Tantra Kundalini
According to the philosophy of Tantra, the entire universe is a manifestation of pure consciousness. In manifesting the universe, this pure consciousness seems to become divided into two poles or aspects, neither of which can exist without the other.
One aspect, Shiva, is masculine, retains a static quality and remains identified with unmanifested consciousness. Shiva has the power to be but not the power to become or change.
The other aspect, Shakti, is feminine, dynamic, energetic and creative. Shakti is the Great Mother of the universe, for it is from her that all form is born.
According to Tantra, the human being is a miniature universe. All that is found in the cosmos can be found within each individual, and the same principles that apply to the universe apply in the case of the individual being.
In human beings, Shakti, the feminine aspect is called Kundalini. This potential energy is said to rest at the base of the spinal cord. The object of the Tantric practice of Kundalini-yoga is to awaken this cosmic energy and make it ascend through the psychic centres, the chakras, that lie along the axis of the spine as consciousness potentials. She will then unite above the crown of the head with Shiva the pure consciousness. This union is the aim of Kundalini-yoga: a resolution of duality into unity again, a fusion with the Absolute. By this union the adept attains liberation while living which is considered in Indian life to be the highest experience: an union of the individual with the universe.
In Tantrism the state of ultimate bliss is a transcendence of dualities male-female, energy-consciousness, Shiva-Shakti…
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At the same time, sex is often regarded with an equal measure of fear and fascination. We may crave sexual intimacy to the core of our being, yet also take great pains to avoid it. We may wish to be touched with all of our heart, yet fear our own vulnerability. We may long to rekindle lost passion, but have forgotten how to light the fire.
The practice of Tantra shows us how to reclaim the sexual intimacy that is our birthright. And through this most ancient of arts, we may discover new joys of the erotic and expand mere moments of sexual ecstasy into a lifetime of sexual bliss. At a time when the stresses, fears and distractions of daily life threaten so many relationships, the age-old practice of Tantra shows us how to open our hearts, our emotions and our sexuality.
What Is Tantra?
Although Tantra has long been practiced in many eastern cultures, it is just beginning to flourish in the United States. Born in India more than 6,000 years ago, Tantra emerged as a rebellion against organized religion, which held that sexuality should be rejected in order to reach enlightenment.
Tantra challenged the acetic beliefs of that time, purporting that sexuality was a doorway to the divine, and that earthly pleasures, such as eating, dancing and creative expression were sacred acts.
The word Tantra means "to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave." In this context, sex is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male (represented by the Hindu god, Shiva), and female (embodied by the Hindu goddess, Shakti), into a harmonious whole.
Couples need not adopt the Tantric pantheon in order to benefit from the sexual wisdom of this ancient art. Tantric sexual practices teach us to prolong the act of making love and to utilize potent orgasmic energies more effectively.
Tantra is also health enhancing. "Sexual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health," says Christiane Northrup, M.D., author of "Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom."
"By using sexual energy consciously…we can tap into a true source of youth and vitality."
How Is Tantric Sex Unique?
In the West, we sometimes view sex as a source of recreation rather than a means of transformation. The goal may be to reach orgasm rather than to pleasure our lover or to connect with him or her more fully.
In the Tantric model, the sexual experience is seen as a dance with no beginning or end. There is no goal, only the present moment of exquisite union. For this reason, lovemaking is meditative, expressive and intimate. Tantra teaches lovers how to extend the peak of their sexual ecstasy so that women and men can experience several orgasms in a single sexual encounter.
Leading teachers of Tantra suggest that even men who experience premature ejaculation can learn how to extend orgasm, and, with practice, to enjoy multiple orgasms. One of the most well known advocates of Tantra is the musician, Sting, who credits his fulfilling sex life to this ancient art. With ingredients such as love, trust and mutual respect, the magic of Tantra is available to couples of all ages and levels of sexual experience.
Beginning Tantric Sex Techniques
The following exercises will help you reconnect with your body and with your partner in a profound way. As you move through these steps, do not focus on intercourse as the ultimate goal. Instead, simply enjoy giving and receiving pleasure using gentle touch and loving words.
Communicate with your lover to discover what he or she finds most arousing. Try to spend several weeks practicing the Tantric Intimacy Exercises without necessarily engaging in intercourse. For many, experiencing these erotic exercises with no pressure to "go all the way" helps release sexual guilt, builds trust and reawakens sexual desire. Enjoy!
