The Seven Basic Kama Sutra Positions

The Kama Sutra is ancient text that revolves around human sexual behavior. It is believed to be written by Vatsyayana around 4 AD. The Kama Sutra is an integral part of Tantric Sex. Its basic seven positions can be used greatly to your and your partner ’s advantage during Tantric lovemaking.

Kama Sutra Positions - Which One is BEST for You?

The Kama Sutra has seven basic positions.

- Shakti Position (woman on top);
- Shiva Position (man on top);
- Kneeling Position (sort of like the missionary position but her legs are bent; her feet resting flatly on his chest);
- Transverse Position (side-to-side or popularly known as the ’s cissors’ position);
- Cow Position (rear entry or more popularly known as doggy-style);
- Yab-Yum Position (sitting and facing each other; legs entwining or embracing the other ’s body)
- Dancing Position (man is standing; she has her arms wrapped around his neck and her legs wrapped around his waist).

Again, let me remind you that Tantric sex is all about making love and deriving the most sexual pleasure from your body for the longest time. This is not about reaching an orgasm. As such, you should actually NOT go for the position that heightens your sexual tension most at the start.

For example, for most women the Shakti position (woman on top) is the one that usually brings them to reach a climax. So why start with this? Do you want her to come now and end the lovemaking? Why not make love for hours instead of just minutes? Are you beginning to understand the principles of Tantric sex now?

Now for men, it is said that the most sexual tension comes using the Kneeling Position (missionary-type) and the Cow Position (rear entry). So again, why go directly for these positions and end sexual pleasure immediately?

You may be thinking that Tantric sex is bordering on sadism. Not at all. Just because you’re depriving yourself of release (now anyway) does not mean your body is wind up like a tension freak toy all the time you’re making love. There are plenty of way you can ‘relax’ and bring yourself down from the ‘point of no return’.

Besides, delaying orgasm also enables you to experience one at a whole new different level. Think about it. Now, you come within just a few minutes of starting sex, right? Well, just imagine the ultimate pleasure of coming, oh, say 5 hours from now? That ’s definitely worth aiming for isn’t it?

Now, back to the Kama Sutra positions.

How Do You Ensure You Don’t Climax Right Away?

Now that you know which positions are best for her and which ones are best for you to reach climax (NOT your goal yet), what should you do? For one you can start intercourse with the other positions first. (That would be fun!) And as you move towards the other more ‘tension-filled’ ones, remember that it ’s all about the amount of tension and friction you guys exercise.

For example, in the Kneeling Position (missionary-type), don’t just penetrate your partner. Instead, try this Tantric sex exercise.

- Ask her to lie on her back and gently coax her legs apart.
- Ask her if she wants the use of nay lubricant. If you’re not hard yet, that ’s ok. No pressure, remember?
- Now, get into the Kneeling Position and slowly start to touch your manhood against her inner thighs. (You can hold your manhood or simply let it drag over her body for now.)
- After a few ‘grazes’, you’ll probably have a hard on by now. Go over her inner things, belly, and vagina lips again. This time would your erect manhood. (That would be a totally different texture feel for her.)
- Now, start rubbing your manhood against her opening. Gently.
- Ask her permission to enter her. Remember, Tantric sex is also a lot about respecting each other ’s bodies and wishes.
- Once you get approval, move in slow gentle circles without penetration for a few minutes. (If you’ve pre-discussed using a condom, now is the time to put it on.)
- Place your manhood on her clit and slowly bring it down to her opening.
- Penetrate her ever so slowly.
- Proceed with intercourse with very slow strokes.

Once you do this exercise, you will realize that starting slowly and deliberately automatically prevents you from seeking ‘instant gratification’ in the form of sexual release. While doing this exercise, practice Tantric breathing so that your body is never tense and that all your senses are simply tuned to enjoying each stroke you make.

