In so doing, they create the Circle of Bliss that Tantra talks about – in which the lovers experience a powerful force of light traveling within and uniting their two bodies. This force can become so expansive that they disappear into the light either individually or together, and so become one with each other and all of existence.
There are a number of pre-requisite for Tantra without which no Tantra exists.
• The first has to do with the relationship between the partners. This relationship is one of the Sacred Heart Space. When a couple is in the Sacred Heart Space, the partners acknowledge and experience the sacred dimension in both in their own self and in their partner and pay homage to the Godhead within. There is a term in Tantra called Namaste. It means: “The God in me salutes the God in you. I bow down to the divinity within you. I honor your high being.” Thus, in Tantra, it is from a place of high honoring, reverence and cherishing that two people meet - whether or not they are lovers.
• The second prerequisite is to be totally present in the moment – sensing and feeling into it - and out of your mind. Thinking is the anesthetic of the senses. When you are fully aware, with your consciousness in your senses, and are out of your mind, you experience much more, with far greater intensity and vividness. You are more alive, both in your life in general and in your sensuality and sexuality in particular.
• The third pre-requisite is to celebrate life regardless of what life brings. To be Tantric is to say “yes” to life with gratitude.. This requires that we not be attached to our preferences of how we want things to be but rather to find the blessing in the “what is” of life and flow with it.
• The fourth pre-requisite is to be able to run energy – to be able to move and direct your life-force sexual energy, spreading it across your body, so that your whole body becomes alive, and to be able to send it up your central meridian and interweave it with your spiritual energy. In doing so you are able to experience yourself in a profoundly heightened spiritual and sexual state simultaneously, thereby weaving together these energies and centers. When love-making, a Tantric couple must be able to circulate this transformed energy between their bodies, which, in an expanded ecstatic state, they will experience as full body orgasm
It can be said that Tantra teaches you how to use sexual energy to achieve altered states of consciousness that create a union between the earthly and the divine — between the sexual and the spiritual. This is achieved by slowing down time, which is done by slowing down the breath and silencing the mind, and by being absolutely present to what is being experienced in this slowed down time. By focusing your attention on your senses, you become so attentive to what you are experiencing you begin to attune to the energetic realm within yourself and your partner. You use your attention to intensify, expand, and direct your energy to different places in your own and your partner’s body. In so doing you can create a circle of bliss between yourself and your partner and can now generate ecstatic states at will. Tantra is best taught through direct experience of being with an adept.
“Tantra” truly is.
Tantra is a body (books, oral and written traditions, asanas, techniques etc) of information originating in India somewhere around 4,000 years ago.
Yes, it can be very effective for overcome “sexual dysfunction” “impotency” “pre-mature ejaculation” and is definitely “artistic” in it’s approach to enhancement, as well as healing for the psyche, mind and physical body. But it is many, many things and has limitless benefits. Deeply relaxing, integrating sex and spirit, making intimacy and connection with another more profound, therapeutic/sensual and intuitive tantric massage are also elements I explore with students.
I do not engage in prostitution or any illegal activities and my sessions are not for the purpose of sexual gratification but rather to expand your awareness of your body’s inherent abilities to feel pleasure, to experience the power of the calm and centered mind, and overcome and release limits to bliss, such as fear, shame and guilt.
Being very sexual myself ( I think I am a sex addict with an enormous sexual appetite that gets me into lots of trouble) I am wondering if this would be a way to heal myself of this. . . or if it would just further it ? I’m not sure what to make of all this.
Tantric sessions may prove very helpful in this regard because the focus is on relaxing, having no goals and communing with your partner rather than “getting them off” it is a place that we all knew when we were kids, but as soon as we adapted modern society’s hang-ups and issues we denied ourselves full access to huge amounts of joy and ecstasy.
The Business of Bliss
The Relationship Between Tantra and Raw Food
Coffee, cold drinks, snacks.
Cocaine. Heroin. Hash. Speed. Crystal. Ecstasy.
Centerfolds, designer clothes, new toys, chocolate, fast red cars.
We are constantly seeking bliss, satisfaction, happiness. There is knowledge of this state of being planted in our hearts, in our every living cell. It is the magnetic, instinctive home we are always driven to return to in almost every waking moment.
Bliss is our birthright.
If bliss is our birthright, why then does it seem so far away sometimes? Why do we seem to need such synthetic and/or external things to just barely taste it for fleeting moments? We continue the chase, masterbating the hope that it can be achieved through our ever-elusive next conquest, our next fixation… and even then it seems that one fix only weakly medicates the side effects or come-down of the last.
Does the never-ending cigarette exist?
I am in the business of bliss… the brand of bliss that has no come-down, is sustainable indefinitely, carcinogen-free, and not externally derived. Is this a ridiculous claim? Maybe for some…
They come to me one by one in grown up clothes, full of questions rooted in determined logic, emanating from the conceptual mind. They have exhausted all the synthetic and external choices looking for bliss, and this has finally led them to my door. They have torn open all the shiny packaging and were left still hungry. They do not know how they know, but they know that there is a more exalted bliss than the one that is born from a double-mocha. They instinctively sense that this bliss, fueled by a deeper source, can live as a constant, inextinguishable flame, and it does not require any synthetic or external vehicle to access it. They come to me for the map leading inwards.
They come to me, these aspirants, and I stand guard as they let their armor melt away to become initiated into the mysteries. Eyes become soft and wet. They take on the smile of a newborn as they reveal that most guarded part of themselves that seeks to give and receive love in a state of transcendence. Ironically, as they learn to genuinely release self-gratification, they experience a profound new bliss that may have previously been beyond the scope of their imagination. These womyn and men leave cracked open, happy, and reconnected to their essential ecstatic nature. They have a new, yet ancient light in their eyes. (This has just been my experience thus far. If you ever seek out and find your special teacher, come naked… suspending both belief and disbelief… without expectations or attachments to another’s story. Come as soft as a virgin.)
The only other occasion I’ve witnessed such intense, prolonged, transcendent ecstatic and orgasmic energy (without even necessarily a conventional orgasm) is through the use of chemical ecstasy, the drug. It is beautiful to watch this energy in its pure and freely sustainable form, free from the grinding, synthetic chemical edge and subsequent crash.
There are many different paths to bliss and I am just one of many different kinds of teachers. I call myself a teacher, but in truth I only help someone to rediscover the answers and treasures that have always been inside their own ribs.
I serve as a human dakini, a complex symbol embedded within Tantric mysticism. The complete definition cannot be contained in words, so I will spare you the long-winded, yet ultimately insufficient esoteric babble. I will give you the oversimplified version: I am a guide, artist, and intuitive teacher, though not a guru. I facilitate a very personal journey deep into the heart of Tantric practice. To truly know the dakini, however, is to feel the warmth of her breath, to hear her whispered words directly.
What is Tantra? Contrary to popular belief, Tantra is not a religion with a set of dogmatic beliefs to adopt, nor is it a strictly sexual practice. Tantra is a yoga, spiritual path, and vehicle of self actualization that has stretched over many millenia into countless lineages which can have certain fundamental principles in common. It is an exacting science of harnessing and refining the raw creative force, or kundalini, inherent in the spirit, psyche, and physical body of human beings. In the same breath, Tantra is an organic, magical, and infinite art… ultimately surpassing any limiting definition. I can say, however, that the practice is founded on the motivation of expanding and nurturing our awareness, compassion, and joy for the benefit of all sentient beings. I know, I know… this sounds a little fluffy, but – hey, why not? The struggle for world domination gets so stressful and lonely, no?
Tantric practice and ritual can include pranayama, subtle-body yoga, yoga asana (postures), meditation, tummo (the practice of generating internal heat), physical connection, verbal communication, all forms of artistic expression, wild dancing and singing, feasting, and standing at the brink of madness, among many other fun activities. This path is the exact opposite of self-mortification (the denial or repression of the body and the senses), though it still is not a path of hedonism or wreckless indulgence. Tantra is a journey of divine transcendence by practicing meditative awareness in the face of artful stimulation and manipulation of the senses. Endorphins, seratonin, adrenalin, retinal photoreceptors, and patterns of brain and nerve activity are all part of the physiological palette with which the Tantrika paints… all the while with the realization that it is all just a painting.