Tantric Sex — Welcoming Love
Make time for each other every week. Plan a sexual rendezvous at least once per week. Set aside an hour or more of uninterrupted time to be together. Although it may be difficult to find the time or to manage children, you won’t be able to benefit from Tantra if your relationship is not a priority.
Create an inviting atmosphere. Whether you meet in your bedroom, living room or another space in your house, creating a sacred space for each other will help relax you and bring you into the moment. Candles, fresh flowers, erotic art, finger foods and tantalizing aromas can transform any room into a temple of sexual delight. Even something as simple as dimming the lights and playing erotic music will help create a welcoming environment.
Dress provocatively. Or, wear nothing at all. Experiment with clothing or accessories that make you feel sexy and excite your partner.
Tantric Intimacy Exercises
Use ritual to develop intimacy. Begin your journey with a ritual. This may be something as simple as feeding each other delicious foods or sharing a glass of wine in the nude. Some couples enjoy bathing together in order to attune to each other.
Take time to wash each other with loving care. Water relaxes the body and is a symbol of sexuality. Massaging each other is also an excellent way to fuse your energies. Or, read poetry to each other, dance, play, listen to music—work on developing new intimacy skills. Most importantly, use this time to communicate,sharing what you adore about each other. The idea is to help each partner feel loved and cherished.
In order to fully focus on each other (rather than on the goal of sex), some lovers experiment with various intimate rituals for several weeks before moving on to the next steps or engaging in intercourse. This is a wonderful way to strengthen the bonds of love and ignite passion.
Harmonize your breathing. "The only time we ever think about breathing is when we have trouble doing it, yet conscious breathing can be a powerful aid in sexual growth," according to sex therapist Marty Klein, Ph.D. of Palo Alto, California. Breathing exercises also quiet the mind and help you focus on each other.
Try this exercise: Sit quietly, cross-legged, facing each other. Rest your hands on your knees with your palms facing up. As you gaze into your partner’s eyes, take soft, but deep breaths. Keep your eyes open, gazing beyond the eyes, into the soul. Although this may feel awkward at first, sustained eye contact is essential for building intimacy.
Now, pay attention to your breathing. Begin to breathe at the same pace, bringing air slowly in through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. Maintain eye contact while you breathe together. Practice this exercise until you can sustain eye contact and harmonized breathing for about 10 minutes. Then, you may move into the next exercise.
Experiment with erotic touch to fully appreciate your partner. This most pleasurable practice will help you become better lovers. Although you should continue to maintain eye contact, don’t worry about keeping your breath synchronized. Breath will come back into play later. Guide your partner as you take turns stimulating each other. Describe exactly how you would like to be touched.
Share your desires in an encouraging way, making requests in a clear and loving manner. For example, ask your lover to caress your clitoris or penis (or any erogenous zone), encouraging him or her to apply more or less pressure, to stroke in a specific pattern, to use the tongue, etc. Thank your lover and let him or her know with words or sounds that you are enjoying this sensual touch.
Once you become comfortable with this process, you may wish to create a "pleasure chest." Include whatever excites you and your partner—a feather, vibrator, massage oil, blindfold, soft fabric, erotica and loving notes to each other are just a few ideas. As you pleasure each other, don’t be shy about asking for something different. This is your time for appreciation, experimentation and for taking responsibility for your own fulfillment by asking for what you want.
From here, you may wish to embark on your own erotic journey. Create amorous adventures together, exploring new and creative ways to awaken each other’s bodies and minds. Then, you will be ready for Tantric lovemaking.
Basic Tantric Sex Techniques
The Tantric tradition emphasizes preparation for lovemaking. Erotic rituals such as those described above focus on exchanging pleasures, awakening the senses and allowing couples to communicate on deep physical and emotional levels.
During this time, lovers are able to establish an intimate connection that can be maintained and heightened as they transition into the sexual dimension. Intimacy exercises are a form of extended foreplay, helping titillate lovers for the sex that is to come and create the optimal conditions for Tantric lovemaking.
As you experiment with Tantric techniques, don’t worry whether you are doing something the "right" way. Tantra does not judge right or wrong, good or bad. Ultimately, your pleasure is what matters most.
Moving Toward Sexual Bliss
As you transition into sex, the idea is to maintain a state of sexual ecstasy for as long as possible. Tantric lovemaking is not result-oriented, but rather, timeless and unstructured.