Step-by-Step Tantric Foreplay Exercises - Part 2

Tantric foreplay plays a BIG role in tantric sex because we Tantrikas (followers of tantric sex) believe in taking it slow so that we can get maximum pleasure from each step of the lovemaking process.

Wouldn’t you want to get the very best from each other and the greatest pleasure your bodies each time you make love?

Tantric Foreplay - The Importance of Feedback

Before we begin, it ’s important to note that giving and receiving feedback is an important aspect of tantric foreplay. Not everybody likes the same things and more often than not, we read something or hear some sexy tip and automatically think our partners will like them!

Case in point: Joel (real name withheld for privacy), has seen quite a few x-rated films where ’s pitting’ played a big role. Of course in the movie, the woman liked it and thought his girlfriend would love that too. True enough, after he did it, his girlfriend was disgusted wouldn’t speak to him for quite a while!

While engaging in tantric foreplay, it ’s important that you ask simple questions to ensure that she really likes what you’re doing. For instance, you can simply ask ‘Honey, do you like it when I do this?’. A full blown discussion need not follow! (That would kill the mood.) A simple moan should be enough for you!

Now, here ’s a little tip from advanced Tantric sex followers, establish a sort of ‘gesture sheet’ so that you two can communicate with each other subtly during foreplay (and during actual intercourse too). For instance, her rubbing the top of your head means she likes what you’re doing, massaging your head means she ’s really into what you’re doing, and tugging lightly at your hair means she feels she might cum from what you’re doing!

As for things she ’s not so hot about, a faint grunt or maybe a tightening together of her thighs should tell you to back off a bit with what you’re doing.

Tantric Foreplay - Here ’s How You Can Really Pleasure Her

Following are some tantric foreplay moves you can try tonight!

One: Studies show that most people engage only the upper part of their bodies and each other ’s faces during foreplay. Since we’re after full body pleasure here, start from the bottom up.

- Massage her feet and toes and try some licking and sucking there.
- Move up and gently massage her legs or use some other texture / fabric (e.g., velvet, silk, etc.) to caress her legs.
- Extend her leg up and lick the back of her leg.
- Blow at the back of her knees.
- Stroke inner and outer portions of her thighs. (Did you know that doing this helps increase blood flow to the genitals?)

Two: Use your teeth. Gentle nibbling is encouraged (don’t bite!). When you’re caressing her thighs, go down and nibble at the fleshiest part a little bit. When you’re going down on her, a few very gentle nibbles on her labia are encouraged. When you move upwards to her breasts, nibble around her areola. You may try and tug or gently bite her nipples but be sensitive to how she reacts to this.

You can also use your teeth to graze (like fingernails) other areas of her skin like her shoulder blades and collarbone.

Three: Blindfold her. Blindfolding entails a lot of trust in each other so don’t push this if she ’s not ready. Furthermore, don’t encourage anything or do anything you’re not willing to try yourself. So why try blindfolding during tantric foreplay?

Each time one of the senses is covered, the other senses begin to heighten. For example, the effect of a single lick on her wrist would be magnified a hundred times over if she ’s blindfolded. Also, it builds sexual tension because the mind begins to anticipate certain things. You can even try foreplay with both of you blindfolded!

Four: Please yourself first or ask her to please herself first. At first glance, this may sound like a selfish act completely against Tantric sex principles. Actually, it ’s not.

Showing your partner who you want to be pleased (or vise versa) is a great exercise in trust and ‘education’. Consider this, would you go about pleasing yourself with just anyone? Of course not. You would only be comfortable doing this with someone you love and trust. And at the same time, you’re giving your partner a clear blueprint on how you want to be loved. There ’s absolutely nothing wrong with that!

Step-by-Step Tantric Foreplay Exercises - 1

Tantric sex is all about ‘being one’ with your body, your partner and her body, and with the environment / universe. As such, tantric sex is against rushing things for the purpose of reaching an orgasm. For this reason, it ’s very important to include foreplay in each lovemaking session.

