tantric - The Art of Divine Touch
Be a healer for your woman by becoming a more artful lover. Learn how your touch can be deeply healing as well as open her up to her full orgasmic potential.
The Art of Divine Touch is an opportunity for you to learn to give Eros’ touch to your beloved as she has so lovingly given to you.
In a temple setting, in a sacred way you will be re-trained in the art of sensual touch in a series of informative, experiential and fun sessions . Level One is required first to take any of the other sessions. You can however, after doing Level One and speaking with me, do any of the other levels in any order you would like.
Level One will teach you how to develop your touch both sensually and as a healer. You will learn how to become more present and in your body; how to ground your energy and how to be sensitive to your partner’s energy. In this initial session you will learn how to move you and your partner’s energy through breathing and how to create a safe and loving space for her. You will also learn how to give a well rounded massage and brush up on massage techniques.
Level Two will teach you how to connect even more with your healer-within and how to create a sacred setting both physically and energetically. Learn powerful communication techniques that will keep the energy between the two of you ever flowing. You will also learn how to read your beloved’s yoni, how to identify the type of yoni she has, (based on her physiology). You will be able to review what you have learned in the first session as well as learn how to give the Yoni Massage (outer genitalia) to your partner.
Level Three will teach you how to give your woman the 3000 year old Tantric Sacred Spot Healing Massage, (G-spot), opening her up to her full orgasmic potential. You will also have an opportunity to review the Yoni Massage as well if you have taken that session.
Level Four will teach you how to arouse your beloved to a heightened state of ecstacy and keep her there for an extended period of time. You will also learn how to read the arousal signs of a woman’s body. This session is available to couples or if you prefer to work with my co-teacher a double goddess session can be arranged. (This session is new and will available soon. If you are interested in taking this please let me know.)
Each session is two hours in length and is a “hands-on” experience. You will work on one of the teachers or you may invite your beloved to participate with you. In fact, couples are encouraged to learn The Art of Divine Touch together.
TantricGoddess Worship
Goddess Worship is not a “scene” in a Dominate /Submissive sense. It is a yoga - a science and system that teaches you to explore and discover your sexuality as your connection to the creative life forces within you. The practice of this system is a personal creation, designed to suit your interests and taste. We co-create together, based on what’s present, moment to moment. I assist you in understanding your connection to life and how to deepen that connection through personal practices and union with the embodiment of Goddess, in women. From a tantric perspective, every man and women holds a spark of divine essence within them. Therefore, by acknowledging the divinity in one another, we evoke that presence. Man and women are equal opposites to one another. We may willingly take turns serving one another, but neither is less than the other. Serving the God/Goddess in a tantric way stimulates the innate love and devotion to the Divine. The essence of this expression is available to anyone who you truly are able to perceive divine essence with. Thus the greeting, Namaste which means the divine being within me greets and recognizes the divine being within you. In Tantra, a man learns to raise his consciousness along with his frequency by not ejaculating regularly. It is most empowering when this is practiced willfully and with conscious choice. The tantric evolved man understands that the longer he holds his seed within him, the more power and energy he gathers. When serving Goddess from a place of high personal power, he joins with her at high frequencies, becoming an equal counterpart to the Goddess he serves. A tantric union is a very real connection based on the true expression of souls. Each person gives offerings to one another. Since you are new to this, I will guide you through the stages of calling forth and honoring the Goddess, until you feel it naturally flow as an out pour of your own true expressions. I will teach you how to awaken the Goddess and ride along with her in the abundant range of pleasurable sensations in the multi-orgasmic, ecstatic realms. Much of this is possible through manual and energetic stimulation. As you meet in high realms with me — I may grant you the blessings of more intimate connections. It is a journey that unfolds infinitely- mysteriously and more beautifully than either of us could ever imagine…
Offerings like these gained devotees passage to the wisdom, and desires of the Goddess.
Learn to Tune into the subtle messages of her body and find out precisely how to dedicate yourself to her pleasure.
- Learn to give a sensual massage
- Do nude chores
- Participate in Ritual Body Worship
- Worship her Lotus feet
- Be mesmerized through erotic hypnosis
- Learn ejaculatory control
- Experience a Golden Blessing
- Transmit sex energy through your eyes, lips, breath, and touch into the body of the Goddess
What Is Tantra
“Lead me from the unreal to real! Lead me from darkness to light!
Lead me from death to immortality!”
Tantra is a meditative approach to sexuality, a profound path to deepening the intimate relationship one has with oneself and with the Beloved. While rooted in ancient ritual practices from Hinduism and Buddhism, modern Tantra combines insights from humanistic and transpersonal psychology, sexology, yoga and meditation to create a set of powerful tools for personal growth and deep intimacy.
Tantra, in the ancient Sanskrit language, means weaving, and refers to a weaving-together of sensory experience, and the joining of masculine and feminine energies. In the Hindu myth of creation, Shiva and Shakti created the Universe by conjoining their masculine and feminine energies.
The tantric practitioner approaches enlightenment through the avenue of bodily and sensory experience. Tantra teaches that bliss is possible in every moment, if we only pay attention to our experience, quieting the chattering, busy mind.
The goal of tantric practice is the union of the Masculine and Feminine; since each of us has masculine and feminine energies within, Tantra can be practiced alone or with a partner. The meditative practices take one deep within the body, working with sexual energies which arise in the genitals.
Through using the breath and focused attention it is possible to draw that energy upwards, to the heart and ultimately the crown of the head, spreading energetic joy throughout the body.
While intensifying sexual experience, Tantra is primarily about intimate and present connection – with the self, and with the Beloved – and ultimately, with the Divine.
