Tantric Sex - The Art of Lasting Longer in Bed

As mentioned so many times, Tantric sex is about getting maximum pleasure form your body for the longest possible time. But even then, it’s not about reaching an orgasm. It’s about sacred union. In Tantra, sexual energy is used for spiritual growth, healing, and yes, enhanced and extended sexual pleasure.

Tantric Sex Secrets to Make you Last Longer in Bed

The following tips and exercises are not about curing premature ejaculation. At a man’s best, he can usually probably last a good 45 minutes in bed. But why limit yourself right? As Rock star Sting and his wife previously claimed, they can have up to five or six hours of lovemaking, why not you?

If you think about it, climaxing is actually the result of tension. For instance, because you’re so excited making love to your partner, tension builds up in your pelvis, butt, and/or mind. This then leads to a climax. It’s thus logical to start with the basics to prevent this unnecessary tension. How? By re-training your body on how to RELAX.

Exercise One: Float. This exercise aims to teach you to ‘go back to basics’ and simply tell your body to chill out.

- Find a comfortable and stress-free space and lie down on your back and close your eyes.
- Lie down comfortably. That is, spread your legs a bit and let your arms fall away from your body (palms up).
- Start from the top of your head. Imagine each hair shaft falling on its own accord, away from your head and resting on the pillow. Imagine your eyes relaxing, unknot your brows. Continue imaging each and every part of your body from head-to-toe getting into a state of relaxation.
- Now imagine the weight of your body pressing down into the earth while being entirely supported all around.
- Just let all the tension in your body be washed completely, allowing all your muscles to relax.
- Now relax your mind. Focus on the slow steady natural rhythm of your breathing and nothing else.
- Just float this way for 20 minutes while you witness what your mind and body experience.

Exercise Two: Tighten and Release. This exercise aims to teach you how to ‘control’ your body. That is, when to induce tension on it and when to deliberately relax it. This is important during intercourse because then when you feel tension, you can command your body to relax.

- Assume the Float position.
- Focus your awareness on your toes, tense them tightly for a moment, and then relax them for several breaths.
- Focus your awareness on your feet, tense them tightly for a moment, and then relax them for several breaths.
- Continue doing the same with your lower legs, thighs, genitals, butt, stomach, lower back, chest, upper back, hands, forearms, upper arms, shoulders, neck, and jaw.
- If you feel tension anywhere in your body, repeat the cycle until you feel relaxed all over.
- Take a few moments just breathing gently and feel the complete sense of relaxation sink in deeply.

Exercise Three: Tantric Belly Breathing

Have you noticed that during sex and you’re all really tensed up and you feel like you’re going to explode, your breathing comes in gasps or in short, dragged breaths? This type of breathing goads you to reach your destination (orgasm) faster. So what if you can command yourself to breathe more evenly? Surely, that would relax your body and prevent climaxing, right? Yes!

- Assume the Float position.
- Remain completely still and relax all your muscles, especially your anal and genital muscles. Press your tongue gently against the roof of your mouth. This will keep your jaw relaxed.
- Observe how fast you’re breathing and feel how deeply each breath goes.
- Now, open your mouth and breathe rhythmically more deeply and slowly. Imagine that your belly is an empty balloon that fills and empties with each relaxing breath.
- Put your hand on your belly and watch it move in and out as you breathe. If your hand isn’t moving, consciously force the air down deeper.
- Now imagine your breath going down into your pelvis, washing, cleansing, and stimulating. As you exhale, imagine it leaving every muscle totally relaxed.

During sex, just when you feel that the sexual tension is going just a bit too far, start Tantric breathing deliberately. Again, imaging each muscle relax as you exhale. This will prolong your orgasm and make you enjoy sex for hours to come!

Tantric Sex Techniques to Make You Last Longer in Bed

According to studies, around 75% of women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. Why? For one, it’s because he or she does not know how to properly sexually stimulate her so she never really reaches sexual tension enough to come. Another reason is this: he comes too fast.

Frankly, clinical premature ejaculation is not the issue here. Women simply take longer than men to climax. Period. So how do we bridge this gap? Well, why not engage in exercises that will help you last longer in bed? This way, you’re giving her all the time she needs to get all revved up for a glorious climax.

Tantric Sex Tips n’ Tricks for Lasting Lovemaking

Exercise One: Pressing the Prostate Point (PPP)

Okay, here’s a bit of a male anatomy lesson. Between your testicles and anus is something called the perineum. There’s a soft spot there through which you can apply pressure to your prostate. Now for most men, prostate stimulation reduces the likelihood of cumming involuntarily. This is because it washes out from the prostate gland the fluid that is necessary for ejaculation.

If you push hard enough on your prostate point right before cumming, it actually blocks the emission phase (or ejaculation phase). This exercise prevents seminal fluid from entering the urethral canal when your orgasmic spasms start. Even if you have orgasmic contractions, the semen remains inside your body and is re-absorbed. This is also known as having a Dry Orgasm and no, nit’s not painful!

- Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
- Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeing begin to ebb away.
- Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
- Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeing begin to ebb away.
- Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
- Locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. However, this time, try to continue stroking yourself as you do this.
- Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

Exercise Two: Root Lock

Inside your body, at the base of your penis is the muscle called pubococcygeus. People fondly call it PC for short. This exercise teaches you to use your PC muscles to delay ejaculation.
To perform a Root Lock, hold your breath momentarily and push your pelvic muscles out like straining to empty your bowels. Some claim they prefer pushing ‘in’ rather than out but that’s all up to you really.

- Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
- Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your asshole until your arousal ebbs away.
- Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
- Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your asshole until your arousal ebbs away.
- Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
- Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your asshole until your arousal ebbs away. But this time, contract your anal muscles inward and upward while pulling your stomach toward your spine. Which works better for you, in or out?
- Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

By now, you should be realizing that tension in whatever way, shape of form, is your ‘enemy’. So each time you make love to her, and you feel that you’re reaching a sexual peak that can easily lead you to orgasm, delay your cumming and wait for her will you?

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