Sadly, foreplay seems to be not an important part of people ’s relationships in today ’s fast-paced world! Well, if you’re interested in tantric sex, then you should know now that tantric foreplay is as important as reaching a climax itself.

Tantric Foreplay Exercises You Should Try

Following are just a few tantric foreplay tips you should try as part of your quest to achieve a passionate sex life, a healthy and happy body, and spiritual growth.

One: Take a sensual bath together. Tantric sex believes in cleanliness in mind, body and spirit. It ’s no wonder then that a sensual bath together is your first tantric foreplay step.

Draw a bath and fill the bathroom with lighted scented oils and candles. Be careful not to overdo the scents as you and your partner might get a headache instead. Personally, I go for one scent (e.g., vanilla or lavender) and use that alone.

While in the bathtub together, you can give your woman a sensual massage to get things going. If you intend to take a sensual bath for a long time, then preparing some food items (e.g., cheese and crackers, fruit, etc.) and some wine would be great!

Here ’s one important tip: ensure that your Sacred Tantric Love Space is ‘ready for occupancy’ when you guys are finished with the sensual bath. It would be a mood killer if you have to set up your tantric love space after being pumped up for love during the bath.

Two: Stare at each other with love and connect with each other spiritually. Rock star Sting and his wife are known to do this foreplay exercise all the time. Sit down cross-legged and face each other. If sitting down cross-legged is difficult, sit on top of a soft pillow to prop yourself up.

With lighted candles all around you and soft music in the air, stare at your partner sitting across you. Make a mental note of why you just love this woman! Make a list in your head of all the qualities that endear this woman to you. You will find your heart growing with love as you list each quality in your head. Ask your partner to do the same.

Now, without breaking eye contact, reach out to each other. Use your right hand, reach out to her and put your palm flat against her chest. Ask her to do the same.

Now, look into each other ’s eyes and let your palms feel each other ’s heartbeat. Pretty soon you will feel that your hands and arms are part of her every breath.

Now let ’s take this one step further. Again, without breaking eye contact, start breathing in and out, alternately. That is, when she exhales, you inhale and vice versa.

All of this together, looking at each other and maintaining eye contact with love, feeling each other ’s heartbeat under your palms, and breathing in and out the very essence of each other will make the two of you feel more connected than ever.

Carry on with this foreplay exercise for as long as you want! I know some people who can do this for hours!

Three: From head-to-toe or bottom up? Tantric sex believes in your right to simply receive pleasure but at this point, you may want to please your partner first. Ask her to lie down on the soft pillows you have prepared and start making love to her slowly.

This can simply mean massaging her feet and following this up with licking and sucking her toes. After a while, you can start move up her body inch by inch, making sure that no part of her escapes your loving touch.

Tantric foreplay is also about feedback. For instance, not all women want their toes licked and sucked so you should ensure that you are able to gauge if your woman likes what you’re doing or not. You don’t have to be a mind reader. Simply ask her how she feels while doing something.

‘Honey, is what I’m doing working for you?’
‘What do you want me to do next?’
‘Tell me how you want to be loved.’

All of these are questions/comments you can say during tantric foreplay to ensure that your partner is truly enjoying your foreplay session.

Good luck!

Tantric Sex - The Art of Lasting Longer in Bed

As mentioned so many times, Tantric sex is about getting maximum pleasure form your body for the longest possible time. But even then, it ’s not about reaching an orgasm. It ’s about sacred union. In Tantra, sexual energy is used for spiritual growth, healing, and yes, enhanced and extended sexual pleasure.

Tantric Sex Secrets to Make you Last Longer in Bed

The following tips and exercises are not about curing premature ejaculation. At a man ’s best, he can usually probably last a good 45 minutes in bed. But why limit yourself right? As Rock star Sting and his wife previously claimed, they can have up to five or six hours of lovemaking, why not you?