Tantra has many levels of study and an unlimited degree of potential for spiritual gain, for sexual delight, and for worldly success.
Tantric lessons are important tools for todays individuals and couples who are searching for a significantly different way of relating to each other, couples who want to sustain love and sexual passion for lifetime together”.
From Tantra the Art of Conscious Loving by Charles and Caroline Muir
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What is Tantra Yoga, Really?
“Union of the mind is alignment. Union of the body is sex. Union of the heart is love. Union of the spirit is Tantra.
In its rawest form, Tantra Yoga can be used for heightened sexual experiences and for sexual healing.
In its middle path, Tantra Yoga is sacred sexuality raising love-making to a sacrament and an art form with ceremony and ritual.
In its highest path, Tantra Yoga is the union of two spirits into oneness to experience unconditional love and gratitude as the purest energy of the divine Spirit.
History
Tantra Yoga is an ancient Eastern science of enlightenment with roots as far back as the third or fourth millennium B.C.E. to the Dravidian people in the Indus Valley in India. Since the 1920s when the Harappan culture was first discovered, more sites have been found, covering an area of more than 1.3 million square kilometers, larger than any other archaic civilization. This was a matriarchic society honoring the life-cycles and the feminine principle. Although the exact beginnings of Tantra Yoga are controversial, there is evidence of its ancient existence in some form.
“Unlike most mystical paths, Tantra Yoga includes sexuality as a doorway to ecstasy and enlightenment. Tantra Yoga is not a religion, but rather a way of life.” Tantra Yoga in its Western form has been called, the “Yoga of Sex”. This label diminishes the true path of Tantra and has spawned many variations of the sacred-sexuality practices and spiritual path into sexual techniques for pleasure.
“Tantra Yoga is very holistic in its approach to life, health, and spirituality. The word tantra literally means ‘expansion.’ A tantra yogi’s path focuses on expansion of all levels of their consciousness to realize the Supreme Source.” The practices of Tantra Yoga awaken and balance the male and female energies within each person in order to spiritually awaken to the entire universe as the divine life force, or Spirit.
What are some of the common misconceptions about Tantra?
Because there are many taboos in our society, a majority of people in our culture still have a puritanical view of sex. There was major shift in consciousness in the 1960‘s, called the sexual revolution, when the youth of that time, revolted against centuries of sexual suppression and authoritarian control. Even with this revolution, our social mores tend to keep sexuality and sensuality in a forbidden black box.
“Again, there has been a historical tendency in European and American societies to exoticise and eroticise the ‘East’, to appropriate it by reducing it to the object of one’s desires and fears. Tantric Buddhism as a religion which is cool about sex comes handy as a counter-model to one’s own religion, perceived as repressive and un-erotic.”
— Prof. Christoph Emmrich in the Journal of Historical Studies, University of Toronto.
What are the benefits of practicing Tantra Yoga?
There are many, many benefits. The greatest benefit is the awakening of an inner joy that you may have never known was there, the joy of aliveness and oneness.
You become able to open your heart to yourself at a deep level and make changes in your life that are aligned with your heart’s desires and for your highest good.
In addition, by gaining mastery of your sexual energy, you manifest loving and fulfilling relationships, expand your capacity for spiritual ecstasy.
Because the second chakra energy is the creative, life-giving energy in us all, this energy can be focused to use for manifesting our decrees. There are several moditations that you can do alone or with a partner in order to align energies for the purpose of manifesting a specific intention.
There are known health benefits also. When practicing Tantra Yoga, endorphins, oxytocins (and other natural hormones and chemicals such as DHEA) are released improving health and vitality. The breath work and the yoga of Tantra increase flexibility, circulation and energy flow.
So how did Tantra get a bad “rep”?
First, the prevalent organized religions held beliefs that sexuality had to be denied in order to attain enlightenment. So Tantra challenged the repressive moralistic codes of organized religion in a persistent nonconformist approach which finally influenced the major Eastern religions such as Hindu, Taoist and Buddhist traditions.
Second, many Tantric mystics used unconventional methods to teach. Their intention was to awaken people to the holistic nature of spirituality and sexuality. However, in the process, their sometimes outrageous behaviors and approach scandalized traditional society bringing condemnation upon themselves.
Third, and probably the most significant to us, is that sex sells and many people have used Tantra to sell their workshops, CDs, their services and products through titillation and exploitation. “
Current Affairs | Comment (1)The Tantric Path
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The terms Tantra, Tantric, Tantrik refer to a philosophy, a science, an art and a way of life whereby sexual energy is consciously and creatively utilized. In it’s simplest form, Tantra means paying attention 100% to what you’re doing. The mystical treatises, known as the Tantras, contain a broad spectrum of practical techniques for enhancing sexual awareness and achieving transcendence. The hidden potency of sexual union is the seed of all creativity. Through an understanding of the practical teachings of Tantra, a whole new experience of life opens up. Tantra shares great similarities with the Taoist tradition of China, but derives from the Hindu teachings of India and the Tibetan Buddhist lineage, both of which trace their roots to the Tantras, texts written in ancient Sanskrit. The Tantric approach to spirituality makes use of the senses of the body rather than suggesting, as is done in other religious teachings, that these should be suppressed, in order to transcend the physical world and its desires. It is greatly useful in an individuals private path of spiritual unfoldment and enlightenment, to awaken Kundalini, and utilize it in the synergistic combination of sexuality and spirituality.