Tantric practice is also known for its healing capabilities, especially relevant to modern Westerners. Fruit of the practice can manifest as profound healing emotionally, spiritually, sexually, and physically. Results vary according to each individual.
Tantra is the cultivation of our selves into more loving beings. It is the weaving of contradictory aspects of our selves into a harmonious whole. I will stop… these are just more half-empty words that do not do the experience justice. These words and the words of all books on the subject are, to some extent, riddles and euphemistic dry seeds that will only spring to life behind the metaphoric doors of the teacher’s temple. Ultimately, the essence of Tantra can only be truly known by direct, raw experience, initially with another experienced practitioner.
The entire being is a conduit for the transmission of Tantra. Here enters the relevance of raw food: I find that I am the most effective, sensitive, and powerful conduit when I am nourished by raw, organic, vegan food.
So how then, when I am eating exclusively raw, organic food, does it help me to be a better conduit? Eating 100% raw has certain side effects, but this information does not come from the results of any extensive clinical studies as the idea doesn’t seem to be too popular with the pharmaceutical companies that generally fund such endeavors. These side effects, however, are well known to many who have experienced the diet in a well balanced way for any sustained period. In other words, raw food (especially in combination with yoga and any amount of naked time in the sun) is the best high on the planet. But please, don’t take my word for it. Conduct your own experiment. These lovely side effects can include…
intensely heightened senses (even colors get brighter)
vastly increased energy
decreased anxiety
increased creativity, mental clarity, attention span
diminished unhealthy cravings
decreased need for sleep and better sleep
increased patience and sense of calm
glowing skin
a far more delicious, yet less compulsive, sexuality
a stronger, faster, leaner, more beautiful body
a more delicious natural body smell/taste
Raw food is also known for its own healing properties. I know personally numerous individuals who had suffered various physical and mental/emotional ailments who were either deemed hopeless or completely failed by mainstream Western medicine and psychology. They now attribute their recovery to a raw food life style.
Raw food nourishment adds a new dimension to my existence. My whole human experience becomes dramatically more lucent. In addition to the above listed benefits, there are many more for which no words can do justice.
This diet also supports certain spiritual functions. Meditation becomes almost effortless due to the increased mental clarity and tranquility. Practicing yoga asana becomes more of a natural and constant drive rather than a discipline. Ever see a freak holding their leg over their head and breathing deep while waiting for the bus? Chances are it’s a raw food junky. Compassion and altruism grow and deepen naturally, without pretension. I am less attached to my own self-gratification as I am so deeply nourished and, thus, not unconsciously engaged in the vicious cycle of constantly seeking some kind of food stimulant/depressant or mental distraction to medicate the last poison I may have ingested. I am far more aware of the welfare of others, as I have the increased mental and emotional energy for it. I consider myself a scientist and skeptic, but I have found that “living in the raw” actually nurtures what could be called psychic abilities. This may sound far-fetched to the uninitiated and must be experienced first hand to truly grasp. I get sensitive beyond anything I’d previously known, to the point where it feels as if I become somewhat of a human x-ray, and can peer through another’s skin into their very heart and mind. Ordinary human interactions become more rich and luminous.
Raw food is the greatest drug. Raw food feeds my practice and helps me to be a better teacher of these beautiful, ancient arts. Both Tantra and raw food are vehicles that can bring the body to new levels of extreme sensitivity, awareness, and experience, thus creating a powerfully synergistic combination.
I do not claim that the path of raw food and Tantra is the answer for everything. I believe that there is no one answer for everything that’s right for everyone. It’s a human drive to take a moment of perfection or a blissful discovery and make a religion or set of rules out of it. This is one manifestation of attachment. It is also dogma. Dogma is so seductive, to think that it will excuse us finally from the cumbersome task of having to think, to be fresh and fluid in gauging what the right course of action is in the ever-organic present moment. But then again… maybe having no answer is not the answer! All I can give you is the story of my own experience and the discovery that raw food and Tantra are my own personal never-ending cigarette. If it resonates with you, then take something from it.
As I am struggling to concentrate on this piece of writing, trying very hard to say something profound and intelligent, my three year old son is becoming a distraction. He is gnawing on his third apple, and is tenaciously demanding hugs, kisses, cuddling, and my participation in one of his favorite sports… eye gazing. He is standing with his arms wide open and chanting his new favorite phrase that he picked up from some girlfriends today… “I want to be one with you.” I was getting frustrated and kept trying to refer this warm little guru to his crayons and coloring book.
I’m done. Good luck in your own grand experiment, fellow beings. I’m going to cuddle and eat apples with my baby, and nurture bliss now.
Can a Man Really Become Multi-Orgasmic?
I get asked this question a lot. For the record, the answer is Ohhhh Yes!!! From the tantric perspective, orgasm is not a goal or completion of sex, but rather an aroused physical and emotional state that literally can be experienced throughout one’s entire being. The longer one lingers in this aroused state of excitement, the more energy and life force they can absorb and radiate. A man may have multiple orgasms without ejaculating and yet actually feel energized in the afterglow. As a woman, I can only tell you that it’s extraordinarily satisfying to be with a man who can continue to ride wave upon wave of pleasure with me. It creates a deeper and profound feeling of union.
The techniques that assist one in developing these skills can be learned and mastered with practice. Physiologically, it is possible for a man to have orgasm without ejaculating. Sadly, it is also possible for a man to ejaculate without much physical pleasure at all! Orgasm and ejaculation are functions that are activated by separate parts of the nervous system. Although they often do occur simultaneously, each of these functions can be experienced independent of one another. To a man this means prolonged and multiple orgasms are possible without an ejaculation.
During ejaculation, sleep hormones are produced and released in the brain. An immense amount of proteins, vitamins, minerals and amino acids as well as vital energies are lost in the ejaculate. Although austere Taoists such as Mantak Chia, author of the best selling book, “The Multi-Orgasmic Male” may disagree, I believe that this depletion factor does not mean that a man should never ejaculate except to procreate; but rather to do so with consciousness and wisdom. When a man ejaculates, if he plants his seed along with an intentional thought or vision, it becomes a conscious conception; whether it’s for a baby or an empowering state that one can conjure and imprint, it is infused with the creative life force.
A non-ejaculatory type of orgasm for a man can occur repeatedly without him feeling exhaustion. Once a man comes and “spills his seed” he’s usually spent; especially if he is past the age of 35 when his hormone production begins to slow down. Tantric practices offer a man the ability to maintain a level of heightened arousal with numerous peaks and multiple dimensions of exhilarating pleasure. Many men find this to be more satisfying. The key is to be able to be excited and relaxed at the same time. On the “pleasure scale” of one to ten, a man must learn to maintain a level seven (which is heaven) for as long as he desires. Breathing and movement exercises can assist one in opening up to feeling fabulously aroused while calm and centered at the same time. Orgasm is deep like the ocean, we cannot control it, yet we can learn to ride the waves and experience great pleasures and the immense benefits that it brings.
Depending on a man’s health, his age and other conditions, frequent ejaculation can be depleting. With tantric methods he can learn to actually re-absorb his vital essences and become empowered by them. When a man doesn’t ejaculate during orgasm, he is able to effectively move the energy and fill his body with a highly charged and oxygenated life force. Through the simple techniques that Tantra teaches, a man can reach an orgasmic state that satisfies on a deep and peaceful level. In fact, men who don’t release after sustaining high levels of pleasure often feel energized and rejuvenated afterwards. This expanded state can last for days and can lead to a more refined sensitivity towards pleasure. This profound experience can be enjoyed solo, or with a partner. With proper guidance and practice, men often find a tantric orgasm more pleasurable and satisfying than an orgasm with release.