If you think about it, climaxing is actually the result of tension. For instance, because you’re so excited making love to your partner, tension builds up in your pelvis, butt, and/or mind. This then leads to a climax. It ’s thus logical to start with the basics to prevent this unnecessary tension. How? By re-training your body on how to RELAX.

Exercise One: Float. This exercise aims to teach you to ‘go back to basics’ and simply tell your body to chill out.

- Find a comfortable and stress-free space and lie down on your back and close your eyes.
- Lie down comfortably. That is, spread your legs a bit and let your arms fall away from your body (palms up).
- Start from the top of your head. Imagine each hair shaft falling on its own accord, away from your head and resting on the pillow. Imagine your eyes relaxing, unknot your brows. Continue imaging each and every part of your body from head-to-toe getting into a state of relaxation.
- Now imagine the weight of your body pressing down into the earth while being entirely supported all around.
- Just let all the tension in your body be washed completely, allowing all your muscles to relax.
- Now relax your mind. Focus on the slow steady natural rhythm of your breathing and nothing else.
- Just float this way for 20 minutes while you witness what your mind and body experience.

Exercise Two: Tighten and Release. This exercise aims to teach you how to ‘control’ your body. That is, when to induce tension on it and when to deliberately relax it. This is important during intercourse because then when you feel tension, you can command your body to relax.

- Assume the Float position.
- Focus your awareness on your toes, tense them tightly for a moment, and then relax them for several breaths.
- Focus your awareness on your feet, tense them tightly for a moment, and then relax them for several breaths.
- Continue doing the same with your lower legs, thighs, genitals, butt, stomach, lower back, chest, upper back, hands, forearms, upper arms, shoulders, neck, and jaw.
- If you feel tension anywhere in your body, repeat the cycle until you feel relaxed all over.
- Take a few moments just breathing gently and feel the complete sense of relaxation sink in deeply.

Exercise Three: Tantric Belly Breathing

Have you noticed that during sex and you’re all really tensed up and you feel like you’re going to explode, your breathing comes in gasps or in short, dragged breaths? This type of breathing goads you to reach your destination (orgasm) faster. So what if you can command yourself to breathe more evenly? Surely, that would relax your body and prevent climaxing, right? Yes!

- Assume the Float position.
- Remain completely still and relax all your muscles, especially your anal and genital muscles. Press your tongue gently against the roof of your mouth. This will keep your jaw relaxed.
- Observe how fast you’re breathing and feel how deeply each breath goes.
- Now, open your mouth and breathe rhythmically more deeply and slowly. Imagine that your belly is an empty balloon that fills and empties with each relaxing breath.
- Put your hand on your belly and watch it move in and out as you breathe. If your hand isn’t moving, consciously force the air down deeper.
- Now imagine your breath going down into your pelvis, washing, cleansing, and stimulating. As you exhale, imagine it leaving every muscle totally relaxed.

During sex, just when you feel that the sexual tension is going just a bit too far, start Tantric breathing deliberately. Again, imaging each muscle relax as you exhale. This will prolong your orgasm and make you enjoy sex for hours to come!

The 10 Commandments of Attraction

Do you ever wonder what is it that makes some people attract wonderful opportunities and joy to their lives while we sometimes feel that we are “stuck in a rut” and don’t seem to be able to break free? By following the points below, some of which you may identify with, you will discover that there is much more we can do to attract what we wish for in our lives.

1.      You attract your thoughts.

Thoughts are energy. When you tap into a thought it doesn’t mean that it is yours to start with: thoughts don’t really belong to you.

Imagine your mind as a radio - receiving broadcasts from a station you are tuned to - and you will get this idea.

When we hold on to our thoughts and identify with them (e.g. believe that they are the whole reality) we run the risk of stopping the flow for other opportunities, inspiration or information available in the “Universal Mind”. It is like closing the door for new passing-by thoughts and preventing them from resonating with us because our attention is “inwards”.  Like keeping your radio always tuned to the same station. You can no longer “hear” and respond to the Universe, no longer be concerned in the decision-making process of your own life.