Maintain a deep level of intimacy. Continue to gaze into each other’s eyes as much as possible. Sprinkle your lover’s face, neck and shoulders with light kisses and whisper words of love and encouragement. Help each other feel loved and desired.
Keep it slow. A long, slow build helps men control orgasm and piques women’s arousal. According to Tantric teacher, Robert Frey, the longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer men can resist ejaculation. During this time, focus on each other. If your thoughts should wander, gently bring your attention back to the present, concentrating on your lover and the magic of the moment at hand.
Bring your attention back to your breath. Resist the urge to breathe quickly. Quick breathing or panting creates arousal, speeding you toward orgasm. Instead, take long, slow, deep breaths from the belly, exhaling gradually. You may match your breath to that of your partner, or try breathing alternately—as you inhale, your partner exhales. This moves energy back and forth and connects you to your lover.
Vary your positions to explore your duality. Different sex positions add to sexual pleasure and balance male and female energies. When lovers release themselves from gender roles, they are free to engage in deeper, more intimate sex. Men realize their sexual potential through surrender, by being soft and open, gentle and vulnerable. Women, in turn, can direct and initiate. As you experiment with different positions, some male-dominant, some female-dominant, explore your capacity to be strong and gentle, generous and receptive.
Multiple Orgasms for Men
Tantric sex distinguishes between the experiences of orgasm and ejaculation. Although they often happen at the same time, men are capable of having orgasms without ejaculating. Ejaculatory control is what makes it possible for Tantric lovers to capture and extend the magical energy of orgasm. By holding back, men can experience a series of "mini-orgasms."
This does not mean that you are never to ejaculate, but that you can control your climax. The essence, say Tantric experts, is to catch a wave of energy and to surf the edge without going over. Use these strategies to stay atop the wave:
Pump the PC muscles. The pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, which run from your public bone to your tailbone, are the ultimate sex muscles. These are the same muscles used to stop the flow of urine. If properly conditioned, the PCs enable you to stop ejaculation while continuing to enjoy sex. Kegel exercises are the best way to tone the PCs.
Here’s how: Contract your PC muscles three times per day, squeezing 20 to 25 repetitions. This is a simple exercise that you can do at anytime. Just don’t overdo it. After a month of conditioning, try to extend the squeeze, holding each contraction for two seconds. Gradually work up to 10 seconds. Once your PCs are in top shape, you will be able to pump them in order to ride the orgasmic wave without gliding over the brink too soon.
Relax. Although it sounds paradoxical, it’s important for men to stay relaxed during high states of arousal. If you feel the undulations of ejaculation, take a slow, deep breath and stop making love long enough for your arousal to subside. Relax and try to direct energy from your penis up through your body.
Take this time to talk to your partner or to draw several slow, deep breaths. By experimenting, you will discover how much "time out" you require before catching the next wave. The idea is to allow yourself enough time for the intensity to subside, but not so much that you lose your erection.
Put it all together. When you and your partner make love, thrust slowly, allowing your arousal to build gradually. Before your excitement mounts, relax for a moment, tighten your PC muscles and take a deep breath. Resume your lovemaking, continuing to generate excitement.
Then, relax again, hold your PCs and breathe. Continue to ride this swell until you near the crest. Then, open your eyes, clamp down on your PC muscles and take a deep breath to experience the joy of orgasm without ejaculating. Since these techniques take practice, expect a few "wipe outs" before you achieve mastery.
Freeing Female Orgasm
It is often said that a woman’s most powerful sex organ lies between her ears. Since desire can be short-circuited by fear, guilt, stress and a host of other distracting thoughts, women often need to concentrate on feeling rather than thinking when making love. Taking breaks to pleasure each other, manually and orally, is a great way to ward off any lingering diversions and to coax one or more orgasms.
Clitoral stimulation. Most women require stimulation of the clitoris and labia (the inner lips surrounding the clitoris) during sex to reach orgasm. Prolonged clitoral touch with a gentle, patient hand is, for many, the key to sexual ecstasy. Use sounds and positive words to guide your lover, showing your partner how to stroke you just so.
The sacred spot. The mythic Grafenberg Spot (G-spot) is referred to in Tantra as the "sacred spot." This potent and mysterious erogenous zone is located about two to three inches up on the front side of the vaginal channel. When your lover is aroused, slip your ring finger into her vagina allowing your fingertip to brush against the inner wall.