When a man experiences multiple orgasms it awakens him to feel a very similar experience to a woman’s sensations. Men have often reported to me feelings of pleasure that rise to their heart with a lightness and glowing warmth that radiates throughout their body. Men who are multi-orgasmic have the potential to become more emotionally intimate and able to join with a woman in conscious sexual bliss. When a man discovers his ability to relax into pleasure, it takes him to a new level that can only be understood through direct experience. Relaxing into pleasure is a gateway that can open him up to realizing his full spectrum of orgasmic states.
As a Certified Tantra Educator I can assist you to discover what is possible and appropriate for you. Ultimately it is your choice - Do you want to lose the power of this dynamic force or cultivate it and discover the full range of what’s available to you as a multi-orgasmic man?
Q: What is Tantra?
A: Tantra is a body of information that comes from ancient India during a period of time when people understood the power of sexuality and regarded their sexual energy as just another powerful force to be used in daily life. It was just as important during those times to be versed in that art as it was to be good at your career, to raise children, play sports, or to go to church. The techniques I use help people to integrate their sexuality with the rest of life, so the sexual aspect is no longer something to be ashamed of but a force to heal yourself and bring more creative, spiritual, sensual, magical energy to your daily life.
Q: How many sessions will I need and how often should I come in?
A: There is no set number of sessions that you should have. You will learn techniques that will benefit you and that you can incorporate in to your life after the very first session. It depends on you personally. I don’t ever tell people they have to come a certain number of times. Some people experience it out of curiosity and find they love it, but it isn’t a path for everyone. I love my dedicated students, they become my teachers and friends. It always has to be people who are committed to transformation and open to really experience all of life’s emotions. Some clients come every week, because they really get the value of this work, and they want to be masters.
I have a few clients that I’ve been seeing for years and years. Those are the relationships that are especially wonderful, because we are truly learning from each other and watching tremendous growth take place, both in us individually and as a Tantric love team.
Q: Is this counseling?
A: Counseling only addresses one level the mind. You can go around in your head all day and you will still have the same issues, all you will get is maybe a better understanding of them. This works on a body and spiritual level as well as the mental. So it addresses the physical imprints, and communicates directly with your soul to find out what action needs to occur in order for a healing to happen, as well as finding out how to support that opening after the revelation.
Q:Is this full service?
A: I am not a gas station. And I don’t make any promises to people as far as what is or isn’t going to happen during a session, because I honestly never know. Each session is different because I tune into each person’s body to find what their individual needs are, which can often be very different from what their expectations are.
I’m interested in working with people who have open minds and can release their self limiting picturess. Tantra is about sharing love and energy without goals or agendas. I do what feels good and appropriate to me for each individual session, and I can’t say what that looks like until afterwards.
Q: What do you wear during a session?
A: I have no hang ups about my body. I may in various states. Either topless or nude or in sensual clothing, a bra and sarong. Again, I just go by my intuition, and what feels appropriate.
Q: Should I work with several different goddesses or should I just stick with one?
A: There are definitely advantages to both. Working with several teachers and attending a variety of workshops and events gives you a broader perspective of what Tantra really is. Every single teacher I have studied with has a completely different approach and focus and a unique way of presenting it. When you find a teacher you like you’ll want to stick with her because there is a depth and richness in the intimacy that is an essential part of Tantra. If you find yourself wanting to flit around to lots and lots of different Goddesses, it could be because you don’t feel you are ready for that level of deep connection.
Tantra, Men and Sexual Healing
Two years ago I wrote an article on women and sexual healing which was published in the Kali issue of the Tantra magazine. Men responded very warmly to the article, echoing women in feeling disenfranchised and sexually unfulfilled. I felt moved to write about men out of a sense of personal responsibility in furthering our common healing while cultivating an awareness of mutuality between genders. My purpose is to explore how men have also been wounded. I am aware of the dimension of the subject matter and that I can only barely scratch the surface yet that’s a start.
Although I have worked privately with over a thousand men as an instructor of basic Tantric and Taoist practices and as a sexual healer and that I ;have loved many men in my life including six younger brothers, I also must admit that it is with a limited confidence that I approach the subject of male sexual woundings because I am not in a man’s body. I can’t access the same cellular memory that I do when I talk about women. Nevertheless I have seen, felt and heard men’s woundings and the unnecessary suffering that results from having a penis.
Attempting to understand how a man experiences himself as a sexual being requires that we take a closer look at how we’ve all been wounded. We’ve all been victims of a socialization and discrimination process which defines our sexual identities and roles. We are seen only as either a “man” or a “woman”. Eventually I came to understand how gender roles hurt everyone. Before being seen as a human being with very individual characteristics and choices, we are being labeled by our genitals as a male or a female and treated accordingly within our culture.
To be a “man” in most cultures requires the “person with a penis” to be a performer and provider. Men are trained and conditioned for these roles from an early age. The core of this macho training is a denial of the full range of emotions and body feelings. As Robert Bly says: “Contemporary business life allows competitive relationships only, in which the major emotions are anxiety, tension, loneliness, rivalry and fear. Having no soul union with other men can be the most damaging wound of all. Much personal power is given away in the process of denying one’s true feelings.”
Competition, success, ownership and external rewards become the foundation of Superman pseudo power.
Since emotions are categorized as “something for girls” the young boy learns very early that:
A. it’s not okay to feel like girls
B. that there must be something with being a girl
C. to be a man must mean to be strong, to be in control, to not show feelings and to see himself as superior to women - misogyny becomes identity.
This conditioning insidiously crystallizes the male role of performer, hero, macho, provider, achiever, doer. That’s how we transform a human being into a human doing. From that place of isolation from his true self, he becomes an easy prey to a system that only values external rewards such as success and ownership. Competition becomes the rule and the way to relate to other men. The degree of his denial of emotions and bodily feelings may lead him to extreme abuse of power, greed, destruction and violence. Wars and the destruction of our natural environment are just examples of such denial.
An interesting study of Warren Farrel Ph.D. further points out that “men are socialized to want sex as long as one condition is fulfilled - physical attraction. Women are still taught to be sexually cautious for two, three or all four conditions - attraction, respect, emotions and intellect - are met. Many women add a fifth and a sixth conditions - singleness and status/success. Many add a seventh, eighth and ninth - the man must ask her out; he must pay; and he must risk rejection by initiating the first kiss; be the first to hold hands, and so on. Men feel as if their expectations are so much lower than women’s, which is only one condition, and they can’t even meet that. And so men feel sexually powerless.
While men are focusing on physical attraction and external rewards, internal rewards such as communication, intimacy, love and commitment remain unsatisfied. Lack of sexual fulfillment results in powerlessness for both men and women. Rarely do we think of men as sexually powerless mainly because we associate the male phallus as the symbol of sexual power. I see this powerlessness manifested in many ways. In my work I constantly encounter premature ejaculation, difficulties with erections, lack of sexual feelings, and lack of skills and confidence in their sexual expression.
During sex, a phenomenon that Western psychologists call premature ejaculation happens to 75% of men, preventing them from experiencing a deep union. What this usually means is that the man has not allowed his partner to develop her energy into an orgasm. As a result, in normal sexual relations the percentage of women experiencing frustration and no orgasm may be as high as 80%.
Can you imagine when this situation persists? The results are performance anxiety, lack of self confidence, feelings of embarrassment, frustration and shame, lack of sexual fulfillment and deep suffering. I am a firm believer in ejaculation control as a solution to World Peace staring at home by creating more sexual fulfillment. My personal contribution to this is a beautiful 60 minute audio tape, a step by step Sexercises Training which teaches total ejaculation control and how to prepare the body for male multiple orgasm.
