Tantric Sex or Tantra - Tantric Sex or Tantra?
Tantra is a spiritual science from ancient India and in its basic essence is very similar to Taoism from China. Both involve balancing the male and female energies to create harmony and both have an ultimate goal of spiritual unity with the universe or the source or God.
The Tantric interplay of the male and female energies was represented in Hindu mythology with Shakti and Shiva, and represented in Taoism with yin and yang. Both Tantra and Taoism aimed to create union of body, mind and spirit. And in both, sexuality was seen and practiced in a spiritual context.
Tantra emphasises that we deserve all the love and sexual pleasure we can possibly receive; that sexual loving is a way to reach the mysteries of the heart, the soul; the God and Goddess within each person. It also teaches that sex is a way of bonding with a lover physically, emotionally and spiritually to create feelings of ecstatic pleasure, deep intimacy and expanded consciousness. It’s important to recognise that any judgments we have about sex reflect our inhibitions and demonstrate that we are not entirely free and accepting of our own sexuality.
Well, what’s the difference between Tantra and just having sex? One of the key differences is where the mind is. It’s the same in life. One’s experience of life depends on where the mind is. We are all living in the same world, but our experiences are determined by our perception.
And so in lovemaking it’s not what we are doing that affects us; it’s the attitude with which we are doing it that makes the real difference to our experience. If we can adopt the attitude that our lovemaking is spiritual, then our lovemaking will indeed become a spiritual experience. When I’m asked this question of the difference between tantric sex and just having sex, I use the analogy: normal sex is like running along the beach, it’s a good exercise and shouldn’t be stopped however tantric sex is more like tai chi or yoga or chi gong; it’s a different level of exercise - it harmonises body, mind and soul, as does tantric sex.
Tantra was traditionally only practised in a spiritual sense, but this doesn’t mean you have to be ‘holier than holy’ or understand Hindu mythology to incorporate the practices into your love life. Modern teachings of tantra are accessible for anyone who has an interest in adding to, and expanding the ways they make love.
Benefits and practices you can try:
For Men
There are excellent techniques in Tantric Sex to increase a man’s ability to last longer using ejaculation control skills and practices to help with erection dysfunction and feeling of virility. Viagra can help with performance but not with loving desire for his partner, (unless that desire is only to perform). Women want to feel a man’s love and connection not just his performance trying to get her to climax. Tantra teaches a man intimacy skills to turn sex into making love. For an experiment ask your man ‘How much love are you feeling while making love? ‘
Often men are more conscious about getting a result … good sex and orgasm… than how much love they are feeling in their heart. It may be that a Tantra lesson would be good to connect sex and heart feelings for him. Of course if he can’t last long, then he has no time to feel his love anyway because he is to busy concentrating on controlling himself - this is not making love.
A practice to help him with control is strengthening the pubocoxigel muscle one way to locate this muscle is to try and stop the flow during urination by contracting the pelvic floor. If you can do that then you have found the muscle. It is taught in many texts that if a man contracts this muscle before ejaculation it will stop it.
However if it is done incorrectly it doesn’t work. For example, a common error is trying to contract this muscle just before ejaculation. If you do it at 90%, and you haven’t practiced enough it won’t work and may even cause you to come. It’s best to do it in stages at 20%, at 30%, at 50%, at 75% and then 90%. I’m not suggesting non ejaculation practices that are often given in Taoist texts, because if these are not done properly it can lead to prostate problems. So for these practices to be successful and healthy full education / training is necessary.
Tantric techniques can assist in prolonging and improving the experience of love-making - for example breathing slower and deeper and concentrating more on the out- stroke than the in- stroke can help. It’s not the woman’s responsibility; it’s up to him to master ejaculation control. It’s men’s business. Men can have up to four sessions with a Tantra goddess skilled in teaching these practices to guide conscious men to be better lovers. Also these skills can be taught in a couple’s session.
Tantra for women
‘Traditional texts on Tantra and Taoism were written by men - and many of the practices strike me as having a male orientation about them, emphasizing techniques for the man to use for his spiritual enlightenment. Although the female was honored, the practices for her to do are not as easy to find. For example, so many of the contemporary books on tantra and Taoist sexology emphasize the forcing of the sexual energy, or Kundalini, up the spine with strong breathing and visualization to move it out of the sex center and into the higher center, known as the spiritual center, often called the crown chakra at the top of the head. This is most often done in a sitting crossed-legged position by oneself or with a partner sitting astride in a position called Yab/Yum.