The G-spot is between the size of a pea and a quarter with a slightly rippled texture. For some women, though not for all, gentle stimulation can induce powerful orgasms and even female ejaculate. However, take care not to over-stimulate this sensitive spot.
Tantric Sex — A School of Many Courses
According to Tantric philosophy, lovers who have practiced these ancient techniques can learn to direct sexual energy through the body’s "chakras," or energy centers. Moving the energy of orgasm through these physical channels is thought to create sensations of ecstasy throughout the body and to enhance health.
There is much to learn about this ancient art. "Tantra is a school of many courses in which there are many levels of study and an unlimited degree of potential for spiritual gain, for sexual delight, and for worldly success," state Charles and Caroline Muir, authors of "Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving." Although they caution that Tantra does not promise instant results, for couples who wish to enrich their relationship, these practices "can release a particular kind of energy that can bring about harmony…and increase sexual pleasure and intimacy."
Tantric philosophy also teaches that everything is to be experienced playfully, yet with awareness and a sense of sacredness in every gesture, every sensory perception, and every action.
A Spiritual Path
The path of Tantra is a spiritual one, which includes and appreciates the experience of our sexuality and sensuality as a conscious meditation, as a flowing together of the physical, erotic and cosmic energies.
If you were a devoted student of tantric philosophy, you would go through an extensive program of physical, sexual and mental exercises to heighten your sensory awareness. Through slow and thoughtful practice in lovemaking techniques you would learn to comfortably extend the time of lovemaking. In this way you would train yourself to be aware of not only your own feelings but also those of your partner.
The spiritual part of tantra is to use your sexual energy to merge ecstatically with your partner and through him or her to become one with the cosmos or god.
How Tantric Sex Works
A heterosexual couple practicing tantric intercourse seeks to prolong their sexual arousal. Following slow sensual touching a couple might move to having very slow intercourse. The man might place his penis just an inch or so inside his partner’s vagina and without thrusting allow it to remain in this position for a full minute. Then he may gently withdraw from her vagina and rest his penis softly on her clitoral area.
Usually the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a female’s genitals and it is located just above the vaginal opening. After resting in this position for another minute the couple may decide to have him again slide his penis back in.
During subsequent cycles of resting and entering the vagina, the male would rest outside the vagina and then eventually rest just inside the vagina. During the rest times, the couple might just lie silently together, or gently caress each other as they focus on the experience of their union. Throughout this experience both partners may be highly aroused, hovering close to the point of reaching orgasm on several occasions.
Prolonging the Pleasure
The art of prolonging the pleasures of lovemaking without reaching orgasm is described in the Kama Sutra, the Hindu sex manual written in the 4th century, (and available in many bookstores).
"Karezza" is the term used to define a male’s practice of pleasuring his partner and prolonging their intercourse by perpetuating his state of climax without actually ejaculating. These so called "dry orgasms", orgasms without ejaculation, are pleasurable, and still allow the sexual act to continue.
The art of Karezza incorporates breathing control, meditation, work with postures, and finger pressure into the sexual act. Though sexually biased in its description as written (remember it was the 4th Century), the original focus of Karezza, prolonging the state of climax for a couple’s mutual enjoyment, easily translates to both partners actively participating in learning to prolong their enjoyment before reaching orgasm.
Tantric Sex
On the joys of sexual ecstasy through Tantra.
Sexual exploration is a basic human instinct and most of us will wander into the secret garden of less familiar sexual experiences to feed our erotic hunger. If you and your partner are looking for something new, Tantric sex could be the ideal adventure.
Tantra (a Sanskrit word meaning "woven together") can be loosely defined as a system of Hindu yoga which worships the union of men and women. Although a gay interpretation of Tantra is perfectly possible, historically the movement has its roots in the heterosexual physical and spiritual union of man and woman which leads to a form of sexual ritual where slow, non-orgasmic sex is believed to be a path to experience the divine.
Tantra is an ancient Hindu practice which mixes meditation and non-orgasmic sex to attain a state of perfect bliss. The skill is in developing ways of delaying orgasm and manipulating our ability to control the climax. In Tantra the body is the vessel of truth and according to prophet Ratnasara "He who realises the truth of the body can come to know the truth of the universe."