When we stop this flow, we lock ourselves into a cycle of repetition which can only be broken when we no longer identify with such thoughts. This is because we can then release the “stagnated” energy locked in them and allow new frequencies to ignite further growth into our lives.

So make sure that you are detached from the thoughts that visit and stay in your mind and if you feel they are “unwelcome tenants”, show them the door!

2.      Be willing to heal your past.

We only have a certain amount of time on this planet. Don’t take it for granted that you will be here tomorrow, that your loved ones will be here tomorrow, that the world will be the same tomorrow. Make the best out of today and have some joy, for joy vibrates at the same frequency of love: joy means that you love yourself enough to allow yourself to expand.

Live everyday as if it was your last. After all, it could be. Don’t let unfinished business drain the energy that you do have and be ready to share unconditionally your gifts and your love. It will come back to you tenfold.

Do you feel someone did you wrong in the past? Forgiving them doesn’t mean that you have to like or love them! It means that you choose to let go of the pain that you carry because of them. Understand that they did the best they could at the time - make peace with your past and forgive yourself.

Wake up, let go of such a slow-death and start living!

3.      Practice intuitive action.

We all have seen people who are always very busy and seem really efficient. But, are they?

If you believe that action for the sake of action will take you “there”, look back at the times in your life when you were busy but may have accomplished little. Then look back at the times in your life when you got an intuition, acted on it and accomplished a lot but in an effortless way. Do you remember whether miraculously the right person or the right circumstance appeared in your life at the right moment helping you leap forward?

Make sure that you create space for silence in your life, even if it is 15 minutes a day. This is the time to get acquainted with the little inner voice of your intuition. In order to master the process of “intuitive action” you will really need to become best friends with that person inside…

And we all know that we always have time for our best friends!

4.      Tap into the power of your intention.

If you don’t channel the energy that you do have by using the focus of your intentions, it will go wild and create whatever it gets attracted to by locking itself to the corresponding frequency somewhere else.

It will bring many undesired circumstances in your life simply because the laws of attraction are working recklessly without your input. If you don’t state to the Universe what you intend to attract, what you want, it is likely that you will be naturally focusing on what you don’t want, so this is what will be presented to you.  Failing that, you will be living the attracting forces of someone else entirely, maybe entirely randomly.

Remember that the Universe never lies. Therefore if you refuse to believe that what is happening to you was attracted by you, start looking at the deeper layers of your reality and find the connections (you can use meditation, mind-mapping or any other contemplative tool). The two things that you will discover are: the areas of self-sabotage and the power within you. In other words, the effective or ineffective use of your power!

5.      Become energy efficient.

Although our energy source is infinite (the Universe) until we learn to tap into it all day, every day, 100% efficiently, each of us has only a certain amount of time, energy and money that we can utilize to make the best of our lives.

Because we are not open to limitless abundance (yet!) we need to make the most of what we do have. So make sure that you put your house in order (sometimes even literally!) and release from your life all the stuff that is no longer useful to you (destroy it or give it away to be recycled). Use the rest of your resources wisely by prioritizing them on the basis of how much happiness, love and fulfilment they bring you.

6.      Map your mind.

When the chatter in your mind is overwhelming and you don’t seem to have the strength to shut it up, off-load all this information, all your worries, by “fixing them” on paper.

Write your thoughts, draw your inner pictures, connect your ideas with colourful lines. Then create links between all these “items” in order to consciously find out what is really bothering you.

When you are able to make peace with all these thoughts by channelling them consciously into their rightful (little) place, they lose their power over you and you are then free to “create” the life you want through a focused approach and a clean new perspective.

7.      Bless your old ways.

Forgive and love your past, the people in your past and the person you used to be yesterday. It has all allowed you to become the person you are today. This is the only way to release the old energy that may still be lurking in your present life.

Since your present was created out of the thought patterns of your past, you may find that in order to create a new and more vibrant future you will need to change those very same patterns.