This practice of forcefully directing the Kundalini up the spine can be good for men to learn because the energy in the genitals generally builds up quickly for them and, as a result, they often ejaculate too soon before their partner’s sexual energy has time to build. So moving sexual energy into the brain for expanded consciousness can be of practical benefit for men to help them control ejaculation. However, for some women, this practice may not be suitable, particularly if you are not consistently orgasmic. The reason for this is that if you pull energy out of your pelvis and your yoni, then it is less likely you will orgasm, and that’s not what most women want! It’s only recently that women have strengthened their connection to their orgasm, so why do the opposite?
One suggestion for women is that once you are feeling sexually excited, concentrate on swirling your pelvis, as in belly dancing movement imagining the energy rising naturally like steam from a simmering pot, radiating throughout the body - filling you with delightful pulses of sensual/sexual energy. There is no need to force anything, when it can flow. According to Dr Stephen Chang “the Tao of Sexology’ forcing can have detrimental effects ‘. Another suggestion is to actually take a belly dancing class. This really helps a free and easy movement of your hips and promotes a good and strong connection between the mind and body, especially the pelvic area, the sex area. This can greatly enhance the pleasure you feel during sex.
A practice you can do yourself at home is the ‘Crescent moon’. Stand with your legs slightly apart and your knees bent a little. Trace the shape of the other rim of the crescent moon with the movement of your hips. After a while, if that comes easily to you, experiment with figure eights and a variety of movements. Close your eyes and continue and enjoy the flow of this very feminine movement. Try shutting your eyes for a few moments so that you can sense deep into your hips and pelvic bowl.
Tips from a man- what he wants: In my consultations with men, many express their disappointment that their partner doesn’t move their hips enough. Men like it when their partner moves. Another thing men love is when their partner is making pleasurable sounds. These are keys of tantra: sounds and hip movement. Another key is to be aware of the PC muscle and contract it during lovemaking to create pleasurable sensation for him and you. The most important thing conscious men want is for their woman to be really enjoying the lovemaking - releasing inhibitions and freeing the love goddess within. Experiment with some of these elements to create and sustain a passionate relationship. There was an episode on ‘Sex in the City’ where a group of women friends got a Tantra Goddess, a female coach, to show them some magic strokes to use on their partner and how to create more sweet orgasms for themselves.
Tantra for couples: Tantra can bond relationships together, break habitual patterns, put new spark into relationships, balance desire levels and expand the way you make love on all levels. More and more couples are open to exploring tantra and not just accepting that ‘this is the way it is’ after a few years together. A good place to start as a couples is to hold hands and shut your eyes for a few minutes, and think about some of the things you enjoy about your partner, because we often spend a lot of energy inwardly complaining about the things that annoy us or we want to change about the other. So for five minutes, let go of that, open your eyes and take turns telling each other ten things you appreciate about them. When one partner shares something the other should simply say ‘thank you’ with no further comment. Just accept and enjoy. At the end have a hug and don’t discuss it further. Do something together like a walk or a simple act of having a cup of tea.
Sounds too simple… but try it and see the effect for yourself. Theory is knowing it, practice is living it!*
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The Secret to Awakening your Sexual Goddess
Ladies, if you’ve ever experienced difficulty in achieving orgasm or being present during sex, or want to take control over your sexual energy, experience stronger orgasms, or be multi-orgasmic, read on as I’m about to share what I learned during a recent seminar on Tantric Sexuality…
When it was time to start the seminar, there were 14 ladies present and all were anxious to learn Maryse’s Secret to Awakening the Sexual Goddess and experiencing mind blowing orgasms. What I first noticed about Maryse was how calming she was. She seemed completely relaxed and at ease, ready to share her gift and now I’m hoping to share a little bit about what I learned with you.
I find that most of the women that I meet in my life are what I call professional jugglers. Many of them have successful careers, have young children, are responsible for much of the household financing and day to day tasks. Women are multi-taskers by nature and as a result have many thoughts going through our minds at any given time. We’re thinking about what bills need to be paid, when to pick up the kids from school, what to make for dinner, what to wear to an upcoming dinner party, how to make time to clean out the closet that’s overflowing with clutter, fitting in our regularly scheduled work-outs, soccer practice, fund-raising and the list goes on. As a result, we often struggle to turn off our pressure cooker of a brain and just take time to be present in the moment.