The ritual is based on activating the human energy centres, Chakras, which hold the potential to reach ‘cosmic awareness’. The human body is thought to have 6 main Chakras (base of spine, near navel, near heart, near throat, between brows and most importantly genitals) each of which represents a gateway to higher energy. Tantric rituals emphasise the need to open up these energy points in order to harmonise the flow of energy throughout the body to help achieve an elevated state of sexual awareness. Practioners claim that Tantric sex can not only significantly improve your all-round physical health, but it can also help create a feeling of inner peace and harmony.
How To Experience Tantra
In principal, everyone is capable of having Tantric sex. In practice, (officianados insist) truly satisfying Tantra requires clear thinking, commitment and patience. A certain amount of re-thinking of existing sexual ideas is necessary. For a start, you’ll need to dismiss the notion (if you have one) that the end goal of sex is to have a great orgasm (or three!). Orgasm is only one aspect of the sexual act and Tantra emphasises the art of making love and two energy fields cojoining to create ultra powerful sexual energy.
In keeping with the old adage ‘good things come to those who wait’, Tantra teaches patience and preparation are the keys to greater sexual enjoyment.
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TANTRIC SEX is meditative, spontaneous and intimate lovemaking Through it you learn to prolong the act of making love and to channel, rather than dissipate. potent orgasmic energies moving through you, thereby raising the level of your consciousness. Tantra transports your sexuality from the plane of doing to the place of being. There is no goal in Tantric sex, only the present moment of perfect and harmonious union. Tantra teaches you to revere your sexual partner and to transform the act of sex into a sacrament of love.
Tantra teaches that lovemaking between a man and woman, when entered into with awareness, is a gateway to both sexual and spiritual ecstasy. In India, traditional Tantrikas spent many years under the guidance of a spiritual teacher and engaged in elaborate yogic rituals to purify and master the body and mind. These practices were intended to awaken the powerful psychic energies through which the adept could enter into higher states of consciousness When a disciple was deemed ready he or she partook in sexual rites with a partner.
Through the sacred act of love, they sought to merge the dual nature of their sexuality into an ecstatic union. Through this came the harmonization of their own internal masculine and feminine polarities and a realization of the blissful nature of the Self.
The people who know Tantric sex techniques, and practice them, consider Tantric sex a vehicle to higher consciousness. Sexuality is one of the biggest blind spots modern cultures have. That fact alone makes sexual practices very important to the transformation of the individual and society. Tantric sexual practices occur with eyes wide open, with ritual and communication and honoring of the male and female essences.
How can I delay my ejaculations?
Premature ejaculation can be a complex issue. Generally it is recommended that the man go through a process of elimination in considering possible causes. First eliminate any significant physical causes, especially if you also have an inability to maintain erections. This will require seeing a doctor for an appropriate examination. Secondly, consider the state of your health: are you out of shape? Is your circulatory system in poor condition? Have you been under sustained chronic stress and is your nervous system strained? If so, (circulation or nerves) the genital system may not be able to handle the energetic charge of sexual excitement. Remember also that there are muscles involved in addition to nerves carrying more charge and the capillary beds of the penis being engorged with blood. Muscles require exercise to stay in shape for lasting awhile.
Next, consider psychological issues: the most common cause of premature ejaculation. Do you worry about your sexual performance? Are you feeling insecure or inadequate about yourself as a man in sex, as well as other important areas of your life? Or (the next most common issue): Are you uptight? Are you secretly harboring resentments and grievances about your lover? Question yourself deeply to make certain that you aren’t keeping such feelings secret from yourself as well! Are you sitting on a powder keg of anger about other injustices in your life, and are you trying hard not to be angry? Repressed feelings can significantly contribute to premature ejaculation or even more likely to no erections. Do you hold your breath before, leading up to, and during lovemaking? Is your body tight, especially neck, jaw, shoulders, and pelvis? Are you tense? If you have psychological and somatic issues such as these, definitely get competent counseling or therapy. I also recommend Reichian, Bioenergetics, or Rebirthing breathwork sessions in addition to counseling.