The foundations of Buddhism are 4 main written bodies of text, the Tantras, the Vedas, the Sutras and another whose name I forget. The Tantras are Sanskrit and amongst the most ancient written languages on the planet. I don’t read Sanskrit, or anything except English and Computer Languages, so I must plead ignorance, as I am dependent upon translators. The strongest tradition of Tantra is with the Tibetan Buddhist Monks, now scattered to the winds thanks to the Chinese invasion of Tibet. The 2nd living body of Tantra is intermixed with Indian Hinduism.
In the West, Tantra has been “refocussed”, with emphasis upon the sex-positive aspects as being so in contrast with the sex-negative aspects of the extant religio-culture. Amongst the various Tantra teachers I studied under in the San Francisco Bay Area, there was a predominance of appealing to the glamour of the sexuality of Tantra, and a lack of rootedness, groundedness, to help people utilize Kundalini while grounded in their bodies.
My conclusion, embodied in the order I teach, is that people need a foundation of meditation with grounding to stay in their bodies while running Kundalini, and psychic clearing techniques to help them become empowered to release their blockages/issues, before they learn Kundalini/Kriya/Tantra Yoga techniques which raise the Kundalini which lights-up their issues to be dealt with. A Kriya is a spasm caused by blockages in the Kundalini channels… Thus Kriya Yoga pushes the limits and triggers clearing of the blockages in the Kundalini energy channels in the body.
Harish Johari, one of the teachers I studied with, has a number of good books out (Destiny Press ), which interpret in a Western context the foundations of Tantra, and goes beyond the sex-glamour.
I was raised atheist by an Engineer/Scientist, and so was spared the dogma of all religions except Western Science (an atheist religion). Once I blew-the-pictures that Spirit “doesn’t exist”, I was free to study all the world religions superficially, which I did with open 3rd eye… thus arriving at a non-denominational spiritualist paradigm relatively free of terran religious dogma. Seeking of better sex led me to Tantra, which led me to spirit, so I’m not totally down on the sex-glamour of Tantra, but I find most teachers to fail to provide their students with sufficient grounding tools, and tools for clearing-your-issues when your Tantra inspired Kundalini rises and shoves them all in your face to deal with.
Sometimes the most loving and compassionate act (Quan Yin / Tara) is to fiercly confront (Kali) the illusions of ego some poor soul has become lost in. In the Hindu and Tibetan Tantras you’ll almost always find the dualistic God(desse)s… having both a benign compassionate face and a very fierce confrontive face, e.g. Tara/Kali.
Current Affairs | Comment (1)Sizzling Sex Life: 5 Spicy Practices for Making Love Hot
We all know it happens: A few years (or sometimes a few months!) into a relationship, sex can get boring, even with a partner that you still love in your heart. Like boiling away the flavor from a stick of cinnamon, you may find that the “heat” has evaporated from the bedroom.
But don’t toss out that relationship! With the right technique, you may still be able to get some spice back into your sex life.
1. Change the environment. Making love in the same place, at the same time, encourages you to do the same thing over and over again. You can have sex in a new place, like the kitchen or the shower. Or, you can change the bedroom in some way, like painting it, getting some fresh bedding, or hanging a new piece of art. Your mind doesn’t care too much what you do, just that it’s something different.
2. Change the position. If you always go through the same three positions every time you have sex, you’re going to get tired of them sometime. If you enjoy those positions, how about changing the order in which you perform them? Or try using pillows and experimenting with different angles. You never know just what might hit a new great spot for one or both of you.
3. Just add water. Ever try adding water to your lovemaking? You can have sex with water added in a lot of different ways, from sensual to silly. The most obvious is to make love in the shower or tub, if it’s big enough for both of you. You could also try using water in ice form to make sex interesting. Try holding an ice cube in your teeth, using it to gently touch your partner’s skin. Or hold a cube in your fingers and rub a little more firmly. And how about using water guns on each other—naked, of course!
4. Let’s pretend. Admit it, you do have sexual fantasies. And even though you may not want to play them out exactly as they are in your mind, you could certainly try bits and pieces. There’s no reason to make your fantasies so literal in real life.
For example, you could pretend that there’s someone in the closet watching. Or use crepe paper ties for fun. Add a prop like a pirate’s hat or fishnet stockings. Use your imagination and have a bit of a giggle. After all, there’s no rule that sex always has to be so serious.
5. Toys. Some people think that toys like vibrators are just used to help women along to orgasm. But there are lots and lots of toys out there for both sexes. Trying out a new toy together can be a lot of fun. You can surprise your partner with a new toy, or you can go shopping together, either at a toy shop or online.
Don’t settle for vanilla when you can have any “flavor” of sex that you can imagine! Enjoy!
Current Affairs | Comment (0)Tantra - Sex Tips to Pleasing your Man
My be you all surprised. Well pleasing your man can make you and him much happier. Since this is such an important aspect to a relationship for your man, it is important that you know how to please him.
Now this is also for your own selfish reasons. A guy that is getting incredible sex from his woman is less likely to cheat. Also, he is going to be more willing to return the favor in and out of bed. Sex is just not as important for most women. But if he is being pleased, he is going to be more attentive to what is important.
Let me just say that great sex by itself will not keep a man from cheating. I do not want any woman to feel guilt about some jerk cheating on them. All I am saying is that it lessens the chances of that happening. Many guys have stayed in relationships because the sex was so good.
Here are the ways to please your man:
1. Masturbate. Guys are very visual. The site of a woman pleasing herself is a big turn on. This is not only good for him, but it is also good for you. This will hopefully lessen the time it takes for you to have an orgasm. Then just when you are about to have an orgasm, let him finish it for you. Both you and he will be happy.
2. Become Easily Orgasmic. Believe it or not ladies, the good guys really care about you have an orgasm. They want to you enjoy the experience as much as they do. The problem is that some times it can take so long that it ruins the mood.