Unfortunately, this even rings true during our most intimate moments. There we are in the middle of an intimate encounter with our lover, all of a sudden, our minds wander off and before you know it, we’re putting together the grocery list in our heads. To our lover, we may look like we’re having the time of our lives. We’re going through all the motions, we’re making sexy sounds and doing all the things that one might expect us to do during intercourse. But we’re not really present. And it’s for this reason that many women are not able to truly tap into our sexual energy and experience mind-blowing orgasms.
According to Maryse, the Secret to Awakening your sexual goddess isn’t so secret after all. It involves being present and taking control of your sexual energies - which is a very empowering place to be. Now this may sound simple, but how do you achieve this?
According to Maryse, there are three key practices that can help us become more present and awaken our goddess:
1. Connect the breath
2. Pelvic movement
3. Strengthen Muscles
Breathing naturally with full longer breaths into the abdomen (not the chest) can help us to connect with our body, emotions and sexual energy. This type of breath can unlock energy blockages and cause us to focus while making love. Consciously focusing on our breath will help to stop all our other “multi-tasking” thoughts from interrupting the moment. To practice this breathing technique, focus on releasing your abdomen muscles while you inhale, and squeezing your abdomen while you exhale.
As you practice, you may notice that it creates a pelvic movement that is remotely similar to the pelvic movement you experience while making love. This is called the pelvic pump and allows the whole spine to move. As you continue with this motion, you are circulating the energy through what is called the orgasmic circuit.
And finally,focus on strengthening your PC muscles (kegel exercises) and anal muscles by isolating, squeezing and releasing. As you squeeze, breath into the abdomen and inhale as you release. Strengthening these muscles will enable you to take more control over the flow of sexual energy.
Now for some, this may seem a little “new agey”, but at the end of the seminar, we all watched Maryse as she found a comfortable spot on her yoga matte on the floor and was able to bring herself to mind-blowing orgasm in under three minutes, without ever touching her “naughty bits”. So if you’ve ever experienced difficulty in achieving orgasm or being present during sex, or if you want to take control over your sexual energy, experience stronger orgasms, or be multi-orgasmic, after seeing Maryse’s seminar, I’m a true believer that these techniques can work.
I can also share that a few years ago, I was practicing some Tantric sexuality techniques and reached a point where I could achieve orgasm without physical touch. Watching Maryse’s seminar reminded me that I need to reconnect with my sexual energies and focus on being more present. I am blessed with having an amazing sex life currently, but there is always room for personal growth and sexual empowerment.
So, starting the very next morning, I decided to make a conscious effort on connecting my breath to achieve more intense full body orgasms. I stayed present during the experience for a while and it was a wonderful reminder of how great it does feel to be present, but admittedly, and much to my chagrin, I lost focus for a short while as my mind drifted to what I was going to write in this article…sigh! Well, that just goes to show how important it is to make the conscious effort to be present and remember to focus on the breath, but it alas, it looks like I still need a little more practice.
How A Man’s Kiss Affects A Woman
Every sexual activity begins with a kiss, may be on lips, neck, cheek or anywhere else. Kiss has immense value in any relationship. If a man is very attracted to a woman but discovers she is a bad or mediocre kisser, he will probably have sex with her anyway if presented with the opportunity, but a woman can’t get past a bad kiss. Therefore it is important for every man to learn how to kiss a woman to their satisfaction. Kiss is not just an introductory action to lovemaking, but an inevitable action in lovemaking. Women are very much affected with every kiss and even get addicted to it than any other sexual actions.
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A bad kisser always finds it difficult to pass on to the next step and he sees kissing as the next step on a carnal quest. But a good kisser, however, sees the kiss as the destination itself. He kisses as if he will never do anything else with this woman, as if he never wants to do anything else with this woman. He kisses as if this is what he has been dying to do for years and he wants to savor every moment. And for sure, this is the moment a woman decides that there should be further activities in the agenda.
Most important is that you have to approach the kiss with the right attitude. It is an experience to be enjoyed in and of itself, not just a stepping-stone
to sex. You may want it to lead to the bedroom and if done correctly, it probably will, but you need to experience and really enjoy the act of kissing. A woman will feel your kiss with great sensitivity and she will know if it is sincere or not. And if you really kiss with purpose, you will enjoy it, and a lot more too.