The absence of a rite of initiation into malehood with proper sexual training also contributes to male sexual wounding. Men are not trained to know how to love women. A man’s first experience of female love is with his mother. This relationship will determine a man’s capability to love and trust a woman. Most men have been severely wounded from deeply unfulfilled mothers who projected their own needs, dreams and expectations onto their sons. The son often became a substitute for an absent father and lover. A man’s fear of women’s control affects how willing he is to surrender to women’s sexual power. His unconscious fear of women’s inexhaustible sexual power confronts him with his vulnerability, especially if he fails to meet his own expectations as a sexual performer. His desire for control is challenged by a temperamental male phallus which can let him down at any given moment without notice. We call it “cumming” while it should be called “going”. Because, unless a man learns to transmute his energy before he ejaculates, once he “cums” he is gone. His energy, his interest in his partner are gone. The man who repeatedly experiences this lack of control over his sexual energy will often end up feeling powerless.
Such experiences of powerlessness may tap into a man’s earliest experience of having his genitals mutilated by circumcision. “No one is aware of the deep implications and life-long effect of circumcision. All that takes place in the first days of life on the emotional level shapes the pattern of all future reactions. How could a being aggressed in this way, while totally helpless, develop into a relaxed, trusting person?”
“Could the trauma from this event have anything to do with our later feelings of shame about our bodies, our concern about the size of our penises, our anguish over sexual performance, our frozen feelings, or the male ability (liability?) To ignore pain? In order to begin healing our wounds we need to remember what happened to us and name it correctly. Cutting the genitals of newborn male babies is child sexual abuse. I encourage all men to join in ending this practice.
The more I read on the subject the more upset I become. A more recent factor which unfortunately has also contributed to men’s woundings is feminism with its often times vehement objectification of men. In the spirit of retaliation there isn’t much room for discernment. The more sensitive men took on the hard blow, right under the belt, in their power center. While the male power structure was actually the object of attack, many receptive men’s personal power got blasted. On top of not having adequate male role models, now simply being a man was a cause of shame, blame and discrimination!
Finally I am suggesting a last yet certainly not the least important factor of sexual woundings. It is the fear around sexuality which men have also inherited at a cellular level from patriarchal religions. Indeed patriarchal religions throughout the ages had people killed off for being sexually alive. The human body and its erotic power became a source of evil. What if instead, it would have been considered a source of divine embodiment?
Perhaps the phenomena of the New Age man is a natural response to these woundings. I think it’s a rather creative one. These men have opened themselves to their intuitive and receptive side. They know how to be gentle and sensitive. Which is exactly what women had asked from men. The problem is that through this process they have often lost the more bold, active and penetrating qualities required for personal power. In that way they’ve compromised their maleness! And of course, it’s bound to affect their sexual power.
Whether or not modern man is in touch with his emotional pain, his body can’t lie. The most striking way that sexual woundings is affecting him is through the disease of his prostate. In this country, over 50% of men experience prostate difficulties beyond the age of 50 while prostate cancer is the second leading cause of male death. The medical establishment seems to ignore the cause of it. Aside from the immediate physical causes shouldn’t we pay closer attention to the more obvious which is the surrounding environment; the quality of the air, water and food? The chemical substances present in the environment get most particularly concentrated in the sexual organs.
At another level, the significance of the disease of the male sexual organ reflect the difficulty to convert this tremendous testosterone power used for wars and destruction of the planet into a creative, peaceful and sacred source of energy. It is time to collectively give birth to the peaceful warrior, to the wise man who can meet the wise woman in true power and equality, mutually supporting our freedom of being divinely human.
So here is the same question I asked women in my previous article. How can men begin to reclaim their sexual power?
Sexual Choices for More Meaning and Expression
Adrenaline sex, liquid sex, hard sex, flowing sex, expanded sex, tantric sex, soft sex, extended sex, wet sex, slow sex, ecstatic sex, long-distance sex, quickie sex, more sex… we want it ALL!
In expressing sexual energy, we experience the divinity and diversity of the human body’s potential for awareness and feelings! We are inspired, we are alive, we channel the creative life force flowing through us, either by ourselves or to be shared with others.
Whether we make love three times a day or three times a year, it’s our choice to hook into this life force energy, superficially or deeply. In this age of diversity, when we can tune into hundreds of video channels, radio stations, even web sites, there’s just about everything available for everybody. Alternatives abound! Choices are ours for the taking. The decisions… and resulting experiences… are ours to make. Responsibility rests with us… each of us. No regrets, no blame, nobody in charge of our pleasure destiny except us! Choice involves levels of consciousness in one’s erotic focus, desires, partners, situations. The question is whether we are in a conscious state of alertly and sensitively being in the moment, or are we acting automatically, unconsciously, out of past habit patterns.
The bottom line for us in getting for most out of this life force energy we call sex is to select a path of loving consciousness, wherein self responsibility, empowerment, self-esteem, sensitive spontaneity and clear communication rule. Are we not worth the best possible experiences, adventures, encounters and relationships? Yes, yes, yes! We opt for less stress and more fun. We experience healthy consensual sexual activity as a vital expression of overall health and vitality. We do what we feel to do, separately and together, rather than follow a preconceived idea of what is acceptable. This is our time, this new millennium… an age of diversity, acceptance and exploration of possibilities. It is an age of sexual/spiritual empowerment… living as Gods and Goddesses in the flesh.
For us, first there were the sexual freedom days… all kinds of sensate experimentation. Mmmm good. Then we began to explore deeper ways to relate, as well as new ways to raise, focus and play with the sex energies. We began to include the entire body as a divine field of pleasure. We felt the sexuality of touch, massage, dancing and drumming… even merely gazing into each other’s eyes, or breathing together in simply rhythms of inbreaths and outbreaths. Feelings of aliveness began to spread into every waking moment that we chose to connect with that creative vital frequency. Our relationships felt deeper and more intense. We met each other. Lust and love, passion and consciousness, all blending into one integrated whole. We married. Five years passed. It got pretty esoteric… and yet we never forgot that we are in bodies, that these bodies are here to feel pleasure, to raise and share energy, to harmonize and merge into a oneness that can’t really be written about.
So what can we write about… even advocate in this turning of the ages? One of our mottos is: “expand your envelope of pleasure!”. When communication between lovers is easy, trusting and frank, all roads that lead to the oneness of orgasm are worthy of exploring. It could be a “gee whiz” innocent curious vibe, maybe a sweaty physical test of body stamina, or a dissolution of individual identities into a sea of pulsing psychedelic bliss. It’s all up to the most sexual of all organs: the brain! After all, first comes thought, then comes action! So within our fairly loose boundaries, we intend to stay open to as many choices as appropriate. We listen to what our bodies are telling us, and if it feels okay, we explore. After all, in order to know the boundaries of pleasure, we surrender to the possibilities that sexual diversity offers. Each of us has that choice to make. That’s where the ‘muscles’ of consciousness need to be exercised! For some, there will be many choices, for others, just a few.
New ways of communicating, keeping the dance of energies passing back and forth between bodies and hearts, have been some of the most exciting discoveries for us. Giving each other breath and hair massages, for example. This involves first slowly breathing over the entire body, front and back, in rhythm to sinuous playful music. Then, we repeat the entire process using one’s head of hair, stroking the skin with many different kinds of head motions. Another example, in the spirit of non-verbal vibratory communication, is rhythmically drumming on each other’s in turn, in time to hypnotic trance dance music. There are so many ways to make sounds by forming one’s hands and then slapping the willing thighs and ass of one’s willing partner! (We call this activity “body drumming”… it really gets the appropriate skin areas awakened and juiced up!) In our workshops, video and music, we explore many different paths to “vibrational engorgement”, where every cell of the body is aroused and excited, rather than only the primary erogenous zones. It’s kept us looking and feeling young… and it’s fun! (We’re slim and trim and in our fifties.) Sex doesn’t have to be so serious! For us, although sexual expression is sometimes geared to emotional or physical ‘release’, most of the time it’s in the pleasuring of the other… then the pleasuring of the self, and finally dissolving into Pleasure itself! For us, this has been a path of breath, sound, touch, body positions and movement… as well as lips, nipples and genitals. It’s become the yoga of sex! (Some call this ‘Tantra’.)