This goes back to #1. If you know what pleases you, and if you are getting warmed up, then your orgasm will come a lot easier. To have to work an hour or more will just frustrate you and him. Find out what you like and show him. He will be happy to help.
3. Oral Sex. Wow, another newsflash. If this is something you do not like to do, that is fine. Just realize that most guys love it. If you can find a way to move past your issues with this your man will love you for it.
You should not be forced or encourage to do anything that will make you feel degraded, but the reality is oral sex is a major turn on for a guy. Not just the physical sensation, but the visual will stay with him a long time. There is still one thing that a woman did that gives me flashbacks years later. Uh, let us move on.
4. Find your own G Spot and then show him. Sure it would be nice if he took the initiative and looked for it, but you know most guys. Do you think that will happen? Good luck. Besides if he did, do you really want him playing around with your body off of some article he found on the internet?
No save him the time and you the aggravation and find it for him. That way it will be more pleasurable for both of you. Now you can spend your time pleasing and be pleased instead of trying to play anatomy.
5. Fake It. That is right. Most men really want their women to have an orgasm. Not only because it pleases the woman, but because it strokes the guys ego. Now you do not have to put on some performance from a porn movie, but just a nice orgasm is fine.
This benefits you also. You can avoid the frustration of having to wait. The guy is more likely to want to please you because he knows this want be a job. It also saves you time because then you can go do something you would rather be doing.
Hopefully this will help you and your man have a happy and steamier sex life. Turn up the heat in the bedroom and watch him turn up the heat everywhere else.
Tantra Sexuality for Better Lovemaking
Tantra sex control allows better penis function. It does this by addressing the problem of premature ejaculation which many males experience. Premature ejaculation is having an orgasm quite suddenly after entering your female partner.
The quickness of orgasm is triggered by a number of factors. It all boils down to sexual excitement and is a combination of breathing, pulse rate, and blood pressure. The acceleration of all these components brings on ejaculation.
If the speeding up of these processes can lead to premature ejaculation then the slowing down can lead to better sex and longer lovemaking.
Breathing speeds up during sex. Tantra sex techniques show that by slowing down your breathing you can postpone orgasm. In Tantra they say that breath regulation, with certain awareness exercises, makes sex last longer by slowing down the breathing process.
One Tantra breathing technique is to be conscious of your breathing during sex. Notice your inhalation and exhalation. All of this has the effect of slowing down the physical reactions which lead to premature ejaculation.
Sexual excitement can create tension in the body and this too can lead to premature ejaculation. A Tantra method for this is to relax and let go. The muscles of the body can be trained to relax at will. There are techniques like progressive relaxation that can also be used during sex.
Men get turned on visually by their partners during lovemaking. This can lead to lack of penis control. Tantra methods teach to engage the mind in a process of visualization. By using the mind to picture a scene of a garden for example. This Tantra technique can lead to sex lasting longer.
In Tantra sex it says contributing factors to lack of penis control such as stress, incorrect breathing habits, and poor mental attitudes can be reduced.
Simultaneously the habits of proper breathing, body relaxation during sex, and right mental attitude can lead to a rich sexual experience.This is waht Tantra sex shows you. The application of the wisdom of Tantra sex control for better penis function materials are now available online as never before.
Increase Libido and Sexual Satisfaction - Herbs for Both Men and Women That Work
If you are male or female you can increase libido and sexual satisfaction by simply taking some herbs which will improve sexual energy and intensity of orgasm. You can do this by taking a combination of herbs to increase libido which are enclosed…
Before we look at the herbs themselves, lets look at common problems for both men and women which cause low libido.
While many see testosterone as a male sexual booster it’s also crucial for women as well and a lack of it causes low sex drive.
Another chemical produced naturally in the body is nitric oxide and its role is to allow the sex organs to flood with blood, by expanding the blood vessels that feed them. In men the result is an erection (in fact a man can never get an erection without enough of this chemical) and the result is not so obvious in women - but Nitric oxide performs the same function, making sure the sex organs are flooded with blood.
Libido and sexual satisfaction can be affected by poor blood circulation and you need blood to pump strongly. As sexual arousal starts, your heart rate quickens and blood is pumped to the genitals. Not only is strong blood circulation needed for sexual health, its needed for overall wellness as well.
Stress, fatigue and anxiety are passion killers and can result in you not being in the mood for sex. It’s a fact that you need a lot of energy in the body and this will result in stronger sex drive.
Ginkgo Biloba
Ginkgo Biloba improves blood flow and oxygen throughout the body and makes sure the brain which consumes around 20% of all oxygen consumed in the body, has enough which helps reduce stress and lifts mood.
The herbs anti-oxidant action helps to maintain healthy tissue, protects and keeps the blood vessels healthy and at the same time reduces arteriosclerotic lesions. Its simply one of the best herbs you can take for peak sexual health and wellness.
Horny Goat Weed
Plays a key role in peak sexual wellness by, fighting stress and energizing the whole body. It also helps to increase levels of both testosterone and nitric oxide.
Cnidium
One of the best herbs to increase libido you can take and just like prescription drugs increases nitric oxide and inhibits PD5. The herb also acts to help promote stronger blood circulation and nourishes the blood at the same time.
Ashwagandha Extract - “Indian Ginseng”
This herb provides powerful nutritional support, to energize and rejuvenate the whole body and is a great stress and anxiety buster. The herb is a tonic herb for the body and mind and helps build deep vitality and this manifests itself in stronger sex drive.