Kissing not only involves the lips, but the whole body and mind, and, if you do it right, the soul too. First know how to enjoy kissing before you can expect a woman to enjoy kissing you. Kissing is a process, not an act. If properly kissed a woman may enjoy the closeness and affection. Women are touchy-feely and a kiss is all about emotions and heady stuff. Kissing is a wonderful experience for both men and women.
Women always like mutual lovemaking, not just a forced, one-party action. It is applicable in kiss also. Any tongue and lip action should involve a give-and-take, with both parties allowed the opportunity for interaction in a saliva-laden minuet. When your lips move over her lips, cheek, eyes, stomach
and thighs, she will virtually feel like in paradise and will whole heartedly accept you as her soul mate and owner of her body.
The only entrance to your girl is through her mind, and to conquer her mind you should learn to tame her lips with an affectionate lip-lock. The beginning to a great night with a beautiful woman can end with a handshake if she does not like the way you kiss. If you want her to spread her legs, you first have to know how to spread her lips
Current Affairs | Comment (0)YIN and YANG
The YIN fundamental force is centrifugal, (-), has an expansive tendency, is the source of tranquility, calm, cold and dark. The YANG fundamental force is centripetal, has a contractive tendency, is the source of sound, dynamism, warmth and light.
YIN(-) and YANG(+) sometimes result from one another : - the cold geographical regions, which are mainly YIN (-), generate the conditions for YANG plants and animals; in the same way, the plants and animals that exist in the predominant YANG(+) warm regions, are YIN (-).
- the ovule, which is produced by the feminine sexual organs (YIN, (-)), is YANG (+), while the sperm, which is produced by the male sexual organs (YANG, (+)), is YIN(-).
The human being has access almost instantaneously to the essential depths of the Creation by the means of using the two fundamental notions of YIN(-) and YANG(+) as a basis when observing the world. The whole Universe becomes the most elevated school of wisdom for the one who knows the notions of YIN(-) and YANG(+) and can permanently EQUILIBRATE them by maintaining a state of harmony in their manifestation.
| YIN | YANG | |
| Tendency | Extension, dilatation | Contraction |
| Orientation | Centrifugal | Centripetal |
| Position | Exterior | Interior |
| Structure | Space | Time |
| Direction | Downward | Upward |
| Color | Violet, mauve | Red |
| Temperature | Cold | Hot |
| Weight | Easy | Heavy |
| YIN | YANG | |
| Other attributes | Acid | Alkaline |
| Expansion | Pressure | |
| TAMAS (heavy, immobile, inactive) | RAJAS (active, agitated) | |
| Quiet | Sound | |
| Wet | Dry | |
| Bigger | Smaller | |
| Low | High | |
| Root | Top | |
| Down | Up | |
| Dispersed, scattered | Concentrated, focalized | |
| Long | Short | |
| Unruly, unrestrained | Retained, controlled | |
| Horizontal | Vertical | |
| Periphery | Center | |
| Soft, fragile | Hard | |
| Subordinated | Leading | |
| Inorganic | Organic | |
| Sperm | Menstrual blood | |
| Spermatozoon | Ovule | |
| Plural | Singular | |
| Earth (-) | Sky (+) | |
| Moon | Sun | |
| Night | Day | |
| Atomic energy | Nuclear energy | |
| Negative | Positive | |
| Woman | Man | |
| Dark | Light | |
| Supple | Rigid |
| YIN | YANG | |
| Other attributes | Concrete | Abstract |
| Extrovert | Introvert | |
| Inertia | Movement | |
| Passivity | Activity | |
| Static | Dynamic | |
| Slow | Fast | |
| Magnetic | Electric | |
| Round shaped | Angular shaped | |
| Gas | Solid | |
| Liquid (1/2 YIN) | Liquid (1/2 YANG) | |
| Dark | Light | |
| Obscurity | Clarity | |
| Ultraviolet | Infrared | |
| Short waves | Long waves | |
| Bleu, indigo, violet | Red, orange, yellow | |
| Green (1/2 YIN) | Green (1/2 YANG) | |
| Sleep | Wake | |
| Anabolism | Catabolism | |
| Hypotension | Hypertension | |
| Aliments that contain much water | Aliments that contain little water | |
| Aliments rich in potassium | Aliments rich in sodium | |
| Aliments rich in glucides | Aliments rich in proteins | |
| Fat, deformed people | Thin, supple persons | |
| Mass | Energy |
No matter what is the level of organization we refer to (from elementary particles to human beings and even up to galaxies), one of the fundamental laws of Nature is that of the permanent interaction between the two complementary forces, YIN(-) and YANG(+). All the processes and phenomenons of Nature are the expression of the interaction of these two principles.