In the spirit of diversity, we’ve seen that contacting, exploring, balancing and celebrating the male and female energies in each of us, whether we are in a male or a female body, is a wonderful arena of investigation and play. There are many techniques to taste, fill and share these energies with one another. When both partners have options of undulating and/or penetrating, receiving and/or giving, being the passive and/or the active one, not only does this lead to delightful variations on all the basic sexual moves, it also develops a sense of playful partnership where supportive intent replaces competitive intent… we call it ‘interplay rather than powerplay’. A perfect example of this perspective is in our video INTIMATE SECRETS OF SEX & SPIRIT, where we demonstrate ‘horizontal dancing’. One partner lies prone while the other uses his/her body parts to move around the prostrate body, sliding, rubbing, wiggling, pressing and undulating… again in rhythm to erotically arousing music. Another example, from the video, is where we demonstrate ‘joys of the languid lingam. Here, the male partner is totally relaxed, surrendered to being played with by his partner, and she handles the aforementioned member as her own tool for pleasure. No performance anxieties for the male, lots of relaxed pleasures for them both! Finally, in the spirit of sexual health and wellbeing, we show how to give and receive prostate massage for the male and g-spot massage for the female. We are of the firm belief that lack of stimulation in these intimate locations blocks vital energies and breeds decay in the entire body vitality. One might compare these techniques to the need for flossing the teeth… to keep the mouth and teeth happy and healthy!
Finally, we have found that utilizing fantasy together, creating different erotic sets and settings, acting out and being channels for ‘larger that life’ energies, brings new dimensions in which to experience familiar sensual and sexual positions and activities. It may mean the creating of a harem setting, a bordello, a monastary, a divine temple, military barracks, a pirate’s cave… or whatever turns one on. It may mean taking on the energy roles of: the planets Venus and Mars; the elements like fire, water or earth; or gods and goddesses from different historical and cultural traditions. The point is to explore and expand the boundaries of loving expression… and have FUN!
Cultivating Male Sexual Energy
BECOMING A MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
The classes are offered as a series over a period of 3 months. They are focused on assisting you in developing the ability to have control and mastery over your sexual energy and re-creating your erotic nervous system. They are not focused on immediate sexual gratification but rather on building sexual energy and learning how to circulate this energy throughout your entire body, eventually leading to full body orgasm(s) and orgasm without ejaculation.
SESSION ONE:
In this session we begin by teaching a basic breathing technique know as the Complete Breath. You will then have a chance to practice this breath until you feel comfortable with it. You will also learn how to do a self pleasuring practice which will teach you ejaculation control. This practice, you will be expected to do at home by yourself for the first month. In addition to this you will learn how to increase your chi energy through doing a Taoist exercise know as the Microcosmic Orbit.
SESSION TWO:
The focus of this session is to increase the flow of energy in your body. You will learn this by doing a dynamic meditation designed specifically for this following with a breathing exercise. Breathing and learning how to draw your sexual energy up your spine and circulating it throughout your body is the key to becoming a “multi- orgasmic” man. You will be expected to continue the self pleasuring exercise for the next month with an additional exercise or two.
SESSION THREE:
In this session you will primarily be learning how to do The Energy Orgasm Breath, which when practiced will clear out old stuck energy from your chakra centers and open you to experiencing a full body orgasm through breathing. This session will be entirely devoted to this practice. You will also learn how to do the Heart Pleasuring Exercise and you will be expected to practice this at home.
SESSION FOUR:
In this session you will have the opportunity to receive a Taoist Lingum Massage. This massage is focused on doing The Big Draw ( a Taoist exercise designed to give you a full body orgasm) at the end and not ejaculating. To really experience this you will have needed to do the homework over the past 3 months and developed the ability to master your sexual energy to some degree, to breathe continuously and to relax your body while aroused. This session is optional.
Tantric Ritual Healing
This ritual focuses on healing your specific issues. You can address the areas of your life you wish to enhance, explore new possibilities and expand your horizons by adding to your menu of delights.
In ancient India sexuality was taught, just like math or sports. It was equally important to learn how to be versed in lovemaking and intimacy as it was to read and write.
Unfortunately, that isn’t the case today. Because of the fear of guilt that exists surrounding sexuality today, we grow up with a lot of mixed messages from our parents, our church, and even our own bodies. This can cause confusion, shame, and lack of a positive self-image.
When these or other emotions are not fully expressed, they become lodged in the energy body. These blockages not only create physical stress, but can also prohibit sexual energy from reaching the brain. This will limit a person’s ability to feel pleasure.
The emotions that most frequently affect sexual response are guilt, fear, and shame. Although, it is not uncommon for sexual dysfunction to surface after a relationship breaks up, due to the pain of the loss.
Just because you have experienced premature ejaculation, impotency, lack of sensation or sexual desire, that does not mean that your problem is physical. Emotions are wise, if you deny them, they manifest on a physical level, so that you will be forced to address them.
Current Affairs | Comment (0)tantric - The Art of Divine Touch
Be a healer for your woman by becoming a more artful lover. Learn how your touch can be deeply healing as well as open her up to her full orgasmic potential.
The Art of Divine Touch is an opportunity for you to learn to give Eros’ touch to your beloved as she has so lovingly given to you.
In a temple setting, in a sacred way you will be re-trained in the art of sensual touch in a series of informative, experiential and fun sessions . Level One is required first to take any of the other sessions. You can however, after doing Level One and speaking with me, do any of the other levels in any order you would like.
Level One will teach you how to develop your touch both sensually and as a healer. You will learn how to become more present and in your body; how to ground your energy and how to be sensitive to your partner’s energy. In this initial session you will learn how to move you and your partner’s energy through breathing and how to create a safe and loving space for her. You will also learn how to give a well rounded massage and brush up on massage techniques.
Level Two will teach you how to connect even more with your healer-within and how to create a sacred setting both physically and energetically. Learn powerful communication techniques that will keep the energy between the two of you ever flowing. You will also learn how to read your beloved’s yoni, how to identify the type of yoni she has, (based on her physiology). You will be able to review what you have learned in the first session as well as learn how to give the Yoni Massage (outer genitalia) to your partner.
Level Three will teach you how to give your woman the 3000 year old Tantric Sacred Spot Healing Massage, (G-spot), opening her up to her full orgasmic potential. You will also have an opportunity to review the Yoni Massage as well if you have taken that session.
Level Four will teach you how to arouse your beloved to a heightened state of ecstacy and keep her there for an extended period of time. You will also learn how to read the arousal signs of a woman’s body. This session is available to couples or if you prefer to work with my co-teacher a double goddess session can be arranged. (This session is new and will available soon. If you are interested in taking this please let me know.)
Each session is two hours in length and is a “hands-on” experience. You will work on one of the teachers or you may invite your beloved to participate with you. In fact, couples are encouraged to learn The Art of Divine Touch together.
TantricGoddess Worship
Goddess Worship is not a “scene” in a Dominate /Submissive sense. It is a yoga - a science and system that teaches you to explore and discover your sexuality as your connection to the creative life forces within you. The practice of this system is a personal creation, designed to suit your interests and taste. We co-create together, based on what’s present, moment to moment. I assist you in understanding your connection to life and how to deepen that connection through personal practices and union with the embodiment of Goddess, in women. From a tantric perspective, every man and women holds a spark of divine essence within them. Therefore, by acknowledging the divinity in one another, we evoke that presence. Man and women are equal opposites to one another. We may willingly take turns serving one another, but neither is less than the other. Serving the God/Goddess in a tantric way stimulates the innate love and devotion to the Divine. The essence of this expression is available to anyone who you truly are able to perceive divine essence with. Thus the greeting, Namaste which means the divine being within me greets and recognizes the divine being within you. In Tantra, a man learns to raise his consciousness along with his frequency by not ejaculating regularly. It is most empowering when this is practiced willfully and with conscious choice. The tantric evolved man understands that the longer he holds his seed within him, the more power and energy he gathers. When serving Goddess from a place of high personal power, he joins with her at high frequencies, becoming an equal counterpart to the Goddess he serves. A tantric union is a very real connection based on the true expression of souls. Each person gives offerings to one another. Since you are new to this, I will guide you through the stages of calling forth and honoring the Goddess, until you feel it naturally flow as an out pour of your own true expressions. I will teach you how to awaken the Goddess and ride along with her in the abundant range of pleasurable sensations in the multi-orgasmic, ecstatic realms. Much of this is possible through manual and energetic stimulation. As you meet in high realms with me — I may grant you the blessings of more intimate connections. It is a journey that unfolds infinitely- mysteriously and more beautifully than either of us could ever imagine…
Offerings like these gained devotees passage to the wisdom, and desires of the Goddess.