Get them All in the best natural Sex Pills
There are natural sex pills for both men and women which will blend the above herbs with others specifically for men and women which are proven to increase libido and improve overall health.
There natural, safe and work so try them and increase libido and sexual satisfaction naturally just as nature intended.
7 Tips for Women to Bring Back the Prom Night Romance
A Laid-Back atmosphere helps: Make sure that your room is of “mild lighting”. The faded light helps so long as it’s not too dim. Then be standing in front of a tall mirror. Hold your hair up off your neck with both hands. Ask him to stand him behind you and undress you” Slowly”. It’s got to be slow and if he rushes, have him slow down.
High heels and more: Get in the habit of wearing high heels and stockings in the bedroom along with a light string or belt across the navel. It’s a proven way to arouse him. Further more, if you learn to belly dance with this, you will fuel up the passionate “fire”.
Body Paint: Buy some body paint and paint each other. This is one art form that’s sweeping all across Europe. Some body painting is far more elaborate and effective than any costume you ever came across. Many artists are now creating mind blowing illusions with their brushes and air brush techniques. However - Be sure to use only those paints which are made for this purpose.
Visit a Lingerie Website together? This is one kind of shopping he will never try to “chuck out of” .Talk about different models and designs that he likes and you do too….what he thinks will look go on you…A lot comes out of this - Guaranteed. You will know what turns him on and maybe he could get into the idea of buying a lingerie gift for you!!
Surprise Surprise! Men love the surprise element. It is often well said that some things work best when unplanned. Make “plans” for the kids and take him to a honeymoon suite with a hot tub in the room. Be sure to bring in candles and music (sound tracks from prom night?) Order the room service. Leave your swimsuits at home! Be sure to make it a surprise. The biggest of boys are still little boys at heart…though they’ll never admit it
A bit more radical:Tell him that you want to play a little game – That you want to pretend that you are going out on a first date with him and that you are a virgin. It will be his job to plan the date. He’ll get ready and then go out for a drink. You’ll dress as school girlish as you can! After he comes to pick you up, it will be his job to romance and seduce you.
Adventure:Drive to a lake and go skinny-dipping under the moonlight. Little adventures like these can re-kindle those prom night moments. Be sure to bring a cozy, soft and warm blanket to cuddle up under…a snack…and your favorite beverage.
These secrets are sure to turn your man on, arouse his dormant passions for the relationship and bring back those magic moments.
Great Sexuality for Men With Love
Tips That Work
Here are some sexuality tips for men that want ot give their female partner the best lovemaking experience. There is a muscle in the penis when strengthened can provide harder erections. When the pubucoccygeal muscle is strong it can give you more control over ejaculation and have more intense orgasms.
One well known penis exercise is to tighten your muscles to stop the flow while urinating. Do a couple of repetitions daily and slowly build up.
Another popular way gain a stiffer penis is to take an all natural penis pill enhancer. A natural pill can stimulate the body’s own hormones. More hormones can lead to a harder and stronger and stiffer penis.
A great, but often overlooked, thing you can do for your penis is to be healthy. Your penis being connected to the body is influenced by how healthy you are. Here are some healthy tips.
Eat a good diet. Food is fuel. Quality food will benefit your body. What benefits your body does the same for your penis.
Beware of things that can harm erections. Things like medicines can have side effects for your penis. It is always best to check with your Doctor beforehand.
Smoking and excessive alcohol can lead to a limp penis. Everything in moderation is a good idea.
Get plenty of sleep. Sleep is where your body regenerates itself. Go to bed with a clear head. If you take worry and concern to bed with you it can stop you from having a deep sleep. As a result when you awaken you are not as refreshed.
Too much stress can keep you from getting an erection. It helps if you are mentally relaxed during sex. Tension in the body limits how much blood can flow.
If someone is stressed out it is more difficult to have an erection because blood to the penis does not flow as easily. Relaxation and hard erections are partners.
Overeating before sex is a bad idea. A stuffed stomach uses a lot of energy. If your body is processing your last meal that means less energy for your body to use during erection time. Eating a light meal, instead of a heavy one, before sex is a good idea.
To recap here are some do’s and don’ts tips for harder erections.
Don’t
Don’t smoke
Don’t abuse drugs or alcohol
Don’t overeat
Don’t consume refined carbohydrates
Do’s
Do approach methods of penis enlargement and sexual enhancement with wisdom and sensitivity to your body’s responses
Do eat healthy meals
Do get lots of sleep
Do keep stress to a minimum
Do take good care of yourself first and always.
Current Affairs | Comments (21)Tantra: The Art of Mind-Blowing Sex
Whether you are in a relationship, whether you are single, gay or straight, or young or old, Tantra will bring a new dimension to your sex life and your relationships. From extending orgasms (or just having them in the first place), to healing sexual problems to developing a sense of spiritual connection, Tantra is for every ‘body’. Tantra is not just about being sexy - it’s about being alive to your senses. It is particularly appealing to women because it is they who take the lead. Tantra also gives women the opportunity to celebrate their femininity and men are encouraged to revere it. Many women are self-conscious about their bodies - Tantra will help you to be conscious of your body but in a positive and empowering way. And for men the pressure to perform is removed, replaced by reciprocation, connection and ultimate fulfilment (so no more grunting, turning over and falling asleep).
Current Affairs | Comment (0)Embracing Tantra From ’sacred sexuality’ to spiritual development
What Is Tantra? The word Tantra is becoming increasingly familiar, as a practice embraced by celebrities such as Sting, Woody Harrelson and Scarlett Johanssen, to name a few, and as an exotic, somewhat laughable approach to sex, as depicted in movies and on television - from ”American Pie” to ”Meet the Fokkers” to ”Sex and the City.” Sting’s famous assertion that he and his wife, Trudy, make love for seven hours at a stretch created a stir, but his subsequent explanation that this included dinner and a movie, and his more recent statement that Tantra is about experiencing the sacred through relationship, attracted far less attention.