Spiritual Experience in Tantra
The fundament of all knowledge, be it about this world, or about the subtle universes, is certainly the concrete experience.
The experience is either total, or partial and incomplete, but it always refers to the reality of the experienced thing.
There have been many debates about the reality of the physical world. Of these, we shall mention the monist doctrine of the sage Shankaracharya (from which emerged the VEDANTA) as compared to the tantric point of view, our main topic of interest.
Shankaracharya defines the Reality as being that which does not change, unlike the finite experience, which - although “real” for a moment - changes finally.
Considered from this perspective, our universe - as a changing thing - holds a relative reality. Consequently, for Shankaracharya and his followers, the world we live HERE and NOW is not real, it is merely an illusion one must surpass in order to experience the Reality.
This point of view is true, however, if we look at things from the perspective of the Transcendent Absolute (BRAHMAN).
The Tantric view on these things rests upon the idea that this world is NECESSARILY real. Thus, a particular thing may be real and at the same time subject to change.
In Tantra, the divine couple Shiva and Shakti represents the Real and Total experience of the universe. In order for us to understand the Reality, they are said to limit themselves and “contract” in fragments of Reality which belong to the Supreme Reality, in a gesture of divine sacrifice.
The tantric adept has to perceive his/her own reality, to convince himself/herself of the reality of this world as ground of his actions. For the tantric, this universe is real because it originates in the divine couple Shiva-Shakti.
The total experience one may have is exactly the Consciousness of the Supreme, from which emerged the Macrocosm.
The finite, limited experience has a fragmented character, consequently the knowledge obtained thus will not be of the whole. The essence of the limited experience is the experience we have within the coordinates of time and space.
The Ultimate experience though, through its permanent nature, is placed beyond time and space, as time and space define change.
As shown before, “illusion” represents merely the experience of the Supreme Self in time and space. An important aspect of Tantra is being aware of your actions, even of the most common ones, like eating. The idea behind this focus on the present actions is that by this focus the past “disappears”, and so is the future. The one that remains is the present, an eternal “now”, which makes us go beyond the ordinary notion of time. This is synonymous with getting close to the Supreme Source, which transcends both Time and Space.
The famous secret treaty VIJNANA BHAIRAVA TANTRA advises that one should become one with the food or drink, filling your being with it.
Moreover, another sutra says that when singing, looking, or tasting something, one should be always aware, because this is how he/she will discover eternal life.
Tantra - the Cult of Ecstasy
During the past years there has been a lot written and discussed on Tantra. However, only few know it is an oriental spiritual system whose main purpose is to unify the opposites at all levels.
In Tantra, man and woman are seen as expressions or mirrors of the macorcosmic energies represented by Shiva, or the masculine principle, and Shakti, the feminine principle, under any form these may appear.
Balanced union between the two opposites poles feminine, Yin and masculine, Yang will finally lead to the eliberation of the human being from the endless cycle of births and rebirths and more than that, to God.
The man and the woman have a huge potential, practically they have potentially inside themselves all the possibilities and all the experiences of the world. When they are re-united, these experiences are revealed in a new vision and cosmic harmony that lies at the basis of the whole creation.
Tantra may re-unify an ancient scindation in the inner structure of the people, between sexuality and spirituality, which is very common in the Western tradition. One cannot meet the perfect harmony between sexuality and spirituality elsewhere than in Tantra.
It is a spiritual path that integrates the erotic act as a sacred act, which brings the devoted practitioner closer and closer to God.
In order to facilitate such a union on all levels, Tantra uses a great variety of principles, techniques and rituals. We will introduce you to the most representative and significant ideas that lie at the foundation of Tantra.
Tantra does not contradict the Christian religion, and it can offer the modern stressed and overloaded person an easy manner to improve one’s life, to be happier, to be at peace with one’s own self and with the people around, and also very important to experience the erotic act deeper, longer and more intense.