Learn to Tune into the subtle messages of her body and find out precisely how to dedicate yourself to her pleasure.
- Learn to give a sensual massage
- Do nude chores
- Participate in Ritual Body Worship
- Worship her Lotus feet
- Be mesmerized through erotic hypnosis
- Learn ejaculatory control
- Experience a Golden Blessing
- Transmit sex energy through your eyes, lips, breath, and touch into the body of the Goddess
What Is Tantra
“Lead me from the unreal to real! Lead me from darkness to light!
Lead me from death to immortality!”
Tantra is a meditative approach to sexuality, a profound path to deepening the intimate relationship one has with oneself and with the Beloved. While rooted in ancient ritual practices from Hinduism and Buddhism, modern Tantra combines insights from humanistic and transpersonal psychology, sexology, yoga and meditation to create a set of powerful tools for personal growth and deep intimacy.
Tantra, in the ancient Sanskrit language, means weaving, and refers to a weaving-together of sensory experience, and the joining of masculine and feminine energies. In the Hindu myth of creation, Shiva and Shakti created the Universe by conjoining their masculine and feminine energies.
The tantric practitioner approaches enlightenment through the avenue of bodily and sensory experience. Tantra teaches that bliss is possible in every moment, if we only pay attention to our experience, quieting the chattering, busy mind.
The goal of tantric practice is the union of the Masculine and Feminine; since each of us has masculine and feminine energies within, Tantra can be practiced alone or with a partner. The meditative practices take one deep within the body, working with sexual energies which arise in the genitals.
Through using the breath and focused attention it is possible to draw that energy upwards, to the heart and ultimately the crown of the head, spreading energetic joy throughout the body.
While intensifying sexual experience, Tantra is primarily about intimate and present connection – with the self, and with the Beloved – and ultimately, with the Divine.
Tantra has many levels of study and an unlimited degree of potential for spiritual gain, for sexual delight, and for worldly success.
Tantric lessons are important tools for todays individuals and couples who are searching for a significantly different way of relating to each other, couples who want to sustain love and sexual passion for lifetime together”.
From Tantra the Art of Conscious Loving by Charles and Caroline Muir
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What is Tantra Yoga, Really?
“Union of the mind is alignment. Union of the body is sex. Union of the heart is love. Union of the spirit is Tantra.
In its rawest form, Tantra Yoga can be used for heightened sexual experiences and for sexual healing.
In its middle path, Tantra Yoga is sacred sexuality raising love-making to a sacrament and an art form with ceremony and ritual.
In its highest path, Tantra Yoga is the union of two spirits into oneness to experience unconditional love and gratitude as the purest energy of the divine Spirit.
History
Tantra Yoga is an ancient Eastern science of enlightenment with roots as far back as the third or fourth millennium B.C.E. to the Dravidian people in the Indus Valley in India. Since the 1920s when the Harappan culture was first discovered, more sites have been found, covering an area of more than 1.3 million square kilometers, larger than any other archaic civilization. This was a matriarchic society honoring the life-cycles and the feminine principle. Although the exact beginnings of Tantra Yoga are controversial, there is evidence of its ancient existence in some form.
“Unlike most mystical paths, Tantra Yoga includes sexuality as a doorway to ecstasy and enlightenment. Tantra Yoga is not a religion, but rather a way of life.” Tantra Yoga in its Western form has been called, the “Yoga of Sex”. This label diminishes the true path of Tantra and has spawned many variations of the sacred-sexuality practices and spiritual path into sexual techniques for pleasure.
“Tantra Yoga is very holistic in its approach to life, health, and spirituality. The word tantra literally means ‘expansion.’ A tantra yogi’s path focuses on expansion of all levels of their consciousness to realize the Supreme Source.” The practices of Tantra Yoga awaken and balance the male and female energies within each person in order to spiritually awaken to the entire universe as the divine life force, or Spirit.
What are some of the common misconceptions about Tantra?
Because there are many taboos in our society, a majority of people in our culture still have a puritanical view of sex. There was major shift in consciousness in the 1960‘s, called the sexual revolution, when the youth of that time, revolted against centuries of sexual suppression and authoritarian control. Even with this revolution, our social mores tend to keep sexuality and sensuality in a forbidden black box.
“Again, there has been a historical tendency in European and American societies to exoticise and eroticise the ‘East’, to appropriate it by reducing it to the object of one’s desires and fears. Tantric Buddhism as a religion which is cool about sex comes handy as a counter-model to one’s own religion, perceived as repressive and un-erotic.”
— Prof. Christoph Emmrich in the Journal of Historical Studies, University of Toronto.
What are the benefits of practicing Tantra Yoga?
There are many, many benefits. The greatest benefit is the awakening of an inner joy that you may have never known was there, the joy of aliveness and oneness.
You become able to open your heart to yourself at a deep level and make changes in your life that are aligned with your heart’s desires and for your highest good.
In addition, by gaining mastery of your sexual energy, you manifest loving and fulfilling relationships, expand your capacity for spiritual ecstasy.
Because the second chakra energy is the creative, life-giving energy in us all, this energy can be focused to use for manifesting our decrees. There are several moditations that you can do alone or with a partner in order to align energies for the purpose of manifesting a specific intention.
There are known health benefits also. When practicing Tantra Yoga, endorphins, oxytocins (and other natural hormones and chemicals such as DHEA) are released improving health and vitality. The breath work and the yoga of Tantra increase flexibility, circulation and energy flow.
So how did Tantra get a bad “rep”?
First, the prevalent organized religions held beliefs that sexuality had to be denied in order to attain enlightenment. So Tantra challenged the repressive moralistic codes of organized religion in a persistent nonconformist approach which finally influenced the major Eastern religions such as Hindu, Taoist and Buddhist traditions.
Second, many Tantric mystics used unconventional methods to teach. Their intention was to awaken people to the holistic nature of spirituality and sexuality. However, in the process, their sometimes outrageous behaviors and approach scandalized traditional society bringing condemnation upon themselves.
Third, and probably the most significant to us, is that sex sells and many people have used Tantra to sell their workshops, CDs, their services and products through titillation and exploitation. “
Current Affairs | Comment (1)The Tantric Path
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The terms Tantra, Tantric, Tantrik refer to a philosophy, a science, an art and a way of life whereby sexual energy is consciously and creatively utilized. In it’s simplest form, Tantra means paying attention 100% to what you’re doing. The mystical treatises, known as the Tantras, contain a broad spectrum of practical techniques for enhancing sexual awareness and achieving transcendence. The hidden potency of sexual union is the seed of all creativity. Through an understanding of the practical teachings of Tantra, a whole new experience of life opens up. Tantra shares great similarities with the Taoist tradition of China, but derives from the Hindu teachings of India and the Tibetan Buddhist lineage, both of which trace their roots to the Tantras, texts written in ancient Sanskrit. The Tantric approach to spirituality makes use of the senses of the body rather than suggesting, as is done in other religious teachings, that these should be suppressed, in order to transcend the physical world and its desires. It is greatly useful in an individuals private path of spiritual unfoldment and enlightenment, to awaken Kundalini, and utilize it in the synergistic combination of sexuality and spirituality.