Learn and practice the "Orgasm Reflex" breathing or the "Firebreath Orgasm." Practice gently yet firmly squeezing the (Kegel) muscles between your anus and genitals. Learn to Tantrically pleasure yourself instead of masturbating. Learn to bring the energy and excitement up and away from your erection as you near the "point of no return." Then learn to circulate that energy and contain it in your heart chakra and 3rd eye. Focus on the inner energy experience instead of photos in magazines or fantasies, etc. It may be challenging at first as you make this shift. Practice on yourself in a loving, focused, sacred way. Pleasure yourself and learn to partner with your excitement and aroused energy. Train yourself to do this before you attempt it with a partner. Here also educational material is helpful. (Such as the books Sexual Energy Ecstasy and The Art of Sexual Ecstasy and the DVDs Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy and The Art of Orgasm). Tantric workshops, particularly the ones offered in Northern California, where this work has been pioneered and long taught, can be even more helpful.
Sometimes the female partner can be contributing to premature ejaculation by the way her own energy moves or doesn’t. She can help him by slowing down, relaxing, and circulating her energy, while encouraging him to also slow down, relax, and breathe deeply and slowly. Together they can practice moving the energy up through the chakras. Several of the videos and books can be helpful with this (see above). If she is harboring resentments or critical judgments, that too can be an important influence and must be dealt with in a professional way to create healing and a space for unconditional love.
Finally, learn Tantra!! Learn the energy circulation methods of classical Tantra and Taoism and practice, practice, practice!! Train yourself to be skillful at moving that energetic charge away from the genitals and learn to extend the excitement throughout the body and mind. Learn to use that energy to raise your vibration and move into altered, expanded states of loving consciousness.
Introduction to The Essential Tantra
Tantra is an Eastern spiritual philosophy. Initially coming to us from approximately third and fourth century C.E. India, this experiential examination of existence evolved from many roots in antiquity and was adapted and modified in a myriad of subcultures and religions. Both India and Tibet, both Hinduism and Buddhism, have many variants of tantra. Chinese Taoism and tantra have many resemblances. Indeed, in their popular evolutions in the modern West, these two philosophical systems are often mingled into a single framework.
Tantra, a Sanskrit word, is similar to our concept of weaving. "The web of life" and "the interconnectedness of all that is" are useful connotations for understanding tantra as a philosophy. My simplified version is "embracing all" or "acceptance of all."
In general, this philosophy emphasizes practical, experiential approaches. Central to the many variations is this teaching: Rather than being obstacles, our sensory experiences can be a path to spiritual wholeness, to atonement.
In stark contrast to beliefs of atonement, so dearly held in our modern Western religions, tantra teaches neither the flesh as inherently evil nor the spirit as inherently good.
In tantra, it is the body and the senses that provide vehicles for us to go beyond the duality of evil and good. Learning to perceive and transform subtle energies, we can rediscover essence, which is the sacred connection of everything.
A story about the three main schools of thought in Buddhism conveys the meaning of transformation.
A practitioner of one school is walking down the path of life. Upon seeing a poisonous plant in the middle of the path, the practitioner turns around to follow another route.
A practitioner of the second school is walking down the same path and also sees the poisonous plant. Instead of turning back in the opposite direction, this practitioner cautiously detours slightly around the poisonous plant, sort of like letting a sleeping dog lie, and continues on down the path.
A practitioner of the third school, also on the same path, upon seeing the plant says, "Yes, now I can learn about this poison." He or she then sits down and begins to consume the plant.
Applying powerful transformational skills gained over many years of meditation, the practitioner is able to become at-one with the essence of the plant and the poison. And the poison is no longer poisonous, for the poison and the practitioner are no longer different or opposite. They are no longer in disharmony.
Here we have transformed our emotions into a willingness to connect with what we are avoiding (the poison). We have also transformed our emotions into a willingness to let go of what we are grasping (continued life).
Moreover, we have transformed ourselves so we have the ability to resonate our energies in harmony with the essence of others’ energies. Even potentially harmful energies (here the poisonous chemical) cease being harmful because with conscious intent we are able to vibrate our energies in the same patterns as the poison’s. Energetically, we become the same as the poison.
Shiva’s Spider
Every morning, with appropriate prayers and gestures, a plate of food is set before his altar, prepared by local villagers who try to keep Shiva constantly in their thoughts during both the cooking and serving.
Above the food, a spider, born in the temple, has woven her web. It hangs from the flames, extending itself from Shiva’s outstretched hands to his smoothly turned ankle. Flawless, the web furls out like a breath of divine wind about the statue’s metal shoulders.
When the offering is fruit — golden papayas, blushing mangoes, bunches of tiny bananas, sunbursts of orange sections on platters garlanded with flowers — the spider finds tiny fruit flies in her web. When the food was mounds of rice and vegetables flecked with cardamon or poppy seeds, steaming and spiced, her web catches black-bodied house flies.