The general public seems to have a vague sense that Tantra has something to do with sex, while those with a bit more knowledge are likely to think of it as a form of sexual Yoga. The former impression, however limited, is far closer to the truth, but Tantra is a vast subject and not an easy term to define. We hope this overview will both provide some insight into and debunk many of the misconceptions that have developed about this remarkable spiritual path.
Many people who attend our introductory workshops give voice to the popular stereotypes and answer that it is something celebrities do, that it is about better sex and marathon lovemaking sessions. Others suggest that it is a way of bringing spirituality into sex, as if the two were ever separate. As Westerners and products of our culture, we cannot avoid the influence of this popular mythology, but in our practice and study, we strive to arrive at a deeper and, we hope, a more authentic understanding.
The myth that Tantra is primarily sexual originated in either scandalous or scandalizing 19th-century accounts of Tantric rituals. In the early 20th-century, Sir John Woodroffe, also known as Arthur Avalon, a British judge serving in India and a Tantric initiate himself, attempted to legitimize the tradition as part of a pro-Independence effort to celebrate Indian civilization; Avalon was one of the few Westerners involved in this effort, which included a number of influential upper-class Indians. Avalon and his circle de-emphasized the sexual aspects of Tantra, since these aspects remained scandalous to much of the general public and perhaps to Avalon himself, even though there is some evidence that he and his wife practiced Tantric sex together.
Today, most ”New Age” Tantrists have taken the opposite approach and focus on sexuality almost to the exclusion of everything else; we have even heard Tantra defined as ‘’sacred sexuality”. In many instances, New Age practitioners blend together aspects of Hindu Tantra, Tibetan Buddhist Tantra, Taoism and Western psychotherapy - among other things - and invent something that has virtually no relationship to the original tradition. As a result, most people who contact us think that Tantra and Tantric Sex are synonymous, and that Tantric Sex is synonymous with extraordinary lovemaking abilities, with some ”emotional clearing work” thrown in for good measure, and that it must last for hours.
We feel it is unfortunate that such a rich and complex tradition has been reduced to such a banal and simple stereotype. At the same time, we were drawn to Tantra because of its sexual aspects, and we are convinced that consciously exploring sexuality is a rich and meaningful path. It can function as a gateway into an experience or way of being in the world that may be more truly described as Tantric. Thus, we hope to strike a balance between the rigorous and uncompromising view of the many modern scholars and traditionalists who dismiss ”New Age” Tantrism with scorn, and popularizers, who preach the gospel of Tantric Sex, yet have virtually no familiarity with its history and, moreover, have not been initiated into a traditional lineage.
It may be clear by now that Tantra is a confusing and even paradoxical subject, and with that in mind, we offer the following, in hopes that it will give you some new ways of thinking about the meaning of the word Tantra.
Tantra is an ancient tradition that recognizes sexual energy as a source of personal and spiritual empowerment. This sets it apart from most Western traditions and helps explain why most Westerners have reduced it to its sexual elements alone.
Tantra is the magic of transforming one’s consciousness and thereby transforming one’s entire being. Your body is the most powerful tool for bringing about this transformation.
Tantra is a spiritual science. Tantric techniques have been tested and have proven effective for many centuries. If you practice diligently, you will experience results.
Tantra can be quite simple. Everyone has had Tantric experiences; it is not always so simple to notice them.
Tantra can be embraced in whole or in part. A few simple practices can often produce profound results.
Tantra is goalless, unless exploring and expanding consciousness can be called a goal. Goal orientation is one of the biggest obstacles faced by the aspiring Tantrika; abandoning specific goals and focusing on what you are doing in the moment, with as much awareness as you can muster, are the keys to effective practice.
Tantra is a way of life. The Tantric approach to exploring your own consciousness is an ever-evolving process of discovery that emerges from daily practice.
Tantra can provide you with the means to deepen your sense of connection to yourself, to your partner, to all that is.
Tantra includes practices, which, while often simple, can lead to the experience of extraordinary ecstasy.
Tantra is a technology of mind and body that will lead you to know yourself deeply.
Tantra is for people of ”heroic” temperament, already presumably healthy. Anyone interested in practicing Tantra should have done considerable work on him/herself before beginning on the path. Traditionally, this type of work often included many years of yogic study and practice; for Westerners, psychotherapy may be the best form of preparation for serious Tantric study, since it provides the student with many of the necessary tools for the self-exploration that is such a central part of Tantra.
Tantra is a pragmatic way to loosen the bonds of unconscious, habitual behavior and thereby start to live more freely and fully.
Tantra is a discipline of becoming yourself completely. In the end, there is nothing at all to do. Tantra is pragmatic and non-moralistic. You can utilize whatever tools are at hand for the purpose of expanding consciousness.
To sum it up, one way to define Tantra is to say it is: the science of self-exploration.
Mark Michaels (Swami Umeshanand Saraswati) and Patricia Johnson (Devi Veenanand) are co-authors of ”The Essence of Tantric Sexuality” (Llewellyn Worldwide). A devoted married couple, they have been teaching Tantra and Kriya yoga together since 1999. Senior students of Dr. Jonn Mumford, Michaels and Johnson have been named lineage holders of the OM Kara Kriya
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Part 1: The Basic of Tantrism
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Tantra has been one of the most neglected branches of Indian spiritual studies despite the considerable number of texts devoted to this practice, which dates back to the 5th-9th century AD.