It is necessary that some taboos concerning sex be demystified because they are the cause of so many inhibitions that keep us from enjoying our exploration of it.
What is the Purpose of Tantra?
Maybe you read on a lot about sexuality, but how many of you know that Tantra is much more than sex? It’s much more than Kama Sutra, and even more than sexual continence. Yes, it uses sex, but this is just a means to an end.
The actual aim of any Tantra is the SPRITUAL LIBERATION.
This purpose can be confusing for you right now… In Christianity we call it the salvation of the soul. In Zen it’s name is Satori, in yoga it’s SAMADHI and in Buddhism we call it Nirvana. No matter how we name it, in the end it’s the same thing. It is written in the Holy Book that we all have a spark of God inside us. Tantra believes that your spirit is of the same essence with God, pure happiness, infinite knowledge and immortality. It sustains that SPIRIT is above pain, illness and suffering, immune to all the limits of the human personality.
By achieving the goal of SPIRITUAL LIBERATION the tantric becomes an all powerful being. There is no limit to what he can do, but not everything is permitted. Even in spiritual liberation there are laws that must be followed - the universal laws of love, compassion and harmony.
However, a spiritually liberated person enjoys a much greater freedom than the other people because he is no longer limited by ignorance, lack of power and he’s happiness is not conditioned by anything exterior (and for women is the same). How many times didn’t you say : First, I must get a car and THEN, I’ll really be happy. I have to strive to become rich and THEN I will become happy. By contrast, all the LIBERATED people find a supreme happiness INSIDE themselves and in their permanent union with the Absolute, a happiness much more real and intense than what we usually feel in the day to day life. In fact this state is so different that we can call it by another name : DIVINE ECSTASY.
Patanjali, an ancient yoga master said “For the sage, everything in THIS world is suffering and pain”. But he is not the first one and not the last one to notice the universal suffering. Buddha himself said “Everything is pain, everything is ephemeral (in our physical world)”. The human experience, whichever it is, creates suffering. But this universal pain does not lead to a pessimistic philosophy. No Indian philosophy fails into desperation and negativism. The universal suffering has a positive value, it stimulates the aspiration to reach the ultimate freedom. It is true that the suffering is universal but it is not eternal too.
The aim of every spiritual path is to free us from suffering. Tantra does this by a gradual EXPANSION of the field OF CONSCIOUSNESS. It is a process that involves a profound purification of the body and the aura and the mind. The physical and subtle bodies of a Tantric are as pure as a diamond, as sharp as a lightning (Vajra).
We will use an example : let’s say that you are in love and you tried hard to make your loved one respond to you with the same feelings. It was difficult and it took a lot of time… But today it finally happened! she told you she is in love with you. How do you feel ? Don’t you want to run and tell everyone how happy you are ? Don’t you feel like flying ? Could you now see anything ugly or bad around you ? Of course you can’t. You are on the top of the world, nothing can touch you! Now try to multiply this feeling ten times, a thousand times, a million times, and you will barely begin to grasp the feeling of having your CONSCIOUSNESS EXPANDED into the infinite.
It is all about perspective. The goal of Tantra is the ultimate happiness, a feeling so powerful that if you would feel it right now you might not be able to bear its intensity, it would be like running thousands of volts through a light bulb. This divine state is what we’re meditating on, this is what we seek.
It takes a special kind of people to seek this goal. Not anyone off the street (and we can add, not everyone off the net) can be genuinely interested in this high goal. An old tantric maxim says : “Many are called but few will succeed”. The actual society has perverted the religious message to such a point that many good intentioned and moral people don’t want to have anything to do with religion because it fails to address the mind as well as it addresses the soul.
Tantra on the other hand is a practice reserved to the few, it was a secret kept by few people for thousands of years, it didn’t decay over the time. Tantra is not a religion, it is more like a spiritual philosophy doubled by a set of very efficient practices and techniques. You need not be an Indian to practice Tantra. I, myself, am not an Indian and my tantric teacher is not an Indian. In fact we are Christians and I got to be much more close to my own religion after I studied the spirituality of Tantra. By studying one I can understand the other better.
Tantra does not require you to believe in its statements without judging - Tantra doesn’t need people who cannot judge a certain affirmation with their own minds. I invite all who are open minded to try it without any preconceived ideas, give it a chance to work, and you will be convinced on yourself of its efficiency in a short time.