Each day, as the food rests on the altar, a miracle takes place. The God enters his image and consumes the offering, yet no food is eaten. What nourishes Shiva is the sight of the food, artfully placed on platters, the odors arising from the mixture of fruits, vegetables, rice and spices, and the love with which it has been served. As he eats, Shiva blesses the offering, those who cooked it, the farmers who have grown it, and the land from which it has been harvested. The devout villagers return at dusk to take the prasad, or blessed food away. Eating it, they take the blessing into their bodies. These acts of giving and receiving keep the gate open between the worlds of the gods and that of the village.
One morning, an elderly woman prepared the food and placed it on the altar. She chanted as she backed and bowed her way out of the temple, her hands held together over her chest, her long gray hair in a single braid down her back. Each word she sang was linked to the next like birdsong, exactly as her grandmother had taught her, and exactly as her grandmother’s grandmother had been taught.
Destroyer of ignorance,
You open my heart,
Loot my flesh,
Claim me as tribute.
My whole being is a gift
For my Lord, white as jasmine.
As soon as she had gone, even before the beaded curtain in the temple doorway stopped swaying, a hungry fly flew in and made straight for the altar. With fly’s eyes, it saw the plates of food multiplied hundreds of times.
Buzzing between Shiva’s bliss-bestowing hands and his raised knee, the fly was about to alight on a mango slice when it struck one of the almost invisible sticky threads. It twisted and turned, one wing caught fast, the other still whirling. Along with the many plates of food, its lenses now watched a kaleidoscope of spiders emerge from behind Shiva’s right ear and slip down the web.
The spider glided to the struggling fly and spoke to it with tenderness. Welcome to the house of Lord Shiva, she said beginning to wrap silken threads around the fly. "You are so beautiful. No one ever told you that? A pity. Ah, that wing is sticking. Let me make it safe. A little tight? Such a large and lovely wing. You must be the wonder of wonders among your brothers and sisters. Can you put your head back a little? That’s better. Good. Now, are you able to move? No? Well then, rest my beautiful one. Know that for now you have never been more admired."
The fly thrashed, its eyes jerked back and forth.
"To struggle against your own karma is unseemly," the spider continued. "If life is transitory, does it not follow that death will be as well?" The spider moved delicately back along a silken strand until she could see the whole fly suspended in her webbing. "If it is true, " she said, "that everything given freely to Shiva becomes prashad, offer yourself. As you begin your final sleep, become a blessing."
The fly stopped moving. Its eyes glazed. As the spider finished her wrapping, she sang one of the many songs she had heard as she sat behind Lord Shiva’s ear.
Hold and withhold blessings,
Burning with passion,
wander
Through worlds uncounted
Loving my Lord, white as jasmine.
After the spider consumed the fly, she carefully repaired her web. Satisfied, she climbed up the web to the crevice behind Shiva’s bronze ear.
Every day, the spider protected the offerings. Always, before and after her own supper, she sang hymns of praise to Shiva. During the hottest part of each afternoon, she napped. At night, when the temple was silent and nothing moved — only the flame from one tiny lamp — she’d curl her legs under her, tuck herself tightly into a tiny fold of Shiva’s metal skin, go to sleep and dream spider dreams.
Outside the temple, one season gave way to the next. The last dry winds of winter ended and the soft rains of spring began. The summer was hot, as always, and the villagers worked in a haze of their own sweat in their fields and in the gardens beside their small homes. Shiva’s platters were especially bountiful, curried vegetables, samosas, chapatis, saffron rice with raisins and cashews, bordered with ripe fruits from the orchards, smooth and rough-skinned vegetables from the gardens, and garnished with flowers of many kinds and colors. In the fall, day after day, the clouds emptied themselves against the edges of the mountains until the paths from the village to the fields were streams of mud, and even the stone steps to the temple were covered with slick wet soil. The flowers were fewer, the fruits smaller. Some days there was only rice cooked with rose water and cinnamon.