Many people still consider tantra to be full of obscenities and unfit for people of good taste. It is also often accused of being a kind of black magic. However, in reality, tantra is one of the most important Indian traditions, representing the practical aspect of the Vedic tradition.
The religious attitude of the tantriks is fundamentally the same as that of the Vedic followers. It is believed that the tantra tradition is a part of the main Vedic tree. The more vigorous aspects of Vedic religion were continued and developed in the tantras. Generally tantriks worship either Goddess Shakti or Lord Shiva.
The Meaning of “Tantra”
The word “tantra” is derived from the combination of two words “tattva” and “mantra”. “Tattva” means the science of cosmic principles, while “mantra” refers to the science of mystic sound and vibrations. Tantra therefore is the application of cosmic sciences with a view to attain spiritual ascendancy. In another sense, tantra also means the scripture by which the light of knowledge is spread: Tanyate vistaryate jnanam anemna iti tantram.
There are essentially two schools of Indian scriptures — “Agama” and “Nigama”. Agamas are those which are revelations while Nigama are the traditions. Tantra is an Agama and hence it is called “srutishakhavisesah”, which means it is a branch of the Vedas.
Tantric Scriptures
The main deities worshipped are Shiva and Shakti. In tantra there is a great significance of “bali” or animal sacrifices. The most vigorous aspects of Vedic traditions evolved as an esoteric system of knowledge in the Tantras. The Atharva Veda is considered to be one of the prime tantrik scriptures.
Types & Terminology
There are 18 “Agamas”, which are also referred to as Shiva tantras, and they are ritualistic in character. There are three distinct tantrik traditions — Dakshina, Vama and Madhyama. They represent the three “shaktis” or powers of Shiva and are characterised by the three “gunas” or qualities - “sattva”, “rajas” and “tamas”. The Dakshina tradition, characterised by the “sattva” branch of tantra is essentially for good purpose. The Madhyama, characterised by “rajas” is of mixed nature, while the Vama, characterised by “tamas” is the most impure form of tantra.
Rustic Tantriks
In Indian villages, tantriks are still not quite hard to find. Many of them help the villagers solve their problems. Every person who has lived in the villages or has spent his childhood there, has a story to tell. What is so easily believed in the villages might appear illogical and unscientific to the rational urban mind, but these phenomena are realities of life.
Desire for Worldly Pleasures
Tantra is different from other traditions because it takes the whole person, and his/her worldly desires into account. Other spiritual traditions ordinarily teach that desire for material pleasures and spiritual aspirations are mutually exclusive, setting the stage for an endless internal struggle. Although most people are drawn into spiritual beliefs and practices, they have a natural urge to fulfill their desires. With no way to reconcile these two impulses, they fall prey to guilt and self-condemnation or become hypocritical. Tantra offers an alternative path.
The Tantrik Approach To Life
The tantrik approach to life avoids this pitfall. Tantra itself means “to weave, to expand, and to spread”, and according to tantrik masters, the fabric of life can provide true and ever-lasting fulfillment only when all the threads are woven according to the pattern designated by nature. When we are born, life naturally forms itself around that pattern. But as we grow, our ignorance, desire, attachment, fear, and false images of others and ourselves tangle and tear the threads, disfiguring the fabric. Tantra “sadhana” or practice reweaves the fabric, and restores the original pattern. This path is systematic and comprehensive. The profound science and practices pertaining to hatha yoga, pranayama, mudras, rituals, kundalini yoga, nada yoga, mantra, mandala, visualization of dieties, alchemy, ayurveda, astrology, and hundreds of esoteric practices for generating worldly and spiritual prosperity blend perfectly in the tantrik disciplines.
The Wild World of Tantra
Have you ever seen anyone praying his or her own portrait? You may think it’s preposterous, but what about those few who do not believe in God and instead consider the physical self as the Supreme Reality? Here’s a peek into the wild world of Tantrism.
Satifying the Self
There are some ancient Hindu texts, which emphasize the exaltation of the physical self more than anything else. The concept that arises out of this kind of devotion to self, forms the basis of what is known as tantra, and the followers of this ‘crude side’ of Hinduism are called tantrics. These people not only glorify the physical body but also go to any extent to satisfy the self to attain occult powers. Tantrism entails the antinomianistic or immoral way of gaining uncanny powers. According to Tantrism, it is through bhoga or satisfying desires that man can gain salvation, and he must do anything that he wishes to do, particularly those that are regarded sinful.
Origin of Tantrism
There are many disputes about its origins. Some observe that the Pre-Aryan Indians could have been the originators, others ascribe it to the tradition of primitive people. Whatever its remote origins may be, historically it can be dated about the time of the rise of Buddhism, because the later Buddhists adopted some of the Tantric symbols and have grown as a sect. Today, tantra is not practised widely in India, and survives mostly in the far northeast, amid the jungles and foothills of the Himalayas.
Life of a Tantric Sadhaka
A sadhaka, or person performing tantric acts, lives a simple life, practices yoga and meditates in the quiet of the countryside, far away from the madding crowd. He is distinguished by his saffron robe and begging bowl, or in some cases he might go stark naked! He sells charms, amulets, ‘magical’ medicines and herbs. He sometimes gathers together with other sadhus to form vast processions during religious festivals. So much for the brighter side of a tantric. The darker half involves taking drugs, inflicting austerities upon himself, or doing certain things that outrage morality.