So, if you think you got what it takes to embark into this journey, stick with us and we’ll show you how far can you go.
Current Affairs | Comment (0)Spice Up Your Sex Life
Research states that, having sex puts men to sleep but wakes women up. So while the lady love is craving a little more, the hulk snoozes like a beaten warrior. Unfortunately, the cocktail of sex hormones released after both women and men climax have the opposite effect. However you can still win over the odds and revitalize the whole event for more steaming session with these lovemaking tips. So, don’t forget to include these sessions tonight.
Dirty Talking - For Him
After he lies on your side for a break, tease him with sensual moves. Confess him with flirting words about the moves, that leapfrogged to get your orgasm. When you mention the mattress moves that drove you wild, it strokes his ego and makes him feel virile. Remember men always love to hear their sizzling sex skills.
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The dirty talk will not only help him in keeping his sunken eyes open but also wraps up the imprint of “Please love me the same way tomorrow”.
Passionate Kissing
Kissing is tagged as a wonderful prelude to more intimate pleasures. So after he is done and set to a peaceful nap for the night, arouse him by varied kissing techniques that tantalizes his erogenous zone. Your passionate kiss will state that you are not satisfied and you are still on the lovemaking zone for more.
Soft Showers Of Love
Researchers state that hot water stimulates blood flow and circulation which keeps the body aroused for more. So your next step is to have a prolonged shower in the steamed water. Men love to make love in water. Wet body rubbing each other can rewind the whole session. Scrub each others back, shoulder and neck in turns. Press against each other for sexy snuggling. You know what to do next !!!
Sexual Massage
Sexual massage boost lovemaking session. It not only brings relaxation to the partners but sets up the mood for the advanced sexual play. So, why wait give him what he needs . For more tips read the article on sexual massage.
Touch Yourself
Experts state that men love watching women feeling themselves. So if, he takes a back seat to take a nap touch yourself seductively to arouse his senses. Its the most seductive method to get any man in the mood for one more round. At the end of the seductive play, whether he joins in or not, it’s still a win-win situation.
Snuggle Up The Cuddly Boy
Men are not emotionally detached from intercourse. They love to be cuddled in slender arms. So just let him embrace you or vice versa to enjoy the buzz of the moment after sex. Let him settle into a comfortable snoozing position and then wrap his arm around you for more sensual feeling.
Follow these tips and don’t let him sleep tonight. Let love embrace you the whole night.
Current Affairs | Comment (0)LoveMaking Tips
If you are in a situation were your love lifeis getting boring then it is time to find some new positions that will help you spice up that romance. Don’t feel alone many people that have been in a relationship
for a while will experience a period of time were you feel like you are just going through the motions and that it does not seem as fun as it use to. The truth is there is information that is available to you that will help get your relationship in the bedroom back on track.
One of the most important things to do is to block out some special time that you and your partner can spend together and alone. It is important to unplug the phone and turn off the computer because you want to focus on each other.
Many people like to take this time alone and do something different such as setting candles around the room. You need to set the mood and candles and music can be a great way to do that. Also it might be a good idea to get some outfits that you do not normally wear and play sexy dress up. You can be a maid and he can play the gentleman and you can play out scenes. This is a great way to try something new and it can make the sex really good as well.
Remember that you need to open to new things and always get all the information you can to find out new lovemaking techniques so that you love life will be great.
The Female Orgasm Revealed - Learn The Secrets
Men and women have some similarities but when it comes to an orgasm they are very different. Men can usually only have one orgasm during sex but woman can have multiple orgasms and if you learn the secrets can achieve this on a regular basis.
The thing to remember when it comes to woman and orgasms is that you have to be patient. To often men like to rush though sex and foreplay and this is one thing that you must take your time so that you can reach a climax.
When you are ready you must first set the mood just right which means no kids, phone calls, computer, etc. Set aside some real alone time so that you can spend that time together and alone.
It is important that you use a combination of several things to set up the situation just right. You want to make sure that you touch your female partner is some very sensual places to start with. Her neck, ears and thighs are places that can really turn her on. Make sure that when you are doing this that you are whispering positive things to her about how you are attracted to her and she is the only things that matters to you.
Remember that when trying to achieve an orgasm they key thing is to set the mood and take your time. It is always a good idea to get the information you need so that you have all the tricks and secrets to the best lovemaking techniques.
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