Then, one day, after the last of the wheat had been harvested and the clouds hung close to the ground, so the mountains, like giant grandfathers sitting together in the distance, could not be seen, the whole village awoke, knowing it was the day to clean Shiva’s temple. They assembled before the temple doorway, some carrying mops or small branch brooms, others with buckets of clear water and rags. A few held bundles of fresh-cut rushes to patch the roof, and lengths of wood to replace portions softened by termites. And, of course, some had musical instruments, for this was as much a festival as a cleaning. There were many chants and songs and, from time to time, the men or the woman danced. There was much joking and laughing; young boys and girls teased each other, and children played under everyone’s feet.
Garlands of flowers were hung from every roof beam. The lamps were cleaned and filled with fresh ghee. Everyone ate whenever they wished, dipping their hands into huge platters of steaming spiced rice and taking fruit from great ceramic bowls. The scent of freshly ground cloves and pulverized cardamon mixed with the almost invisible smoke from the sandalwood incense. Young girls sprinkled sandalwood oil on the walls and on themselves as well.
Outside, the paths were swept and re-swept. The steps were scrubbed till each darkened stone was again light brown. The roof was patched outside and in. Everything that clung to the eves was scraped off; the wood was scrubbed and oiled till it shone. Mops swished back and forth across the stone floor like wind passing through the leaves of the Banyan trees.
From her perch, the spider watched it all. She was agitated by the noise, the conflicting odors, and the great number of people. Bits of debris flying into her web set the strands vibrating and startled her. She’d race toward the disturbance, and then, seeing it was only a fleck of dirt she’d settle back down.
A man lifted his small son up onto the altar. He took a faded strip of cloth from his waistband and handed it to the boy. The child’s bare feet gripped the edge of the altar as he wrapped the rag loosely around one hand. As he wiped away the dust, he broke strand after strand of the spider’s web.
The spider pushed herself deeper into the shadows behind Shiva’s ear lobe. In hushed tones, she chanted the many names of Shiva, folded her legs under her furry body, and watched. He wiped and polished the ring of flames, the dwarf demon under Shiva’s feet, the legs of Shiva himself. The dull, blackened metal brightened under his hand. Where the touches of the faithful had worn through, the exposed golden bronze now shone like sunlight on water.
The boy moved to the back of the statue, his little cloth buffing Shiva’s tiny waist and broad back. The spider felt the vibrations and trembled. The boy worked his way up to Shiva’s necklace and his headdress spread out like curled peacock feathers above his shoulders. The spider pulled in her legs, trying to make herself as small as possible. She felt the heat from the boy’s body as his hands moved toward the statue’s neck.
Suddenly, unable to control herself, the spider raced from her hiding place and scurried along the exposed polished arm. The boy’s head turned toward her; she could feel his eyes lock onto her. She dashed ahead onto Shiva’s open palm, up to the end of his fingertips, then back again into his palm.
Then, with no place left to run, she looked up into the face of Shiva and recalled her own words, spoken so often to terrified flies: "Unseemly to struggle … in the house of Lord Shiva." As the boy raised his rag-covered hand, she repeated the words of a young man who had asked for Shiva’s blessing before going into the army.
Wherever I go, the way is blessed.
She breathed deeply, sighed, and made herself ready for death.
The shadow of the rag moved over her. But as it did, Shiva’s metal fingers, blackened by the centuries, rose up around her like the bars of a cage and closed, encasing her in total darkness.
How long she lay imprisoned, she never knew. When Shiva’s hand opened again, it was night. The temple was empty. Every wooden surface glistened with sandalwood oil. Vases of fresh flowers surrounded the altar, itself covered with new white cotton fabric. The small lamp sent panels of pale light onto the polished walls and ceiling.
She looked up into the face of Shiva. In the center of his forehead, she saw a single open eye and then, she heard a voice.
you are no less
than food and flowers
I daily bless.
For just a moment, the spider looked down at her feet. When she looked again at Shiva’s forehead she saw only the dull luster of the ever-present jewel, looking as it always had
As she climbed back up his arm toward her nesting place, she sang, as loud as a spider can sing:
Lord of the caves,
Consort of Shakti,
Lord, white as jasmine.
I am your servant,
Living proof of your grace.
Back behind his great ear, she chanted Shiva’s names until she fell deeply asleep. In the hour before dawn, she felt Shiva come to her and hold her in four living arms. Even in sleep, she knew this was no dream.
BIO: Dr. James Fadiman, is a distinguished psychologist, consultant, and author. He is the past president of the Association for Transpersonal Psychology, past president of the Institute of Noetic Sciences and an individual who is extremely well known in the field of humanistic psychology for the last twenty years.