Tantra Teachings
Tantras, like the Vedas, are collections of verses suggesting elaborate directions for the right way to worship. They are generally esoteric, mystical teachings addressed to the sadhakas. Sex and the various postures of love-making form an important tenet of tantrism. There is an adolescent fascination about breaking the sexual code with women. Using obscene words, visiting prostitutes or seducing another man’s wife is held conducive to acquisition of uncommon powers.
Kundalini: Serpent Power
Another way to acquire siddhi or occult powers, is by practising Kundalini or ’serpent power’. According to the tantric texts, a serpent lies in our crotch, extending to the rectum. To awaken it, one must perform certain yoga, which will gradually arouse it. Practising Kundalini uncoils the serpent and releases vast energy, which proceeds up our spine like hot liquid. The skin burns, we sweat and experience a stinging sensation. The siddhi attained through this method can be so powerful that it may destroy the person if not controlled. Kundalini rises and when it reaches its limit, there is complete bliss. And once the sadhaka reaches this goal he becomes a sadhu or sage.
Shri Gorakhnath
According to some legends all kinds of bhoga conglomerated in the person of Gorakhnath, a tantric of the eleventh century, who worked with both good and evil to gain magical powers. Also called Ghor Nath (from ghor, filth) or the ‘Lord of Filth’, because, as say legends, God created Gorakhnath from the sweat of his breast, Gorakhnath is often credited as being the founder of Kundalini Yoga and Hatha Yoga, and has many followers in India and Nepal.
Tantrics are wild people with ingenuous tastes, possessing an intense love of freedom of the will. They can be hailed as the predecessors of the hippie movement in America in the sixties, for they have much in common. It is particularly interesting to note that, in the 17th century British-India, when tantrism was extant, the English were horrified to discover such a barbaric practice and tabooed it as a kind of obscene voodoo.
Obsession for the Female Form
For the tantrics, the object of devotion is not the male God, but his wife. They fanatically admire the woman form in all her aspects. The cruder the better. Their frenzy goes to the extent of abasing themselves before motherhood, the apotheosis of womanhood. The tantric devotee yearns for mother to take him on her lap. He craves for the security and warmth of her breasts.
Sex for Nirvana
Tantism upholds the view that the best way of being godlike is to have intense sex with a woman. Having sex to the point of utter exhaustion can attain nirvana. While meditating, it is usually the woman’s sexual organs that arrest their concentration, especially when it is combined with the mental picture of penetration.
Gender Bender
One tantric sect believes that every human being has both the male and the female attributes within. Similarly, gods too have bisexual characteristic. A representation of Lord Shiva, at the Elephanta Caves, show the right side of the god being masculine, the left having a female rear and a breast. Another sect of tantrism opines that the male devotee, to complete himself, must think of himself as a woman. He should walk like her, talk like her, have her emotions, and dress like her. Some men, by nature, are more feminine than male and these are particularly holy. They are of several kinds: the eunuch, hermaphrodite, the neuter whose sex has dried up and so on. The devotee, in his search for sexual experience, can try out having sex with such kinds of people.
The orthodox Hindus shun and fear a tantric. He is detested and persecuted by the police, who considered him a charlatan, and an antisocial. Large tantric gatherings are banned. So, very little of it is left in actual practice. Nevertheless, its legacy cannot be ignored.
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Tantra is a loose term assigned to practices characterized by ritual, rites of passage, energy work, and the utilization of the mundane to reach the supramundane and understanding the relationship between the micro and macrocosm. These aspects of Tantra can be spiritual and/or material. A guru is often consulted to help the practitioner have a mystical experience and properly guide them through the associated rituals.
Yoga is a vital part of Tantra as it awakens the ability to reach the divine in the practitioner. An integral part also of Buddhism, there is different forms of yoga in existence to meet a person’s spiritual needs - varying from vigorous to peaceful movements. Visualizations, evocations and mantras can also help the Tantra practitioner reach a point of spiritual awareness.
Tantra has had roots in areas of the world such as China, Tibet, Japan, Cambodia and Indonesia. It is closely affiliated with religions like Hinduism, Buddhism and Jainism. In Hinduism, Tantra ties closely to Vedic tradition- or rather the rejection of the orthodox beliefs. Practicing Tantra is meant to bring the practitioner a blissful feeling of self awareness while sorting away illusions.
The exact rituals associated with Tantra are difficult to pin down since they vary greatly depending on region and the available tantric community. Commonly employed rituals include the repetition of mantras and yantras (amulets) to invoke deities. Feasts and bodily functions can also be included in the rituals. Although it gets the most attention, sexual rituals play a very small part of traditional tantric practices.
The term Tantra is of course most familiar to Westerners for the sexuality related to that small portion of rites. It is believed the sexual practices originated early in the Hindu culture as a means of forming body fluids that were thought to be transformative and a necessary offering to the deities of the Tantra. The fluid exchange often involved man, woman and guru (also a man). The female fluid was thought to be the fluid of the clan and it could be used to mark a man’s belonging to that community. These rituals of Tantra evolved to focus on bliss and the divinity of union.
Tantra evolved when it moved west to become what is known as NeoTantra. The sacredness of sexuality was kept but the involvement of a guru was abandoned, as were some of the ritualistic rules and meditations. NeoTantra followers favor aspects of the Tantra like full body orgasms, the worship of the female and many do still study the non sexual aspects of the rituals.
The history and spirituality of Tantra is so great that those merely seeking sexual thrill might want to look elsewhere. Tantric sexuality is more of a pleasurable religious act than an impulsive physical satisfaction. Studying the meaning of Tantra and employing some of the rituals in conjunction with the acts of physicality will heighten the cognitive clarity that practitioners are truly seeking. The mental effects will last much longer than the physical pleasure, but will pave the path for future enjoyments in bodily union.
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