The foundations of Buddhism are 4 main written bodies of text, the Tantras, the Vedas, the Sutras and another whose name I forget. The Tantras are Sanskrit and amongst the most ancient written languages on the planet. I don’t read Sanskrit, or anything except English and Computer Languages, so I must plead ignorance, as I am dependent upon translators. The strongest tradition of Tantra is with the Tibetan Buddhist Monks, now scattered to the winds thanks to the Chinese invasion of Tibet. The 2nd living body of Tantra is intermixed with Indian Hinduism.
In the West, Tantra has been “refocussed”, with emphasis upon the sex-positive aspects as being so in contrast with the sex-negative aspects of the extant religio-culture. Amongst the various Tantra teachers I studied under in the San Francisco Bay Area, there was a predominance of appealing to the glamour of the sexuality of Tantra, and a lack of rootedness, groundedness, to help people utilize Kundalini while grounded in their bodies.
My conclusion, embodied in the order I teach, is that people need a foundation of meditation with grounding to stay in their bodies while running Kundalini, and psychic clearing techniques to help them become empowered to release their blockages/issues, before they learn Kundalini/Kriya/Tantra Yoga techniques which raise the Kundalini which lights-up their issues to be dealt with. A Kriya is a spasm caused by blockages in the Kundalini channels… Thus Kriya Yoga pushes the limits and triggers clearing of the blockages in the Kundalini energy channels in the body.
Harish Johari, one of the teachers I studied with, has a number of good books out (Destiny Press ), which interpret in a Western context the foundations of Tantra, and goes beyond the sex-glamour.
I was raised atheist by an Engineer/Scientist, and so was spared the dogma of all religions except Western Science (an atheist religion). Once I blew-the-pictures that Spirit “doesn’t exist”, I was free to study all the world religions superficially, which I did with open 3rd eye… thus arriving at a non-denominational spiritualist paradigm relatively free of terran religious dogma. Seeking of better sex led me to Tantra, which led me to spirit, so I’m not totally down on the sex-glamour of Tantra, but I find most teachers to fail to provide their students with sufficient grounding tools, and tools for clearing-your-issues when your Tantra inspired Kundalini rises and shoves them all in your face to deal with.
Sometimes the most loving and compassionate act (Quan Yin / Tara) is to fiercly confront (Kali) the illusions of ego some poor soul has become lost in. In the Hindu and Tibetan Tantras you’ll almost always find the dualistic God(desse)s… having both a benign compassionate face and a very fierce confrontive face, e.g. Tara/Kali.
Current Affairs | Comment (1)Sizzling Sex Life: 5 Spicy Practices for Making Love Hot
We all know it happens: A few years (or sometimes a few months!) into a relationship, sex can get boring, even with a partner that you still love in your heart. Like boiling away the flavor from a stick of cinnamon, you may find that the “heat” has evaporated from the bedroom.
But don’t toss out that relationship! With the right technique, you may still be able to get some spice back into your sex life.
1. Change the environment. Making love in the same place, at the same time, encourages you to do the same thing over and over again. You can have sex in a new place, like the kitchen or the shower. Or, you can change the bedroom in some way, like painting it, getting some fresh bedding, or hanging a new piece of art. Your mind doesn’t care too much what you do, just that it’s something different.
2. Change the position. If you always go through the same three positions every time you have sex, you’re going to get tired of them sometime. If you enjoy those positions, how about changing the order in which you perform them? Or try using pillows and experimenting with different angles. You never know just what might hit a new great spot for one or both of you.
3. Just add water. Ever try adding water to your lovemaking? You can have sex with water added in a lot of different ways, from sensual to silly. The most obvious is to make love in the shower or tub, if it’s big enough for both of you. You could also try using water in ice form to make sex interesting. Try holding an ice cube in your teeth, using it to gently touch your partner’s skin. Or hold a cube in your fingers and rub a little more firmly. And how about using water guns on each other—naked, of course!
4. Let’s pretend. Admit it, you do have sexual fantasies. And even though you may not want to play them out exactly as they are in your mind, you could certainly try bits and pieces. There’s no reason to make your fantasies so literal in real life.
For example, you could pretend that there’s someone in the closet watching. Or use crepe paper ties for fun. Add a prop like a pirate’s hat or fishnet stockings. Use your imagination and have a bit of a giggle. After all, there’s no rule that sex always has to be so serious.
5. Toys. Some people think that toys like vibrators are just used to help women along to orgasm. But there are lots and lots of toys out there for both sexes. Trying out a new toy together can be a lot of fun. You can surprise your partner with a new toy, or you can go shopping together, either at a toy shop or online.
Don’t settle for vanilla when you can have any “flavor” of sex that you can imagine! Enjoy!
Current Affairs | Comment (0)Tantra - Sex Tips to Pleasing your Man
My be you all surprised. Well pleasing your man can make you and him much happier. Since this is such an important aspect to a relationship for your man, it is important that you know how to please him.
Now this is also for your own selfish reasons. A guy that is getting incredible sex from his woman is less likely to cheat. Also, he is going to be more willing to return the favor in and out of bed. Sex is just not as important for most women. But if he is being pleased, he is going to be more attentive to what is important.
Let me just say that great sex by itself will not keep a man from cheating. I do not want any woman to feel guilt about some jerk cheating on them. All I am saying is that it lessens the chances of that happening. Many guys have stayed in relationships because the sex was so good.
Here are the ways to please your man:
1. Masturbate. Guys are very visual. The site of a woman pleasing herself is a big turn on. This is not only good for him, but it is also good for you. This will hopefully lessen the time it takes for you to have an orgasm. Then just when you are about to have an orgasm, let him finish it for you. Both you and he will be happy.
2. Become Easily Orgasmic. Believe it or not ladies, the good guys really care about you have an orgasm. They want to you enjoy the experience as much as they do. The problem is that some times it can take so long that it ruins the mood.
This goes back to #1. If you know what pleases you, and if you are getting warmed up, then your orgasm will come a lot easier. To have to work an hour or more will just frustrate you and him. Find out what you like and show him. He will be happy to help.
3. Oral Sex. Wow, another newsflash. If this is something you do not like to do, that is fine. Just realize that most guys love it. If you can find a way to move past your issues with this your man will love you for it.
You should not be forced or encourage to do anything that will make you feel degraded, but the reality is oral sex is a major turn on for a guy. Not just the physical sensation, but the visual will stay with him a long time. There is still one thing that a woman did that gives me flashbacks years later. Uh, let us move on.
4. Find your own G Spot and then show him. Sure it would be nice if he took the initiative and looked for it, but you know most guys. Do you think that will happen? Good luck. Besides if he did, do you really want him playing around with your body off of some article he found on the internet?
No save him the time and you the aggravation and find it for him. That way it will be more pleasurable for both of you. Now you can spend your time pleasing and be pleased instead of trying to play anatomy.
5. Fake It. That is right. Most men really want their women to have an orgasm. Not only because it pleases the woman, but because it strokes the guys ego. Now you do not have to put on some performance from a porn movie, but just a nice orgasm is fine.
This benefits you also. You can avoid the frustration of having to wait. The guy is more likely to want to please you because he knows this want be a job. It also saves you time because then you can go do something you would rather be doing.
Hopefully this will help you and your man have a happy and steamier sex life. Turn up the heat in the bedroom and watch him turn up the heat everywhere else.
Tantra Sexuality for Better Lovemaking
Tantra sex control allows better penis function. It does this by addressing the problem of premature ejaculation which many males experience. Premature ejaculation is having an orgasm quite suddenly after entering your female partner.
The quickness of orgasm is triggered by a number of factors. It all boils down to sexual excitement and is a combination of breathing, pulse rate, and blood pressure. The acceleration of all these components brings on ejaculation.
If the speeding up of these processes can lead to premature ejaculation then the slowing down can lead to better sex and longer lovemaking.