If you refuse or are unable to change these patterns, ask yourself what is the hidden benefit in holding on to your old self. If you find that you are simply sabotaging yourself from reaching a more successful future due to fear or limitation, bless and love these fears for in them you will find the key to your personal power.

8.      Make effortlessness your new way.

Only when you decide to accept your present such as it is and are voluntarily willing to take responsibility for how you feel about everything and everyone in your life, can you free yourself from the struggle and resistance that are holding you back.

When you choose to love and accept your present without struggle, you will find that you start refusing to obey the commands and threats of your blind-ego and this is when you will get onto an energy “highway” which will propel you towards gigantic leaps forwards.    

9.      Connect with the love-lesson in each situation.

Every situation is a lesson in love. When we are not able to see the part of ourselves, that which we refuse to accept and which is hidden in every circumstance in our lives, no matter how unpleasant of painful these may be, we get caught in the illusion of struggle and effort.

When we identify ourselves with the situation as it “seems” to be and forget that the Universe runs on Love energy, we become victims of a lower frequency (fear, hate, pain, sorrow, self-pity, etc) which is simply the other side of love. Until we learn to transmute these negative feelings into pure love, we lock ourselves in a loop-hole and keep reviving the same experiences again and again.

This is why they say “only love will set you free”. Literally!

10.  Become a clear channel for Spirit.

We all have one single purpose on this Earth: to achieve the complete and full self-expression of who we are every moment, to understand and re-live the divinity inside us, to experience the highest frequencies we are capable of and continuously transition onto higher dimensions while alive and conscious.

When we refuse to follow the demands of our ego or personality and are prepared to become “spiritual executives” at the command of the MD or the Managing Director of this “joint” (the Light, Spirit or God) we then become humble enough to take orders from our Higher Selves.

It is then when we understand that all what we thought we wanted is nothing to do with what we really came here to do. When you surrender to your destiny, to your life-path, to your life-mission, Spirit can use you as a clear channel of communication to transform your own life and the lives of others and to achieve the highest potential at each moment. This is normally traduced in material terms as the effortless road to abundance…

And then you may find that this is what you really always wanted!

ØDo you feel Attractive?

ØAre you able to consistently manifest the things you really wish for into your life?

ØAre you able to magnetize money and abundance?

ØIs happiness something you experience every day of your life or something you merely aspire to?

ØAre your relationships nurturing, loving and supporting?

“Attraction for Success brings you magic and energy. You will learn that Attraction lives in the Now, the place and time where opportunities can find you!”

Cunnilingus Pleasure

Afterwards - Thank You My Darling

For most women a deep emotional and energetic connection is far more important than having lots of orgasms (but lots of orgasms are very nice too!). The superior male lover makes himself emotionally available after lovemaking. This is the time for gentle hugging, kissing and beautiful words of adoration and appreciation for the gifts you have bestowed upon each other.

Creating a Sacred Space - Honoring the God and Goddess

We are all ordinary human beings, and yet we are at once god and goddess, simultaneously flawed and wonderful. In sacred loving each of you brings to it your absolute best, and each of you looks for and expects to find the best in your partner. You treat each other as the god and goddess you actually are. You offer your lovemaking to God as a way to honor Him, to celebrate His love and blessings and to the Goddess for the great abundance that surrounds you. However attractive your lovemaking space is when you start, take 10-15 minutes to transform it by adding fresh flowers or plants, changing the lighting with lots of candles, selecting the perfect music, draping beautiful pieces of cloth over hard edges, bringing in special objects that have emotional or spiritual significance for both of you such as photographs or gifts you have given each other previously.

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Sacred Bathing

Merging in the ocean of consciousness One perfect way to begin a sacred loving time is to bathe together. Place candles around the bathing area; put fresh or dried flower petals in the water, use bath salts, essential oils and fine herbal soaps.

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Exercise: Shallow-Deep Thrusting