Breathing speeds up during sex. Tantra sex techniques show that by slowing down your breathing you can postpone orgasm. In Tantra they say that breath regulation, with certain awareness exercises, makes sex last longer by slowing down the breathing process.
One Tantra breathing technique is to be conscious of your breathing during sex. Notice your inhalation and exhalation. All of this has the effect of slowing down the physical reactions which lead to premature ejaculation.
Sexual excitement can create tension in the body and this too can lead to premature ejaculation. A Tantra method for this is to relax and let go. The muscles of the body can be trained to relax at will. There are techniques like progressive relaxation that can also be used during sex.
Men get turned on visually by their partners during lovemaking. This can lead to lack of penis control. Tantra methods teach to engage the mind in a process of visualization. By using the mind to picture a scene of a garden for example. This Tantra technique can lead to sex lasting longer.
In Tantra sex it says contributing factors to lack of penis control such as stress, incorrect breathing habits, and poor mental attitudes can be reduced.
Simultaneously the habits of proper breathing, body relaxation during sex, and right mental attitude can lead to a rich sexual experience.This is waht Tantra sex shows you. The application of the wisdom of Tantra sex control for better penis function materials are now available online as never before.
Increase Libido and Sexual Satisfaction - Herbs for Both Men and Women That Work
If you are male or female you can increase libido and sexual satisfaction by simply taking some herbs which will improve sexual energy and intensity of orgasm. You can do this by taking a combination of herbs to increase libido which are enclosed…
Before we look at the herbs themselves, lets look at common problems for both men and women which cause low libido.
While many see testosterone as a male sexual booster it’s also crucial for women as well and a lack of it causes low sex drive.
Another chemical produced naturally in the body is nitric oxide and its role is to allow the sex organs to flood with blood, by expanding the blood vessels that feed them. In men the result is an erection (in fact a man can never get an erection without enough of this chemical) and the result is not so obvious in women - but Nitric oxide performs the same function, making sure the sex organs are flooded with blood.
Libido and sexual satisfaction can be affected by poor blood circulation and you need blood to pump strongly. As sexual arousal starts, your heart rate quickens and blood is pumped to the genitals. Not only is strong blood circulation needed for sexual health, its needed for overall wellness as well.
Stress, fatigue and anxiety are passion killers and can result in you not being in the mood for sex. It’s a fact that you need a lot of energy in the body and this will result in stronger sex drive.
Ginkgo Biloba
Ginkgo Biloba improves blood flow and oxygen throughout the body and makes sure the brain which consumes around 20% of all oxygen consumed in the body, has enough which helps reduce stress and lifts mood.
The herbs anti-oxidant action helps to maintain healthy tissue, protects and keeps the blood vessels healthy and at the same time reduces arteriosclerotic lesions. Its simply one of the best herbs you can take for peak sexual health and wellness.
Horny Goat Weed
Plays a key role in peak sexual wellness by, fighting stress and energizing the whole body. It also helps to increase levels of both testosterone and nitric oxide.
Cnidium
One of the best herbs to increase libido you can take and just like prescription drugs increases nitric oxide and inhibits PD5. The herb also acts to help promote stronger blood circulation and nourishes the blood at the same time.
Ashwagandha Extract - “Indian Ginseng”
This herb provides powerful nutritional support, to energize and rejuvenate the whole body and is a great stress and anxiety buster. The herb is a tonic herb for the body and mind and helps build deep vitality and this manifests itself in stronger sex drive.
Get them All in the best natural Sex Pills
There are natural sex pills for both men and women which will blend the above herbs with others specifically for men and women which are proven to increase libido and improve overall health.
There natural, safe and work so try them and increase libido and sexual satisfaction naturally just as nature intended.
7 Tips for Women to Bring Back the Prom Night Romance
A Laid-Back atmosphere helps: Make sure that your room is of “mild lighting”. The faded light helps so long as it’s not too dim. Then be standing in front of a tall mirror. Hold your hair up off your neck with both hands. Ask him to stand him behind you and undress you” Slowly”. It’s got to be slow and if he rushes, have him slow down.
High heels and more: Get in the habit of wearing high heels and stockings in the bedroom along with a light string or belt across the navel. It’s a proven way to arouse him. Further more, if you learn to belly dance with this, you will fuel up the passionate “fire”.
Body Paint: Buy some body paint and paint each other. This is one art form that’s sweeping all across Europe. Some body painting is far more elaborate and effective than any costume you ever came across. Many artists are now creating mind blowing illusions with their brushes and air brush techniques. However - Be sure to use only those paints which are made for this purpose.
Visit a Lingerie Website together? This is one kind of shopping he will never try to “chuck out of” .Talk about different models and designs that he likes and you do too….what he thinks will look go on you…A lot comes out of this - Guaranteed. You will know what turns him on and maybe he could get into the idea of buying a lingerie gift for you!!
Surprise Surprise! Men love the surprise element. It is often well said that some things work best when unplanned. Make “plans” for the kids and take him to a honeymoon suite with a hot tub in the room. Be sure to bring in candles and music (sound tracks from prom night?) Order the room service. Leave your swimsuits at home! Be sure to make it a surprise. The biggest of boys are still little boys at heart…though they’ll never admit it
A bit more radical:Tell him that you want to play a little game – That you want to pretend that you are going out on a first date with him and that you are a virgin. It will be his job to plan the date. He’ll get ready and then go out for a drink. You’ll dress as school girlish as you can! After he comes to pick you up, it will be his job to romance and seduce you.
Adventure:Drive to a lake and go skinny-dipping under the moonlight. Little adventures like these can re-kindle those prom night moments. Be sure to bring a cozy, soft and warm blanket to cuddle up under…a snack…and your favorite beverage.
These secrets are sure to turn your man on, arouse his dormant passions for the relationship and bring back those magic moments.
Great Sexuality for Men With Love
Tips That Work
Here are some sexuality tips for men that want ot give their female partner the best lovemaking experience. There is a muscle in the penis when strengthened can provide harder erections. When the pubucoccygeal muscle is strong it can give you more control over ejaculation and have more intense orgasms.
One well known penis exercise is to tighten your muscles to stop the flow while urinating. Do a couple of repetitions daily and slowly build up.
Another popular way gain a stiffer penis is to take an all natural penis pill enhancer. A natural pill can stimulate the body’s own hormones. More hormones can lead to a harder and stronger and stiffer penis.
A great, but often overlooked, thing you can do for your penis is to be healthy. Your penis being connected to the body is influenced by how healthy you are. Here are some healthy tips.
Eat a good diet. Food is fuel. Quality food will benefit your body. What benefits your body does the same for your penis.
Beware of things that can harm erections. Things like medicines can have side effects for your penis. It is always best to check with your Doctor beforehand.
Smoking and excessive alcohol can lead to a limp penis. Everything in moderation is a good idea.
Get plenty of sleep. Sleep is where your body regenerates itself. Go to bed with a clear head. If you take worry and concern to bed with you it can stop you from having a deep sleep. As a result when you awaken you are not as refreshed.
Too much stress can keep you from getting an erection. It helps if you are mentally relaxed during sex. Tension in the body limits how much blood can flow.
If someone is stressed out it is more difficult to have an erection because blood to the penis does not flow as easily. Relaxation and hard erections are partners.
Overeating before sex is a bad idea. A stuffed stomach uses a lot of energy. If your body is processing your last meal that means less energy for your body to use during erection time. Eating a light meal, instead of a heavy one, before sex is a good idea.
To recap here are some do’s and don’ts tips for harder erections.
Don’t
Don’t smoke
Don’t abuse drugs or alcohol
Don’t overeat
Don’t consume refined carbohydrates
Do’s
Do approach methods of penis enlargement and sexual enhancement with wisdom and sensitivity to your body’s responses
Do eat healthy meals
Do get lots of sleep
Do keep stress to a minimum
Do take good care of yourself first and always.
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